well i have been with this guy for 5 months. i love him in all honesty. prolley more than i ever have. he is going through a rough time and he needs me more than ever, he loves me and i know it for sure but his ex is always on his mind. he can't or won't seem to get over her. i talk to her all the time and i've been getting to know her really well. she is so over him and has this other guy who she is talking to. i don't want to hurt him but i want to tell him the truth because he's on a wild goose chase and he's never going get her back. right now we are not together and we still talk sometimes but everytime i'm with him i want to beat him in the head with a long a** bat so he will get the picture that she doesn't want him and to move on, because i love him and would never hurt him. i am now on a sex hiatis which means i refuse to have sex or do anything sexual with anyone. i love him enough to help him as much as i can but there is always the what if questions he keeps asking himself.
2006-10-25 19:50:49 · 5 answers · asked by demonswt88 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i can get him outta my head. i haven't been eating or sleeping enough. what makes it worse is that i am in college and need all the sleep i can get. between all the classes, work and my thoughts of him i will go insane before i hit 21 years old. i can't get him outta my head and i've tried everything. i love him and i can't honestly move on because of the connection we have. 5 months is a long time to be with someone especially for me. it's a really rare thing for me to go longer then 3 weeks dating a guy because i get bored easily and i haven't had very stable relationships in the past. my longest relationship was 2 months. i don't trust easily and i don't fall head over hills for any guy. this was what surprised me the most about him because i fell for him in the first month that we were together. i love him and i want to be with him forever. what do i do? hopelessly devoted....
2006-10-25 20:01:25 · update #1
It seems that he likes you but his heart is somewhere else.. u know y? because , from what i read, you are sooo sweet with him and his ex is such an a$$ with him. it seems that this guy doesn't need sweet thing....give him hard time, show him the other u if u wanna win him and let him forget about his X.
If you don't, i doubt u will continue 2gether....so it s ur choice....and good luck in hunting !! ;)
2006-10-25 20:00:28 · answer #1 · answered by A J 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You sound like a pretty cool chick and a great girlfriend, but you aren't seeing the true picture here - he doesn't care about you the way you care about him... so why would you settle for being his second choice if he can't have his ex? If he really loved you, he would be with you and thinking only about you - not his ex and asking "What if...". - so maybe you should let him sort out his crap while you find someone who will treat you the way you deserve to be treated and thinking only of you and not his ex!
Good luck!
Aloha!!
2006-10-26 03:01:39 · answer #2 · answered by gabriel_demus 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know what? I don't think you are really in love with this guy. You are just very interested in him probably because you feel attracted to him physically and that his case with his ex g/f is challenging to you! You feel this way because he can't get over her. Right?
If you are really in love with him, you will probably:
1. Respect his views and values
2. Be honest and sincere with him
3, Know all his weaknesses and are prepared to accept and live with them
4. Are prepared to give up your loves and your goals for his sake
After reflecting on the above, do you still think that you are in love with him?
2006-10-26 03:32:49 · answer #3 · answered by G.T. L 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sex hiatis... sounds dangerous like PMS.... anywayz, word it differently and tell him exactly wat u just told us, except for the hiatis thing... dont tell him that
2006-10-26 02:54:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
talk to him
2006-10-26 02:55:38 · answer #5 · answered by m m 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋