Why do guys simply only want sex. like i have a great guy we talk on the phonme for hours each night, about everything. But it always leads to sex. We dont get to see each other often becuase of our conflicting scheduales so whenever we do hang out, he concentrated on getting me int he mood. He just is always talkign about it. It bothers me, i know he cares for me and is attracted to me but it bothers me. In past relationshipd, i wanted the guy more than they wanted me. I find this unattractive. Is this becuas ei dont like him? or what is it from? what can i do?
2006-10-25 19:29:55 · 15 answers · asked by kittykatB4 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
We do and its great...its not a problem of me being bad. The thing is i would normally want to do it much more but the fact that he ASKS for it and TALKS about when were going to hook up nest is unattractive.
2006-10-25 19:36:40 · update #1
That's about all you're good for. . .
2006-10-25 19:32:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all, what we want is not simply sex. But if you feel like every moment you share with this guy is just a step for the bigger plan, which is sex, than sure some things are wrong in your relationship.
There might be various reasons for the situation you are in
1) The first and simplest reason, he sees you as a sex object and really this is what he really wants.
2) He might have the feeling that you don't really like to do sex with him, or you are not that attracted to him. May be this is why he is trying so hard to get you in the mood.
3) After all, if you perceive things from a certain narrow window, you can conclude that everything leads to sex. Especially if you have conflicting schedules. If you do sex less than 2 or 3 times a week than it is quite normal for a guy to always talk about it.
I don't know whether it will work but tell him that you want to sleep with him for a night without doing sex. If he continously try to arrouse you, then most probably sex is what he is ever going to have in his mind when he is next to you. For my part, I like to hold my girlfriend in my arms and sleep w.o. doing sex. (Spoon position) But! Occasionally of course.
2006-10-25 20:05:36 · answer #2 · answered by bogus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your just not into sex as much as him. Just talk to him about it, tell him that you care about him and that you dont care about sex that much. And yes most guys are like that, some dont show it or say anything but their all the same.
2006-10-25 19:35:26 · answer #3 · answered by stephanie p 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he's just a horny boy. some men want sex more often than others. try to meet when you can in public places where you wouldnt be able to have sex, then you can have some fun. otherwise talk to him, if he cares for you, and you care for him. then talking won't do any harm. just be careful how you word it, you don't want to shoot down his ego by making him think you dont want him naked.
2006-10-25 19:34:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Play hard to get. next meeting, make it a public one only. If he beats around the bush and procrastinates, he's only into the free sex he gets from you. Leave him.
2006-10-25 19:33:18 · answer #5 · answered by Mintee 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you have answered your own question, that you find this un attractive, go find someone who wants something other than a sex partner.
2006-10-25 19:34:39 · answer #6 · answered by auhunter04 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
u feel like a tool right? mayb a toy...
thats hw most guys r..........
but the ladies? oh, they want attention........love it...
u want to just spend time with him not so?? thats hw u were created by God....
let him know that's ur feeling.....
butttttttttttttt...................................u typed like d kind of girl that wnats things done her way.. are u????
in that case u have d problem. define urself and work on it with the best altitude
cheers mon
2006-10-25 19:35:07 · answer #7 · answered by D *)sukky 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah we are all about sex.... u could cure him by getting him an inflatable toy that he can bang :) thats how i got my head straightened out .. and stopped pushing my gf into sex.... :P well jk about the toy.
2006-10-25 19:33:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
its obvious you are not giving him enough in the bedroom. spice things up a bit, get wild. just remember, girls can do it more than guys. his nuts will dry up sooner or later.
2006-10-25 19:34:19 · answer #9 · answered by a_bike_guy 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Their is a diffrence between love and lusthe is in lust not love
2006-10-25 19:52:26 · answer #10 · answered by edward b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
simply stop having sex. It would solve your problem.
2006-10-25 19:33:43 · answer #11 · answered by Aaron 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋