My 2 year old is still very jealous of his new sister and she is only 5 1/2 weeks old and I spend time equally between the two. I am stuck on what to do? I take him out just for mommy and son time but I really don't think that works! Please help if you can!
2006-10-25 18:40:56 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Sounds like your doing a fine job.. also helps if you include them in the care of the lil one a bit..nothing major of course at that age but just making them feel like it's "thier" baby too..ya know. not just a seperate lil person trying to get all moms' attention..other than that, it just takes some time.
2006-10-25 18:44:40 · answer #1 · answered by ~*~ 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Man! Good on you! I have a 2yr. old and she is Very clingy {new pattern of only a few months but increasing in force} and I can't imagine the sheer determination it takes to stay awake with a tiny baby in my arms as well! All I can say is you sound as if you're already doing a fabulous job and the jealousy your son feels will soon fade. A Mommy-Son day would be a nice treat though, I really don't think it would hurt.
2006-10-25 21:10:35 · answer #2 · answered by tequillajenny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is very natural.i went through the same thing and it's still happening.Give him a lot of attention.Spend some time with him alone and involve him with doing things for the baby.It will get better.He is still too young and needs his mommy.Someonelse took his mommy away.I would be jealous too.So dear mommy,as hard as it is,let him know that nothing has changed between you two and give him every last bit of attention you've got.good luck.
2006-10-25 19:00:04 · answer #3 · answered by avavu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello! You should have developed in his mind the good news of you carrying a younger baby since your pregnancy. But anyway, its not so late to change his mind. The only thing is he should not feel you - parents don't spend time with him. You have to talk to him like she is his sister and she will be very kind with you! All the Best!
2006-10-25 18:54:47 · answer #4 · answered by Abc X 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jealousy is a very normal emotion for some kids. He has had you all to himself for almost two years, now he doesn't like sharing you. Try referring to the baby as "Our baby". That might make him feel more included but no guarantees. He might end up being the big brother protector and you will be amazed that he ever was jealous.
Best of luck....
2006-10-25 18:51:59 · answer #5 · answered by Johnny B Goode 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the ideas above - you are doing the right thing. You could also make sure that other people also acknowledge your son - as people all tend to make a fuss of the new baby and forget about the older one - leaving them feeling very left out.
2006-10-25 18:51:01 · answer #6 · answered by d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably think that you might don't give him enough attention anymore since he has a new baby sister. Just let him know that you love him as well as his baby sister and give him plenty of attention. Try to be fair all the time.
2006-10-25 21:11:40 · answer #7 · answered by rauma_raumamary 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when i first found out i was pregnant, i immediately started involving my then 1y3mt boy in my pre natal check ups. he came in for doctor visits, listened to the hearth beat and watched the scans. when the baby moved, i'd get him to feel and say that's baby saying hi. i bought a present for him and put it in the 'delivery bag' which i brought to the hospital and when the baby arrived and he came over to the hospital for a visit , the new baby had a 'hello present' for her big brother. when we brought baby home, he needed time to adjust but with time, they bonded. they are 7 and 5 now and very close.
2006-10-25 19:03:30 · answer #8 · answered by CASSIE 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He just needs time to adjust. I think it sounds like you are doing exactly the right thing.
Maybe make a big deal of him helping with the new baby. Might make him feel like a 'big boy' if he can help and has little jobs to help Mummy.
You will be fine!
2006-10-25 18:59:02 · answer #9 · answered by Kylie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Allow your two year old to help with the baby a little bit. Sit him on the couch and allow him to hold the baby in his arms. Allow him to help with the feedings and diaper changes, etc. Make the two year old feel like he is a helpful brother, and he will be so busy helping that he won't be jealous anymore. He needs to be aware that a big brother's roll is to help with the younger kid and to protect the younger kid, not to hate the baby or be jealous of the baby.
2006-10-25 18:46:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it will eventually get better once the baby starts crawling and playing. i've seen that happened to my nephews. for the meanwhile distract the 2 year old baby into doing other stuff, that way he won't bother the new born or hurt him accidently ( like playing rough or throwing stuff around). hope this helps
2006-10-25 18:45:58 · answer #11 · answered by black_metal_mist 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋