I've worked with a female for a few months now who is roughly 8 years my junior (she's 18, I'm 26) and gradually I've grown interested in her.
In the past I've been a more shy character but lately I've started to come out of my shell and I am feeling a lot better about myself and much more confident. She's an attractive girl who I find is always smiling at me and we talk to each other in a flirting manner often.
This evening while we were at work together (and don't feed me the sexual harrassment junk, I know the consequences already) we had a moment alone and I asked her to come over to me at which point I kissed her on the mouth.
She didn't attempt to pull away and I could tell she was a little shocked. She was blushing a bit and I asked if she was okay and she replied she was and when I asked again she said she needed to think about it. I backed off of her at that point to respect her space and to give her the time to think.
How do you interpret this situation?
2006-10-25 20:36:49 · 8 answers · asked by Dan B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
first off, shes probably a little scared of the work situation. Most places have a no dating policy. Secondly, do you know if maybe she was seeing someone else at the time? She could be feeling guilty. Ultimately, shes 18 dude and she knows how much older you are. Anything from how serious you might be, your intentions, what she should do, if you guys can still talk after this, and so much more. You're doing the right thing by giving her space. But if you give her too much you might lose out on your chance with her. I would wait till you both have a few spare moments, and talk to her again. You don't have to bring up the moment if you don't want to, but for most girls, knowing that the environment that was OK and familiar isn't gone is a nice feeling. Talk to her and treat her as you always would, but a little muted so's not to scare her off. Its tricky and you'll have to follow her lead. Good luck and I hope things work out so at least you guys are friends again.
2006-10-25 20:48:08 · answer #1 · answered by Krustybunny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, even my dog doesn't sh!t were she eats.
Even without addressing the age difference, most companies have policies regarding in-house relationships, and for a good reason. Most of these relationships fade over time, and then what happens to your working relationship? If you are in a position of authority here, then you are setting yourself up for a sexual harassment suit, or to be fired at a minimum.
Take some advice from my dog: scratch were it itches; nap when you need to; and don't sh!t were you eat.
2006-10-25 20:48:02 · answer #2 · answered by zdrgnslyr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well my friend, there are one of two things you may want too do talk to her and let her know how you feel about her and how bad you been feeling since that night. [ if she's still talking to you ] or just forget it ever happened unless she charges you then buddy she came onto you turn the tables to make yourself look not guilty if she flirts with you she probably flirts with other males in your work place
2006-10-25 21:03:00 · answer #3 · answered by crash man 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it form of feels as though she's no longer that into you anymore and needs out of the dating yet isn't asserting something. She's slowly distancing herself from you so it is going to likely be somewhat greater common to break up with you later with perhaps asserting "i think like we are turning out to be aside" or "issues in basic terms are not the comparable anymore, they provide the impact of being too distant".
2016-10-02 23:32:43 · answer #4 · answered by mauzon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she'll come around, u just caught her off guard, if u do somethin like this in the future, try doing it without having to call her to u, get close outside of work or on break like talking or somethin and then do it
2006-10-25 20:41:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
that you just made your work environment very very awkward. you can maybe pull that kind of surprise kiss with a friend or someone that you dont have to see on a consistant basis (e.g., a workplace)
2006-10-25 20:40:04 · answer #6 · answered by kasu327 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
better look for a new job buddy. you moved too fast too soon. respect her space? you were way out of line and i hope you get what's coming to you...lawsuit and unemployment!
2006-10-25 20:46:22 · answer #7 · answered by sweettee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u sound pretty cool and i think she will respect that ,i think get her away from work and have dinner good luck
2006-10-25 20:42:06 · answer #8 · answered by outriderscott 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋