What are the warning signs to look out for, and does it progress to physical violence. Can a person be "cured" of this behavior or is it beyond help? This is about a man that has recurrent outbursts towards his girlfriend. Both are in their forties.
2006-10-25 18:25:23 · 17 answers · asked by drcc_308 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The emotional outbursts are the signs that would lead to one person enjoying the tears of another , would cause another emotional trauma and can lead to physical abuse . it can be cured need counseling .
2006-10-25 18:29:15 · answer #1 · answered by shady_man 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Emotional abuse and verbal abuse are closely linked.
Verbal abuse is telling someone that they aren't good enough wife, skinny enough, worthless.
These words "You aren't worth a s###. Why don't you put me out of my misery and >>> (fill in the blank)." Other things like all the derogatory words for females.
Emotional abuse is when someone though month of verbal abuse actually changes their behavior and believes the verbal abuse to be true. The abused actually believes they are worthless and they need to do >>> fill in the blank.;
Warning signs: Change in behavior of the abused from high self esteem to low. Constant talk about how they can't do right.
Does emotional and verbal abuse lead to physical abuse?
Yes, I do believe it does. I have read several studies that emotional, verbal, and physical happen yet none point out a definitive progression. I personally think there is a progression.
Do I think someone can be cured as a emotional and verbal abuser?
I don't think so yet I am not a counselor. The counselor may think differently I assume. The counselor can teach the abuser how to become more loving how not to be so abusive but the damage is already done and may leave deep emotional scars on the psyche of the girlfriend. The girlfriend needs to leave fast without looking back or any regrets. The sooner she does this the sooner she can start the healing process.
2006-10-25 18:48:21 · answer #2 · answered by avid_rafter765 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Emotional Abuse and Verbal Abuse ARE devastating and don't tolerate it!!!
Emotional Abuse is when someone will belittle what you wear, and how you look, whatever... a verbal "stab" is just that!
Verbal Abuse is Degrading and it hurts to get yelled at and called names!
All of this CAN lead to physical violence, it just depends on if the other person has a "short fuse", in which case, this person is dangerous!
Yes a person can get help for this, I doubt CURED, BUT, this person HAS TO WANT to change, and obviously has some anger that's trapped inside and is BOILING! DO NOT provoke an argument, NOR push ANY of his "buttons!"
He IS beyond help if his behavior escalates and refuses to get help, that's all I can tell you!
I've been through all of this before!
Outbursts are also in the boiling category, and he needs to find out about getting some Counseling, or Anger Mgmt.
He NEEDS to do something NOW!
Don't stay in this relationship it will only get worse for you, again, IF he denies needing help!
Another thing, JEALOUSY can sure be a warning sign to look for, cuz anger comes with that and can get out of control!
Good Luck!
2006-10-25 18:43:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
There aren't always warning signs. Some are very abusive verbally and they constantly put you down especially when you are in front of a group a people. Verbal abuse is emotional abuse. Sometimes it never progresses beyond emotional abuse. They belittle you and make you feel bad about yourself until the self doubt sets in. They find your insecurities and play on them. Have you heard the old saying, "if you hear something long enough, you start to believe it"? A verbal batterer will beat you down with their words and make you feel really bad about yourself. I'm not sure which is worse, the emotional or the physical abuse because they both leave scars. If you are in this type of relationship and he is already showing signs, GET OUT NOW!!!! Most don't ever change, no matter what they say or how much they plead. I was married to both types, after divorcing the physical batterer, he stalked me for over 10 years. I saw him 17 years later and he was beating up his current wife too. She told me it started 10 years ago and until this day, 33 years later, he still hits her. I was lucky, I escaped after 2 1/2 years. It's not worth it, RUN!!!!!!! There are plenty of good men out there that are secure with who they are and don't need to abuse you to feel better about themselves.
2006-10-25 18:47:31 · answer #4 · answered by cablegirl 50 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Warning signs can very my first husband was very sweet and kind and a really nice guy until he had a few drinks then the monster came out. Not once when we were dating did this happen just after we were married. Some one who is very controlling and whats to know where you are at ever moment of time. They also feel the need to tell you how to dress and what kind of make up to use. As one who know the emotional and verbal abuse is a lot harder to get over then the physical so if you feel that you or your friends are being abuse verbally and emotionally then get away for that man right away. Yes it can turn into physical abuse, but even if it doesn't as I stated the other two are harder to get over. After 8 years with my husband it took me almost 20 years to finally feel that I was worth the love of a really great man. And lucky for me he stayed around while I figured it out and married me. So please don't think you have to settle for some one who is abusive there are a lot of great guys out there waiting for great women.
2006-10-25 18:34:30 · answer #5 · answered by Diane T 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Take it from me the emotional is just the start. Then when he thinks that you feel you are not good enough and you are blessed that he even is with you and no body else wants would want you thats when the physical starts.
My ex started having the outbursts toward me. Telling me I wasnt worth anything or I was lucky he even wanted to be with me. He would get mad at me for everything under the sun. Take it out on me and sometimes blame it on me whe I had nothing to do with it. So I always thought it was my fault. I began to say that I was sorry for things that werent my fault. Thinking I was the problem. I tried to do everything that I could to please him. Nothing worked. I felt that I was such a bad person and that I dersvered to be treated that way. I was glad that he wanted me cause I thought no one else would. Then he started to hit me. And I thought I dersved it.
The abusive men out there start to break you down little by little so that way when they start to hit you, you end up taking it and you become their persoal punching bag. Thats why so many women keep going back to their abusers. They feel thats all their worth.
This relationship is voilent and very well could turn physical. But remember this physical pain goes away in time but emotional can be forever. They need to end this relationship and get help. Yes this man can change but he needs to admit he has a problem first.
I hope this helps some. Good Luck!!!!!!
2006-10-25 18:46:20 · answer #6 · answered by sweetsnickers 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Emotional or verbal abuse is when a person verbally mistreats or manipulates/abuses the emotions of another person. They can do this by putting them down and insulting them constantly, such as calling them stupid, swearing at them and telling them they are worthless, by invalidating their feelings and telling them their feelings don't matter, by ignoring them or being unreasonable/inconsistent emotionally, or by putting impossible expectations on them. What your boyfriend did to you - telling you you were stupid, that you meant nothing, that you were a liar and didn'tcare about him....was emotional abuse. The fact that he did that and then acted like nothing happened meant he was toying with your emotions so that you felt awful one moment, fine the next, so that your heart was right in his palm. My parents did that to me and I classify all of your boyfriend's behaviour as emotional abuse. Especially because you say it has left a mark on your life. *hugs* I'm sorry that happened to you, but remember you are both capable and worthy of love and he didn't deserve someone like you anyway.
2016-05-22 14:52:05 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anything that a man says that low rates the woman or is derogatory, is verbal abuse. Anything threatening her physically or emotionally, even cruelly trying to make her jealous, is emotional abuse.
She needs to get rid of him, based on your question. These kind of men don't get better, they get worse.
2006-10-25 18:31:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
He could do an anger management course. If he yells to make her do things his way then it's abuse. Anything where one person is forcing the other against their will is abuse. He may never get physical but it is still hard to live with.
2006-10-25 18:29:37 · answer #9 · answered by auntynoall 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
USUALLY any man who gets in the womans face is most likely to snap eventually. Just keep the lookout. She will begin to act hidden, And withdrawn. If she already is like this chances are that she is alreay being physically abused.
2006-10-25 18:30:04 · answer #10 · answered by KGcutie 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋