after 3 weeks of my relation with my gf she told me "i love you" and im really in doubt coz she told to some of her friends that she's not loving me and she just like me coz im a nice guy and shes in love with some other guy...
and i really like that girl but the problem is that i didnt get the feeling that she loves me,,, i mean it might be just a easy words to say, am i right??
im really confused. and i dont want to get used by her...
what should i do ?!
2006-10-25 20:38:11 · 15 answers · asked by supremeiran 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I can say I love you right now on you..but the question is do i really mean it? Do i really feel if it is really coming from my heart and not in my mind and just slipped in my tongue?
What should you do? Talk to her, even we people give you the best answer, it is still you will resolve your confusion and know your stand with your gf. It will not hurt your ego if you ask the girl, " Do you really love me or are we just playing games here?"
You have your intuition, you will feel if she is for real once she answer you question. And if the answer is Yes, you have to trust her and help each other to nurture the relationship, and if she answered No, then let her go..its a learning experince, you love, you hurt,,on that learning experience, you will fully understand if the words, " I LOVE YOU" is really easy to say or not.. Good luck!
2006-10-25 21:12:38 · answer #1 · answered by hood 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people (especially young ones) are really quick with the "I love you" and without meaning it. Its unlikely she loves you after three weeks, isn't it.
Other people can and will only say it if they really mean it.
You're right to be cautious about this girl. If you like her go out with her for a while, and see whether she seems to get a little more genuine or reveals that she is phonier than you even thought she was. Just proceed with caution and don't be surprised if things don't work out well.
It is possible to socialize and be with someone without being used. Just draw the line at being used and see if she stays around or not.
2006-10-25 20:49:09 · answer #2 · answered by WhiteLilac1 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is she possibly telling you that she loves you because she thinks that that is what you want to hear? For some people, saying I love you is easy, but for others, they have to know 100% that they feel it before they say it. I told my boyfriend of 7 months that I loved him in the first month and I really did feel it, but he didn't reciprocate my feelings (or at least not verbally) until the sixth month. Each individual has their own pace.
2006-10-25 20:49:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is easy for some people to say "I Love You" but not easy for them to show it. Some people say it to keep from hurting you because they think you want to hear it. Some people just say it as words not even really thinking what they are saying. While others don't even need to say it because they show it.
First of all how old are you? under 25 I would say she probally does not mean it.
Ask her when she said it to you, what did she mean, like love you as a nice guy friend, or love you like I really want to be with you for a long time in love. Ask her.......................................
2006-10-25 20:55:55 · answer #4 · answered by Tazbunny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she dont love u b4 but as days goes by and because u r a nice guy, she learned to love you,
Thats why it takes 3 weeks before she say it 2 u. Me as a girl, i dont say "i love you" if i dont really feel it.
2006-10-25 20:44:27 · answer #5 · answered by anne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it comes out easy then its prolly not real I love u is never an easy thing to say to someone I love u in a relationship is everything sounds like this person is playing games with you so tell em to **** off and find someone new :)
2006-10-25 20:41:06 · answer #6 · answered by pimp48879 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
unfortunatly the words come to easy and mean nothing these days.. you do not say your ages, so I am assuming you are still young... sounds to me as if you are being kept on a string for use until this other guy takes notice... sorry, just my thoughts here... God bless
2006-10-25 20:48:34 · answer #7 · answered by Annie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well for men i'v realised its easy to say that even if they dont mean it but women might find it hard to say. When they do say the three words they really do mean it.
2006-10-25 20:50:03 · answer #8 · answered by Dee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you be gettin played son. she will tell her girlfriends the truth, not you. (chicks before ***** rule applies here)
if thats really what she told her friends, break up with her sooner rather than later, cause she'll be jumping at the first opprotunity to get with the other guy, and that means dumping you.
2006-10-25 20:42:42 · answer #9 · answered by kasu327 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may really "love you", but just not be IN love w/ you. There are different stages of love...Just take it easy and dont say it back if you dont feel that it is genuwine.
2006-10-25 20:40:45 · answer #10 · answered by Independence Baby - 7/4/09 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋