is life just unfair?

Question

or is there something i dont understand,why are some not nice ppl, lucky and some angels so unlucky?

Answer 1

Favour o, This is short but sweet. Don't look for the good thinks in life, treat the bad with with contempt, be grateful you can walk talk, read write and breath, that is luck, take each day as it come and live for the best, for the best will come into your life one day. WB

Answer 2

Fair and Unfair are concepts which are humanistic and unique to the human experience. In nature there is no such thing as fair or unfair, there is no such thing as oposition. Asking if life is unfair has no purpose, life is nature - fairness is an illusion.

When a wolf kills a rabbit, can you say it is unfair? The wolf needs to eat, the rabbit needs to live - evrything has it's balance. Maybe that isn't fair for the rabbit that the wolf needs to eat, but for the wolf it's unfair to suggest something should be done about it. In the end, nothing is fair, nothingb is unfair. Things happen or they don't happen. Fairness has nothing to do with it.

I like to think there are no innocent victims, that there is always something which can be done or could have been done differently. Wheather you have the foresight isn't your fault always, but still, only you have control over your life.

So is life fair? That's up to you.

Answer 3

Hmmm - I think that most "unfair" is the reaction of our behaviour. If my father wasn't abad-tempered womanising alcoholic, my life would have been better. If my mother hadn't been a religious fanatic from an orphanage with no parental skills, and who didn't like girls, my life would have been better. So the things that have annoyed me the most in my life are the consequences of my parents selfishness. They've loaded me with insecurities and a lack of self confidence which has affected my life. Am I right to whinge that my mother was unfair when she sold her house and gave the proceeds to my brothers because "you've got a husband to look after you"? (I live in a council house.)
If we'd worked harder at school, our careers would probably be better. Real "unfairness" comes your child is born with a life-threatening disease. When the earthquake happens that brings your house crashing down on top of you. When the meteor or lightning strikes as you're going about minding your own business.
What I'm trying to say is, most "unfairness" could be avoided if we all took the time to be more considerate and to follow life's rules.

Answer 4

I was told this a long time ago by a complete stranger. "life is unfair, however would we want it to be fair?" If you think about it, on the days where we think a little white lie won't hurt anyone...if life was fair, it would hurt someone greatly. On a day where you don't feel like going out with a guy cuz he really isn't the greatest looking but you tell him you are washing your hair..if life were fair, he would be crushed. On a day when everything seems to go wrong until you get a compliment on your new hair cut...if life were fair, it would keep going wrong. In the end, we don't want life to be FAIR we want life to be easy and it will never be. We are all dealt a hand of cards and what we do with them is all our own. Good luck with whatever is going on in your life and I hope everything turns out ok.

Answer 5

Hey dude, life is what you make it! YOU are in control of your own life. Forget luck. Luck is finding you have won a tenner on the lottery...but even that wont happen unless you spend a quid each week!! Luck is summut that just happens, and it can happen to anyone, good or bad! If your unhappy with your life then get out there and change it. Learn that you have a choice. You can either wallow in misery and self pity or you can grab life by the short n curlies!! So stand up tall, puff out your chest and decide that from this day forward, you are going to be strong, confident, cheerful, determined and you are going to choose to LIVE!!!!

Answer 6

I have thought about this many times, i feel excactly the same way, i have come to the conclusion that sometimes you need to make your own luck though this is not always possible so the other conclusion is we might be angels in this life but we are unlucky because we were devils in a past life. whatever it is it is completley unfair.

Answer 7

you know, I used to think that life was really unfair. I used to get bullied big style at school, I was (and still am, but proudly!) a total geek and never felt like I fit in anywhere or with anyone.
I didn't have any friends, I didn't think I had a chance of living out my dreams and, in my mind I was living emotionally and socially as a hermit in a little cave. It was cold, dark and damp but I stayed there because it felt safe.

Then, I took a chance. I got a sense of self determination, I set myself goals and I have worked for the last ten years on achieving those goals. I'm not there yet, I'm still working at them! But my life is better, a heck of a lot warmer, lighter and more fulfilling that my little hermit cave, and my goals are always in sight.

people may scoff, but I would recommend to you Anthony Robbins. I listened to and worked with his personal power cds, and from the encouragement and the directions on how to set SPECIFIC goals, and how to work step by step toward them, I have literally changed my life. No b.s.
I have worked abroad twice, I have a good job - above minimum wage, I have been in a relationship with a wonderful man for four years now, and I am at college - heading to uni next year to really begin the fulfillment of my dreams.

Until I set goals in the way I have described and summoned up a little bit of courage, my life was heading nowhere. Take a risk, make a change, however small to start with, and do one thing that you want to do, something that's going to get you on the right path (e.g. i took an evening course to start with).

It might be hard work, but if you really want better for yourself, you'll do it. Once you feel you are happier in your life - in all areas of your life, people will pick up on it and you'll attract more of the right people, who are good to you and for you.
I really believe positivity makes a difference. To quote Abraham Lincoln, "People are as happy as they make their minds up to be" - so make your mind up!

bonne chance, peace and prosperity!

Answer 8

Thats the way life goes! Things happen all the time that don't seem fair. But God closes a door to open a window and everything happens for a reason. No-one can help it . We just need to know how to deal with it ourselves and move on.

Answer 9

Of course life seems unfair!

Otherwise it would go all your own way. In order to go all your way it would have to have taken something from someone else! Sometimes we have to deal with things that we don't want to, but it is all part of the learning process, so face your problems with relish, tackle them and take delight in overcoming them.

Answer 10

tell me about it my dad was a total angel had a heart of gold and died at 51
my uncle who is a complete bastard in every sense of the word has beat my late auntie and his now partner he is 84 and his fit and healthy
wheres the sense in that why do people who are good get dealt 5hit and the bad people seem to get on in life.
i ask myself regulary i have yet to come up with an answer