well my daughters 9 and she is just starting her period and i dont want her to know anything about it and what its for never wanted this to happen when she is a little girl still id rather have her start it when she is 12 but i dunno what to do beause she is worrying about it and i just dunno what to do so please help
2006-10-25 21:50:24 · 11 answers · asked by Tiff T 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
You need to tell her some facts of life, just keep it on her level. There is no need to explain everything, but honestly you need to tell her something. If you are this upset just imagine how she most feel. Tell to her doctor and maybe they can give you some advice.
2006-10-25 21:54:32 · answer #1 · answered by anyatavlasa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As she has had her first period,she has the right to know everything.No matter she is 9,she should be told about what menstruation is,where does it come from and WHY does it come from.You can't keep that in secret forever.If you don't wabnt to tell her now,she will ask friends or older sisters,cousins,women or the teacher...Do you really think she won't hear everything?If not from you,someone else will explain her and she will understand,not only EVERYTHING,but the fact that she cannot trust you because you hide natural things from her.And she will confide in other people.Do you want that?And do you really think she doesn't know "where babies come from"?Maybe she didn't know about menstruation,but at the age of 9 most children(especially girls) have already heard what having sex is.Don't make your daughter feel guilty or ashamed from herself that she has a period,because THAT"S how will she feel if you keep these "secrets" from her.
I have 4 daughters and 3 sons.The oldest daughters are 15 and 10 and they both know the facts they need.The 10-year-old had her first period half a year ago and then I told her everything.She learnt she can trust me and confide in me all her problems.The 15-year-old has had her period since she was 11 and she was told everything as far as she turned 10.I knew that her period will comesoon and I wanted her to be ready.Later she was very grateful for the information she had had before the first period,which saved her the worrying and wondering.
2006-10-26 00:49:43 · answer #2 · answered by julie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not being realistic. Your daughter needs to know what is going on with her body. There are lots of good books out there to teach kids her age about their bodies. Get here one and go over it with her, and add your own information. I know it's hard for you, she's still a very little girl. But if you don't step up here you, she is going to be a very confused and upset little girl and she might try to find out things on her own, and she might start acting out. And what if some wise-as* girl at school tells her something wrong, like "now that you get your period you are old enough for sex." Do you really want her getting her information from other places? If you want her to have your values and do the right thing, you have to teach her, it's that simple. Don't let this opportunity pass you, and her by. Here, I've heard good things about this book, and best of all it's geared toward girls in the age group your daughter is in:
http://www.amazon.com/Care-Keeping-You-American-Paperback/dp/1562476661/sr=1-1/qid=1161855463/ref=sr_1_1/104-7670725-0555152?ie=UTF8&s=books
2006-10-25 22:37:07 · answer #3 · answered by nimo22 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, you are not in charge of the timings here, and you must go with the flow (lol !!).
Your baby is growing up.
Her body is changing and she needs to know what is going on, along with reassurance that it is normal and nothing to worry about or be ashamed of.
You need to put whatever phobias you have about this into the background, and give your daughter the support and information she needs.
2006-10-25 22:57:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are going to have to tell her about it even though you don't want to. It's hard I know. But my mother had told me about that age about my period cause it does happen. That way she don't think something serious is going on with her.
2006-10-25 22:20:34 · answer #5 · answered by hisbabygirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well my friend,I think you should tell her all about it,she maybe can't understand it now,but isn't it much scarier for her otherwise? You can just tell her that every woman goes through this and it's nothing to be scared of or worry about.Good luck :-)
2006-10-25 21:59:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i went through this 4 years ago. it's hard. explain to her that she is becoming a woman and this is the begining of this. it's a confusing time for both of you' but honesty is the best way to go. tell her the the truth. even though kids are stupid they are smarter than you think.
2006-10-25 21:57:10 · answer #7 · answered by jason me 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why on earth would you want to keep something perfectly natural from you daugher? If you don't tell her the truth she will just be confused!!!! Be honest with her and you will earn her trust, everybody wins!!!
2006-10-25 21:58:13 · answer #8 · answered by MC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
at nine that is not safe you need to take her to doctor and fin d out why its happening so early and tell her why its happen in g don't let her imagination take her to a realm so dark she creates somethi9ng terrible. there are books leave them for her to see if you want. but take her to doctor it is to early for her to start.
2006-10-29 13:35:26 · answer #9 · answered by dreamaker1292 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to counselors and educators. Have her get the HPV vaccination and please do not be ignorant and start saying what if she becomes sexually active. If you teach her in the right way,she will do what is right.
2006-10-25 21:58:05 · answer #10 · answered by Wal-Mart STINKS 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋