my aunt is a widow.. for about 6 years now. She has 2 kids, one in 3rd grade and the other in 6th grade. Aunt started to go out with a married man for 2 years now. We,as her relatives,are very concerned. My other aunts tried to talk to her but to no avail. What do u think is the problem with my aunt? is it lack of attention? or she is yearning to be loved again after losing her husband? How can we stop her from seeing other man because my late uncle's family is unhappy with my aunt due to this. Please help. I really want to talk to her because im afraid my cousins will be affected by this in future.Thank u.
2006-10-25 19:50:28 · 10 answers · asked by bunbananabun 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
would u like that someone have done the same thing with ur husband
2006-10-25 19:53:54 · answer #1 · answered by Jony Cash 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing you can do. She knows what she's doing and she knows what her family thinks about it. She made her decision. Obviously, she's decided that she has to have a man in her life and a married one is better than nothing. Her children are not her highest priority or she wouldn't be doing what she's doing. I can't believe that she's happy with the situation. Sometimes the why of something doesn't really matter. Sometimes its just a matter of recognizing that there is a problem to begin with, resolving to change it and then doing so. I think your aunt is lonesome for a man and lacks the strength to do what is right. The last thing that she wants to think is that she has a problem because then she would have to feel that she should be doing something about it when she really doesn't want to.
Also, she's an adult. No one else, no matter how much they love her and care about her, has any right to say anything to her about her decision. Ann Landers would have said MYOB (that's mind your own business). The only thing your aunt's relatives have accomplished is to make your aunt feel isolated by them. Better they should have said nothing, then, if she's having problems, she might actually have wanted to have talked about them with her family and she might even have asked for advice. It's too late now unless one of her siblings, representing the others, approaches her and apologizes for their behavior toward her. This week would be nice.
2006-10-26 03:06:27 · answer #2 · answered by Judith 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that my moms friend has been doing this for 30 or more years and the guy she is seeing has yet to leave his wife. The bad part is that guy i grew up with him and so did my moms friends kids. I am 24 years old and she still is seeing him to this day. Tell her that he aint leaving his wife get over it and leave stop waisting her life and everyone elses. She will find someon much much better. Ask her i know this might be rough but it might make her stop ask her how she would of feel if she found out anthor women was seeing her husband. Tell her that is unfail to his wife. Tell her she was married and she was lucky enough to have a good marriage and tell her that she needs to let that man and his wife have good marriage. I know this may sound harsh to say considering she has just lost her husband but she needs to realize what she is doing. I hope this helps you.
but make sure they are not just friends ok first before you say this.
2006-10-26 02:56:58 · answer #3 · answered by knowssignlanguage 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does she only go out with this married man only?? Or are there other married men in her circles of friends?
Find out whether their relation is only merely on friendship or serious?
If she has been neglecting her kids, then perhaps her parents can advise her.
Do some checking before talking to her. Maybe she finds that married man are easy to talk to express her sorrows and problems. But if the situation is out of control, why not talking to the man himself and advise him.
2006-10-26 22:45:03 · answer #4 · answered by lina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to stop disgracing her family and acting like a hoochie!!!! and find an available single man- and quit screwing around- he is a married man and has a family- she may be too desperate and jumped at the first thing she got attention from- D
2006-10-26 03:09:09 · answer #5 · answered by Debby B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmm.. no matter what we have heard and discussed... these things are occuring daily becos we are just human...
why she is doing this, nobody will know the real reason... for real love? for companionship? for attention? by the time she realise it, it is often too late....
get an outing with her and her kids.... tell her that this incident might affect the kids...
do not forget, she is an adult too... she should know what is right or wrong... listen to her first....
2006-10-26 06:37:25 · answer #6 · answered by alfahomme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that once he gets tired of her and she grows old and all her love ones die and her kids have left her. She will be all alone. Their are so many men out their and if she mentions that the sex is good tell her to get a vibrator.
2006-10-26 05:01:34 · answer #7 · answered by Super Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first off where do you get off attempting to tell someone how to live their life?
How would you life it if people told you not to date someone? You wouldn't.
Maybe she likes the man, mabye it reminds her of her passed husband. Maybe she likes his company or maybe she is doing it cause it pisses all of you off.
But out of her life and get your own....if I was her I'd of told you all off long ago.
She's an adult, grown, mature, she can make her own choices no matter if good or bad in your eyes, its HER life...NOT yours.
2006-10-26 02:53:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with urban cowboy..
No point advising her....Love is blind,
When she meet some1 better, she will then think n make her choices, at that time, most probably, she will seek help from u all...
2006-10-27 00:07:40 · answer #9 · answered by ?? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO ADVICE........ LEAVE HER TO HER FATE..
2006-10-26 02:51:58 · answer #10 · answered by Sarang 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋