How would you know if they're in denial, if they have never experienced it before?
Any tests that can be done to find out? (apart from jealousy-gets very jealous when I mention other girls).
Has started acting weird towards me, when I ask why, says she's tired, has a lot on her mind,feeling a bit down. Has only gone weird with me, no one else. When I ask if she wants me not to get in touch with her for awhile i.e.reply to her txts/not meet up, she ignores the question. Is she implying yes?
Whats up? Could I have done something (as a bloke we're not always aware of this!)?
We're very close, (has said we'll only remain friends after we kissed once). I encourage her to get with someone she likes (always says there is no one, tells me she never pulls, etc), we chat about everything, meet regulary etc...
p.s. she always txts me first/gets in contact with me (90%)
2006-10-25 22:08:00 · 15 answers · asked by Machine 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Would there be any physical actions (apart from kissing/sex)?
Would staring into each others eyes while smiling over the table mean anything?
How can I get her to open up-she says there's nothing there.
2006-10-25 22:18:21 · update #1
What's the best way to play it?
2006-10-25 23:31:07 · update #2
omg!! your names not david is it :S im in that girls position..... my close male friend has been acting exactly like u are but hes just getting me confused... one day i realise i lyk him as just a friend and then the next im like woah wtf i fink i realy like him but since we had an arguement and hadn spoke 2 each other i realised how much i missed him and how much i liked him sooo... what i fink u should do is not talk to her for 2 days max cause ovawise us gals get paranoid lol and after those 2 days you will know how much u like her and i think u should ask her then if she missed u or if she cares lots for you. if no answer then shesstill confused but then talk to her asking if she feels confused and she jus mite open up 2 u then. wheras this hashelped me (not talking to lad im mates with) beause i realised how much i lyk him and im going to tell him :D
good luck xxx
2006-10-25 23:26:15 · answer #1 · answered by ♥abi♥ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi there, I 've just been through what on the face of it seems to be an identical situation, and there isn't a happy ending sadly.
Everything you describe was happenning to me, I was getting very mixed messages from her for weeks..you know the story! We eventually slept together..her reason was that she was 'curious' about me and she was the one who made the initial move. She did say that she wasn't sure how she was going to be feel afterwards and that would probably just want to go back to being friends.
The result was more serious than that, it screwed her head up and brought up lots of issues about herself. Now she doesnt want to have anything to do with me, or rather says she can't. I believe its all about fear, also attraction isnt a choice and sometimes we dont want to feel physical attraction to some folk even if we like them in all other way..for whatever reason. I'm sure the situation will eventually resolve itself. In hindsight I would have refused to sleep with her because now I miss my friend and the time we spent together. I also feel a bit hurt and rejected and angry but have to blame self as well coz I knew what was happenning and let it happen etc
So I guess it depends on how much you value your frindship with her, how much she values you as a friend and are either of you prepared to jeopardise that.
2006-10-25 23:08:24 · answer #2 · answered by Simon S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Machine, You apparently would like the young woman in question to be your babe.I would advise that you get sex off your mind and start being a true friend to her. Find out those things she likes most and do your best to make those things and situations available to her once in a while and mostly as surprises. Listen to her thoroughly at all times and always be there most of the time when she wants you around.Find out with great tact,physical and character traits she finds irresistable in the opposite sex and check if you possess up to 90% of this qualities.If you do,then be nice to her as suggested above and then ask her out.Take her dining and make sure you make her laugh a lot.I believe this way you can conquer.I do not think she is in denial as you put it but that she does not know what to believe even if she likes you.It is your duty to build confidence in her for you.Once you can build that confidence in her for you,I believe that she will be yours for the asking.
2016-05-21 21:44:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you are her shoulder to lean on not the one she wants to love .But some women are afraid to commit themsevles incase they get hurt .I would take more time and let things develop one way or the other .Clearly she is not ready to settle down yet so you must give her time if you really want her but still make more friends you might just find the perfect one for you .Goodluck.
2006-10-25 22:24:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Normally they would act sweet to you and prefer your company to anyone else's. But that depends on how mature she is.
Being up front about things is always the best. Tell her you need to talk to her and just ask her why she is acting like she has been and tell her you just want to know the truth no matter what the truth is. Honesty is always best.
2006-10-25 22:13:07 · answer #5 · answered by Mary N 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it sounds like she likes you but isn't sure...we women ae complicated and to be totally honest she's probably unsure herself (we get very confused in these situations).
Best not to ask or even bring it up why not just try and spend more time with her on your own (as a friend) if she likes you and you like her it will happen naturally but if there isn't anything there then its ok because no one mentioned it might be more!
2006-10-25 22:17:54 · answer #6 · answered by Thyroid 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you getting to fast, give her some time, as she is down she is tired, let her be alone. you know she likes you and she will come to you if she needs you badly. so let her be alone for a while and see..
arguing woman is bad thing and it makes them turn off on you. so dont argue just be easy boy. give her some space . let her be alone.
let her feel that she needs you..
This is how it will work
Best of luck
and have wonderful life
Kaustubh
2006-10-25 22:18:23 · answer #7 · answered by Kaustubh Gujar 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shes majorly in love with you!!! All the signs are there! Just hang on in there, she should tell you but she mite be shy and you mite have to ask her out instead.
Goodluck hun xxxxx
2006-10-25 22:14:34 · answer #8 · answered by ♥ Jodi ♥ Kaydi's Mummy ♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes i think she likes you, staring into each others eyes whilst smiling is lovely and very intimate too.
take your time, there is no rush, be there and enjoy the ride, enjoy the uncertainty, cos once you have declared undying love then it starts to get hard and the sparkle tends to fizzle out.....
good luck dude!
2006-10-25 22:49:11 · answer #9 · answered by kt_sub2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they like you, they start to act weird around you, try to get your attention, or just stare at you a whole lot.
2006-10-25 22:15:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋