My boyfriend is the ultimate bad boy, yet i'm helplessly in love with him. I think the reason that he still likes to mess around with other women is partly because i'm not very creative if u know what i mean. So any suggestions on how should i please him? I really don't want to lose him!!!
2006-10-25 19:19:05 · 33 answers · asked by Heather K 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Have more respect for yourself and dump him if he is messing around with other women. Do not worry about pleasing HIM let him worry about pleasing you or get rid of him. Sounds as if you did enough already.
2006-10-25 19:21:40 · answer #1 · answered by sammy 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
One of the signs of abuse (even if its not physical) is when a woman wants to now what she's doing wrong that is making some guy do something rotten.
My only suggestion (and I'm not being sarcastic at all here) is that you find a counselor for yourself and see if you can figure out why on Earth you'd be "helplessly in love" with a jerk who "messes around" with other women (not even one other woman, but other women, pleural).
You can try to be as "creative" as you can dream up, and this guy isn't going to stop messing around with other women. Its not about you. Its not about sex. Its about some flaw he has in him and about the problem you have with not seeing that someone like he isn't worth it.
2006-10-25 20:34:51 · answer #2 · answered by WhiteLilac1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way to test ur bf will be to ignore him wen he messes around with other grls. If u want him to follow u then be a li'l out of reach. He should not take u for granted. He should know ur 'value' & should respect the fact u r valuable to him.
As far as the matter of being 'creative' is concerned u can always work out on that. Read articles in newspapers & mags which tell u how to rev 'it' up. U may also search the net. Just visualise the session bfore it happens.
2006-10-25 19:26:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Honey if hes messing around with other women. You really have no hope in keeping him from messing around again. Even if you do become creative he may still mess around with other women. So the smart thing to do is to dump him and find someone that will be with you and only you even if you cant completely satisfy him in the bedroom.
2006-10-25 19:22:41 · answer #4 · answered by ~MandiNic~ 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Love is blind and it's obvious you're blinded by love....Wake up to reality my friend. the only reason your boyfriend is still messing around w/other girl is b/c he is NOT in love with you. If he is in love with you he wouldn't do things to hurt you. No woman wants to feel insecure about their relationship. Rather than trying to improve yourself why not use the time to find someone who loves & appreciate you for who you are. A boy like your boyfriend no one would want to lay hands on anyway don't worry about losing him....have some self dignity....knowing that he is messing around yet you're still with him. Wonder why he has no respect for you? Sorry if I sound harsh but it makes me so upset to see girls like you who try to improve themselves just to please a boy. It's sad...
2006-10-25 19:29:07 · answer #5 · answered by uniqaznmeg 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Believe it or not a bad boy is really a soft boy inside. CONFIDENCE is the key to getting any man, it dosent matter what you look like..think about it this way.. you go into a bar you see a chubby woman dancing the night away with georgeous guys and your thinking how the heck does she do it??? It 's because she believes she is the hottest woman in the room and in reality. confidence will make her the hottest woman in the room,I am sure if you backed off and pretended not to care and detached yourself by making yourself unavailable, he will come running after you no matter how horrible the bed schene is, trust me.. men want what they can't have, so you need to be the prey they hunt.
I hope this helps.
Good Luck
Jess
2006-10-25 19:26:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Why would you want to be with someone who cheats on you?!? You need to have more respect for yourself than that. You need to get rid of him he is NOT worth your time! I am guessing you are probably very young. As such you have your whole life ahead of you to find the perfect man. You will date several different men in your life time. A few years from now you will wonder what you ever saw in him in the first place! Think long and hard about what he is doing to you. Do you really want someone who wants to be with other girls and doesnt want to be with just you and be faithful to you?!? Sounds like way too much drama and heartache to even begin to try to deal with.
2006-10-25 19:24:24 · answer #7 · answered by herbie36f 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You don't want to lose a man who is messing around with other girls? The reason he messes around with other girls is because he is a dog. Save your creativity for someone who deserves it.
2006-10-25 19:21:59 · answer #8 · answered by butrcupps 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all, you should be ashamed of yourself for making excuses for him, and letting him get away with that crap. Have some self respect, and get a new boyfriend. I know you love him, but you can love him, and still leave him. Do what's best for you, and stop being a fool over a man! You deserve better, and he deserves a kick in the a s s!
2006-10-25 19:21:22 · answer #9 · answered by LibraT 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
i dont know what is wrong with those grls who like to keep a bad boy as their boyfriends...its like they are wanting this torture or abuse to feel wanted...bottom line you can only be you and if you are not that creative in that area...then what can you do ?...he should love you for you and if he wants to play around then let him and dont give into that i need him that badly crap either..Have some respect for yourself...he will always play around on you if hes done that before...there are many men out there that can treat you better rather than toss you around like raggety anne when you dont provide the goods...i dont have any suggestions for you except have some respect for yourself and if you being you isnt enough to keep him...thats you changing yourself to fit what he wants then let him go ...you can find someone better...trust me someone who wants you and needs you and loves you for who you are not what he wants to be ...Repeat...you are not a piece of meat and between your legs is something special not something to keep a man's interest....dont let him use you grl ....
2006-10-25 19:29:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋