Anybody else ever?

Question

had a great relationship (great friends, great sex, all that stuff) and went a bit neurotic somewhere along the way? I over-analyze things like, bad sometimes. 10 points if you can just CONVINCE me to relax (not suggest). Who's got ideas?

Answer 1

Find a good, trusted friend to vent to about all the things you over-analyze. He/she can steady you, give you balance and common sense input to help you deal.

Answer 2

I've gone through a similar situation, not so long ago actually. It really depends on what made you 'go nuerotic' in the first place. In my situation, the guy had lied about something that, at the time, seemed very serious, and it ended up being nothing at all. Since then, I never truly trusted the guy and started looking at every statement he made as a possible lie. LOL--it made it very hard to stay in the relationship, to say the least.

I still 'slip up' occassionally, but have found a few ways to make it easier on me--and him. I don't let anything he says bother me, or think about it to much. If it does bother me, I'll jokeingly say what's really bothering me. Example: He has to take off for a few hours for whatever reason, but I'm stuck at home. So I'll say something like, " Make sure you ________ all your girlfriends/f*** buddies while you're out" or whatever. His usual response is along the lines of, "yeah, you know it!" in a complete smart-a** tone. Hearing him respond in such a tone (like the thought is completely rediculous that he has anyone else) helps build my confidence in our relationship, and helps build trust back up for both of us (I let him go, he comes back, it's all good). Usually, though, I just remember to breath...deep breaths (ten, at least) before I allow myself to open my mouth (usually to insert my foot...lol), and that gives me time to THINK before I speak.

Answer 3

I did the same thing.Kept reading things into my relationship that caused nothing but problems for me and my girl.She left me cause she thought I didn't trust her...I didn't blame her after I figured that it was just my insecurities and rememberence of past bad relationships that I kept reading into my good relationship with her...
I had to believe that I deserved the woman that I was with..bad relationships in our past can drag us down.we have to let that crap go and start fresh.......
Believe in your self , develop your self esteem....Project a positive attitude and get to know your partner ....good luck.and don't beat your self up for being in bad relationships...You deserve the best and if you conduct yourself in a manner deserving of the best you will aleays be a winner.....