I'd worked w/a guy for 3yrs, & while developing a heavy crush on him I didn't have alot of confidence in me. He was living w/his gf, but had always indicated that he wasn't happy. As I was ready to date again, he'd mentioned a friend that he thought was perfect for me. I took this as a hint that there was no chance for us. I began dating another, & while doing this, he'd moved out from his gf's apt. Co-workers mentioned setting him up w/girls & he'd stated that he wasn't ready for this. After 2 wks, when we were in our division alone he'd mentioned in a joking way that he was waiting for me to ask him out for drinks. Being that I was involved, I'd blown it off w/an "I'm sorry" in the same manner. A couple of weeks later, he moved back in w/his gf. He'd joked around later that he'd asked me out, & I turned him down. The "crush" keeps in touch. The bf & I are no longer together. He's still w/the girl but is unhappy. It hurts but should I give up? I do want the friendship! Ty!
2006-10-25 22:04:28 · 19 answers · asked by Me 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yep.
It looks like you had your chance, and didn't want to take it at the time.
Move on.
2006-10-25 22:06:28 · answer #1 · answered by S h ä r k G û m b ò 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Well, sorry to tell you this, but I think you've just missed that lifetime oppurtunity! Yep, you've heard me, you blown it!
If you insist on this crush, the one's that's gonna hurt is you my dear......you had your chance coming when he ask you out.You should have spill the beans and tell him exactly how you feel, but you didn't. So, What are you gonna do now?
And I think this whole relatioship thing is not gonna work if you're still having strong feelings for him.....try to sit down and sort things out, wheather you want him as a friends or more than 1. Good Luck!
2006-10-26 05:14:24 · answer #2 · answered by dun_give_ a_ damn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You had a chance and you blown it but you could have a chance still he's been hinting things to you so long and you have been blind to it. Yes you still have a chance with him but could you live with yourself by breaking up a relationship to start another. He wouldn't come out and tell you because he is afraid that he would be rejected and so are you but so what if he says yes or no live with it. Get in that saddle and ride it out. Go get your happliy ever after.
2006-10-26 05:17:52 · answer #3 · answered by *Pretty In Pink* 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you are not an idiot. Give him a call and ask him out to coffee. Take him up on his "joke" that he turned you down and be lighthearted. Don't go with expectations, but take a little hope with you in the back pocket. Enjoy, and if it doesn't work out, then at least you won't be sitting around asking yourself "what If"
2006-10-26 05:15:50 · answer #4 · answered by Sugar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow..I am married have been since 1997,met a gentleman in 2003 and we started a wonderful friendship.Knwoing I was married ,we proceeded to push our limits of friendship.I felt bad for cheating ,but I had later found out my husband had cheated.I know 2 wrongs dont a right..But I ened my little affair and stayed friends with the other man.We always stayed in touch,for his friendship i dont ever want to do with out.He still plays a huge role in my heart.He has a g/f and yet he still calls me often and we visit.He has also stated hes unhappy with her,but its a place to live..I cant change his living arragements,but I wouldnt give up the friendship....
2006-10-26 05:11:42 · answer #5 · answered by Brenda V 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You guys need to sit down and discuss this. You cant always drop subtle hints. Problem with subtle hints is that sometimes They are too subtle. Just sit him down, ask him, end of story.
Good luck
2006-10-26 05:25:07 · answer #6 · answered by Doc M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, you are not an idiot. but with most relationships, timing can be everything. and imo, looks like the timing wasn't right for you. there was no way for you to predict the future. it's sad and unfortunate, but the time can be right another time. keep the friendship going for now.
2006-10-26 05:15:51 · answer #7 · answered by smokesha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U R not an IDIOT. what u did is tit 4 tat 2 Ur husband. let the b/f go & make a gentle deal with ur husband depend on stop cheating each other.I think it works.
2006-10-26 06:00:15 · answer #8 · answered by sirawa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him that you broke up with your bf and the window of opportunity is open for an undetermined amount of time. Let the ball be in his court.
2006-10-26 05:13:31 · answer #9 · answered by Mr Cellophane 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No your not an IDIOT just allitle nieve "innocent" let this person go from you trying to have a relationship together find someone that wants only you .You deserve better.!!!
2006-10-26 05:11:48 · answer #10 · answered by john h 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't think u're an idiot, a coward "yes"....my advise to u: tell him how u feel or spend the rest of life wondering how things would have turned out if u said something.
2006-10-26 05:21:51 · answer #11 · answered by angelic_234 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋