I live in California and recently got engaged. My fiance wants a prenup, which I have known of all along. He says that we can't even set a date for the wedding until the prenup is signed. Is this true? I thought that he just can't push it on me the day before the wedding.
2006-10-25 19:51:34 · 21 answers · asked by CA girl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
You sign the prenup whenever you want to.
Maybe he just doesn't want to set a date until he knows that he & you will be protected.
Just sign the prenup--it's for your own good.
2006-10-26 02:41:57 · answer #1 · answered by ee 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, you might want to do that. I work in the legal field in California and the law firm I work at handle a lot of prenups. We had a case where the wedding had been set before the prenup was finalized. An issue arose and the couple could not reach an agreement; the couple had to postpone the wedding.
2006-10-25 20:02:38 · answer #2 · answered by mpicky2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend is full of it. You can set the date with or without a prenup. He is just trying to get you to sign it before he agrees to a date. It sounds like he is trying to bully you into doing what he wants when he wants.
The prenup is something that has nothing to do with the wedding itself. It is just a legal document that defines what each person will get in case of a divorce. It is supposed to help protect both parties in a marriage. Have an attorney of your choice look it over before you sign anything.
My concern though is that your fiance is trying to bully you before you even get married. You may love him and he may love you but if he is trying to bully you now, what will it be like after you are married? Will the bullying get worse when he wants his way instead of what is best for both ot you? Just make sure you can live with it.
Best wishes for a happy marriage.
2006-10-25 20:06:40 · answer #3 · answered by pj_gal 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You can have the prenup signed at anytime. You are correct, if he made you sign it a week before the wedding then it won't stand as well in court because your lawyer could prove that you were pressured into it....
HE prob doesn't want to start planning until you sign it. And my personal advice is that your nuts if you sign it, make sure you have a lawyer as well- and make sure it's FAIR. Do NOT just sign anything he gives you!! You'll lose out in the end!
This happened to one of my friends!! Just becareful!
2006-10-26 01:53:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Pre-nups will hold up in court if they are signed well in advance of the wedding, not days before. However, there is no reason it cannot be signed even days before. There is nothing legally binding that says it must be signed before the day is chosen. It sounds like this is your fiance's preference, or that of his family, if they're the ones with money. In general, that would be the case, but I do not know the situation. If he is trying to protect his inheritance, there may be some other contractual documents that require him to have a pre-nup signed before the date is set. Let's say, Daddy has money and he required his son to sign and agree to have a pre-nup to protect it, before he sets the date to be married. In this case, if he does not, he would be breaking that contract with his father.
2006-10-26 02:54:22 · answer #5 · answered by rdnkchic2003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are optional and most people don't have them. If one or both of you has anything of alot of value going into the marriage (a business or something major) then it would be wise to sign one. CA is considered a 50/50 state, so in the case of divorce, everything would be divided equally unless it was spelled out in a prenup.
2006-10-26 04:03:23 · answer #6 · answered by Cinnamon 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were getting married, I sure wouldn't be thinking of divorce!
If it is a vast amount of money that this guy has, I guess I could see the reason for a pre-nup. I don't see the reason for demanding you sign it before setting a date.
What does concern me, is him trying to control you. If he does this now, he will only do it in other ways once you are married. You should think long and hard whether you want to live your life with a man like this.
2006-10-26 00:23:35 · answer #7 · answered by Cat Lover 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can set a date- maybe he WON"T set a date- it is not a law to get a prenup- you should have time to read it and show it to your lawyer- and make sure it is reasonable-and that should take a little time- esp w a lawyer involved- D
2006-10-25 21:00:27 · answer #8 · answered by Debby B 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he's pulling your leg he is just adding pressure to make you signhe must really love you to make you sign a prenup. go talk to a lawyer what brought this on is he rich ? he sounds like he expects to get a divorce some time in the future . i don't think i would marry someone like that .what 's his is his and you can't have any ha ha !!!!!!!!!make him sign a prenup just in case you come into money or win the lottery only you can keep it . this just makes my jaws tight . good luck
2006-10-25 20:01:05 · answer #9 · answered by dalecollins64 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The 'set the date 1st' is FALSE. A pre-nup is just what it says :
pre-nuptial
Pre = Before
Nuptial = Definition: wedding: a wedding ceremony
[15th century. < Old French < Latin nuptiae "wedding"
< nubere "take a husband"]
Notice the "take a husband", even in the 15th century they knew who was in charge ! Stand your ground on what YOU want. If you sign a pre-nup before the date, you can always change the date, so it makes no sense. He's miss informed??
2006-10-25 20:04:20 · answer #10 · answered by whiteknight 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋