Halloween is coming near and my mother drive me crazy for baking cakes and choose costume and please excuse me because my mother is known for the world best nagger! Any idea to save my neck (and tip to reduce the nagging mother!).HELP ME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-10-25 21:12:07 · 13 answers · asked by Deviant ART 3 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Babes, short of moving out, the best way to stop her nagging is to go along with it all. Even if its only for a couple of hours one day/night, help her with whatever she wants then she'll get off your back for a while x x x
2006-10-25 21:28:38 · answer #1 · answered by I-Love-My-Boys 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you mean your mother wants you to bake cakes and choose a costume and you don't want to do this, then you can tell her nicely but firmly - preferably with a hugh - that you are not going to this year as you have other things you'd rather do.
If you mean she's baking cakes and choosing costumes, then let her, but do your own thing.Either way, remember you won't be at home for ever.
People only "nag" when they think they're not being listened to. If you respond with a reasoned argument it usually stops them going on.
2006-10-26 04:29:09 · answer #2 · answered by crosbie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If moving is not an option, you could do as others suggest and politely decline if you have to participate in the baking of cakes if you do not wish to do so. Do the same for the choosing of a costume? Say with it whether or not you wish to participate in Halloween. If you can say why.
As a kid, I used to have to put up with bullies who took my stuff and rubbished my outfit. Some people visited were unpleasant. One person threw a bucket of water over us. Things were not much better when I took children out with the Youth Club. In the end, we only went to pre-arranged homes. You could say the streets do not have enough lighting and you don't feel safe.
If your mother says that she will go with you, tell your mum that it is "not cool" to go with your mother. Most kids think this from about 7 years of age on.
Another thing you can do is agree with everything, basically not make a decision. "I like that one, but that one's great too! Or maybe that one? Can I have it in stripes or maybe green fluoro?" Most people like decisiveness or intelligent debate. This will get on the nerves eventually. If you are lucky, it will be sooner than later.
If you are in anyway asked to help with the cooking (or cleaning), you could do what my son and daughter did (and tried to get away with) was cook but mess it up somehow (not outrageously or you will be caught out). As for the cleaning, do not clean some of them as well as you could. After having to wash the dishes again, your mother may become fed up.
If you are unlucky like my children were, you will not get away with it. If you are smarter, you will! Watch your body language and facial expressions. They should not give away your sneaky plan.
I firmly believe in honesty is the best policy. You're mother is obviously a caring mother. She is giving you her most valuable asset - her time! Many parents do not give their children a lot of what is called "quality time."
If your mother wishes "quality time" with you, suggest an alternative or a number of options - all things you like to do that she may be able to do with you. You can even set aside a 20 minute period a day to just talk about what's happening in your life, your likes and dislikes, hobbies and interests, and how you see your future so far.
As both people like to be heard, she may share some things with you that you do not know. Parents had a life before you were born. You may be surprised about some facets of her or her family's life.
Ask questions about her and family members if you feel the pressure becomes too great to keep the conversation going about yourself.
Most parents ask you to do things "for your own good!" It may not seem like it at the time.
My daughter (37) recently was speaking to a child and stopped and said: "Oh my God, I sound like my mother!"
Good luck! All the best, April
2006-10-26 05:59:44 · answer #3 · answered by April M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jason talk to Mum and tell her that you are not interested. If she loves you she will listen. Explain why you are not interested. Can you talk in depth with your Mum. I hope you can. I am very lucky as my guys 21 and 24 talk to me . Best of luck. I am 48 and I probably nag my guys at times but we seem to be able to work things out. THE SECRET have open times when everyone can speak their thoughts(you and Mum) Ask Mum for time out where you both talk openly. Give it a go. Good luck
2006-10-26 05:57:09 · answer #4 · answered by jojammum48 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depending on how old you are, you could look into moving out? Obviously if you are less than 16 you may have a problem there.
But moving out would solve the problem.
2006-10-26 04:15:05 · answer #5 · answered by Rich T 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok try this site for halloween recipes: http://southernfood.about.com/library/holiday/blhwidx.htm
There's plenty to choose from so you can't go wrong there lol.
Try this one aswell: http://www.halloweenishere.com/recipes.html
Costume wise you should try this link: http://www.fancydress.com/shop/cat-browse?category_id=50
They have loads to choose from no matter what you are looking for ... if you have no idea what you want then there's loads of ideas on that page ...
have fun!
2006-10-26 04:16:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to the shops and buy the cakes..... easy problem solved
2006-10-26 06:10:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
whatever any such thing happens to u go n sit in the loo till everything becomes normal
2006-10-26 05:55:27 · answer #8 · answered by niks 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's no escape, unfortunately. All Moms are like that.
You have to learn to ignore it and live with it.
2006-10-26 04:15:35 · answer #9 · answered by Luv Thy Neighbour! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
work with her it might be fun
be grateful she's not asked you clean the house from top to bottom!
2006-10-26 10:03:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋