i lost my wife 16 days back, i am 47 and is very disturb due to her death , can somebody counsel or advice me?

Answer 1

This is the fact of life which no one can escape.There is no one in this world who has not lost a dear one or will not lose in his life time. This is the law for every single life on this earth. Your turn has come and unfortunately so. she is gone physically but her thoughts, memories, her wishes, her expectations and every thing else will continmue with you. So think she is there but you cant see her and try to live life just the same way as before. No amount of consolation from others will help and u have to help urself by being more courageous and accept the fact and life has to go on. In her passing away not only u have lost ur dear one but the children have lost dear mom, some body lost a sister, somebody a daughter, a friend, a guide, a colleague and in every relation that she lived there is some one who has lost a dear one. So friend, try and meet each of them and talk of the influnce she made on ur lives without which u would not be what u are today in many respects. share ur grief and slowly with time things will improve.Remember the times when u consoled some one else. take care of urself as u are so dear to so many others and u need to care for them. god bless you.

Answer 2

I am so sorry to hear this. Unfortunately it's true what they say .. time is the only healer. 16 days is very recent and it's quite natural that you are still very disturbed by her death. You are doing well by talking about it on here. Talk to your family and friends too, remembering all the good times you had together.

I believe that we are all beings of light put on this earth for a relatively short space of time to learn lessons or to give life lessons to others. When we die, we leave an empty shell behind and our souls move on. Your wife will still be around you though, especially in times of need. You will feel the warmth and know that she is there. Talk to her.

Remember too that she would not want to see you sad .. she wants to see you smile and to make the most of your time on this earth.

It will get better with time and with each new day you will feel stronger. Every now and again you'll be sent little reminders or you'll see someone that looks like her and it will feel like day one all over again. This is natural and all part of the grieving process. Cry as much as you want. Just let it all out and don't hold back.

Angel hugs to you.

Answer 3

I'm sorry for your loss. Your wife wouldn't want you to greive over her, try staying busy. Keep friends and family near you as much as you can. Try to find some new hobbies or spend time on hobbies you already have. You can get through this. If you feel like it's the end of the world and you can't get past the situation no matter what you do, then don't be ashamed to seek counseling or looking for a support group in you area. Take care of yourself.

Answer 4

My sincerest sympathy with your loss. Something like that must be devastating, can't even start to imagine what it would be like. If it's very difficult for you to cope, I'd advice that you go for counseling. Talk to friends or family about your late wife, though you might find people are reluctant talking about death. Some think you must forget as soon as possible, without understanding how important it is for you to talk about your loss.
It will take time, and you'll never completely get over it, but it will go better eventually. Just take it one day at a time. Cry if you feel like it. Even shout if it will make you feel better. In the mean while try to accept that she'll never come back and that life goes on. If there's nobody else to talk to, you're welcome to write to me. I really hope things will go better soon!

Answer 5

First of all, I am sorry for your loss.

Second, you must realize that it is normal to feel saddness, despair, depression, and even anger after losing any loved one.

You should expect to feel some measure of the loss for the rest of your life. Even after you recover, and you will, you will be reminded of her in some way, a sound, a smell, a note from her...anything, and all those negative feelings and emotions will come back to you.

Its normal and okay.

In fact, you should try to embrace those feelings because they reveal the depth of your love for your wife.

However, you should also realize that your wife would want you to continue living your life here on earth. And you should do so without guilt. I'm sure you have other family members who need you to be with them, so try to turn your attention to those people as soon as you are able.

16 days is not really even enough time to internalize the loss, much less accept it. It will take time...maybe a lot of time.

Good luck.

Answer 6

I do not know how long you were married to her, but she was put into your life for a reason, and I think that it is o.k. to weep, and feel the many normal and natural feelings that your have. However, try to remember the good times, and the 1st time you guys met, I do not think that she would want to leave this world knowing that you would be deep into depression, as sad as it is their is a blessing in it, or will come from it in due time whether it is the birth of a new born, or a reunion between friends and family, and etc. Take one day at a time, that is all you can do, and hopefully time will heal some of your wounds. from a religious standpoint I would guarantee that she is A. o.k.!!!

GOD BLESS!!!!!

Answer 7

I am so very sorry to hear of your loss. Death can be a difficult time for those remaining. I do hope you will seek the company and reassurance of other family and friends at this time. Perhaps counseling for a time may be of some help as well. I wish I could be of more assistance, I will be praying for your serenity.

Answer 8

it was only 16 days ago. you have every reason to be upset. i recommend talking to a counselor about the death & how to deal with it. it is important to talk to people about this. also, you can try talking to a priest or pastor if you can't afford to pay for counseling. it will really help- even if you only go once or twice.

well, i lost my dad when i was 10. i have come to realize over the 14 years that he has been gone that it happened for a reason. a reason i may never know, but good will come out of it in some way. it is the path meant for my life. in addition, i realize that it is selfish for me to not be happy for him being in heaven, since i believe in heaven and perfect happiness. he is perfectly happy now and i will see him again and be with him forever. loving and appreciating the time you have with the family and friends who are still with you is the best thing to do. it is ok to be sad for a while because you are facing a major loss-- the love of your life. that is so huge. it is nothing to take lightly. remember to celebrate her life and her impact on yours for the rest of your life. i guess appreciation of the life she had and the life you got to share with her is the best way to look at things, although it is extremely difficult to get to that point for most people.

anyhow, it is never easy for anyone, and i recommend seeing someone who can help you through such a difficult situation and give you professional advice. there are also grief support groups available through hospitals, churches & communities. so, you might want to think about joining one of them.

Answer 9

God cares for and understands the broken heart.
Psalms 147:3
He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds
God's strength is always available
Deuteronomy 31:6
Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid or terrified because of them, for the Lord your God goes with you; he will never leave you nor forsake

God is the answer to a life in despair.
Psalms 46:1 God is our refuge and strength, an ever-present help in trouble.

I hope this helps you in some way. I know what you must be going through I have lost several family members that I loved very much. I thought I would loose my mind but God was with me each step of the way and he can help you to. Just pray for strength talk to him he will be there for you.

Answer 10

As with any lose it is only normal to be in greiving and only time will heal your pain.I know there are stages of greivance and you can go to google and put in "The Stages of Grievance" and that might help you understand your pain. It is unfortunate when you loose a loved one but try to remember not one of us is promised forever and where she is now is where so many have gone before and we will be one day as well Just try to stay on the positive and allow yourself time.Make your new memories by enjoying the time you have left here on earth yourself and know there are many others that are where you are now Best Wishes and Blessings to you...You can E mail me if you want