when ur going out with someone, u usually say "I love u" every time u see them and every time that they leave. But how do u know that u really mean it, and u won't just break up the next week or even the next day?
2006-10-25 17:52:31 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Unless she is putting out, you are just saying that you are.
2006-10-25 17:54:32 · answer #1 · answered by S h ä r k G û m b ò 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You know,I've been in a relationship for over 7 years. My friends ALWAYS ask me, is he "the one"? And I never answered them. We just broke up 3 months ago. Saying "I love you" all the time is played, they are just three words, with assigned meaning. Action speaks louder than words, if you really love someone, you would know. Saying it to them EVERY DAY, does not make it worth more. Then it becomes an obligation leading to an expectation. I used to say "I love you" to my ex every night. Sometimes he will be, "love you too" and sometimes he will be "uh huh..good night" Although I left the relationship, I feel like it's because I had the guts to do so, we were both losing butterflies and just grew apart. You don't have a reason, or a time that you "know" when you mean something you say. You don't HAVE to say something, you should say it when you WANT to, and when that time comes, you will KNOW. And that is when it really matters, from the heart. It's OKAY to break up after you "I love you" cause you said it when you meant it. If the relationship didn't work out, you live and you learn. Many of my best lessons, were learn the hard way, that's when you gain a better understanding and you know. Good luck.
2006-10-25 18:09:24 · answer #2 · answered by Gina C 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say describing love is the hardest thing to do in any language but I will try. First off, love is experienced in different ways by different people depending on their personality. I would say love is something that is felt deep within your very being. Think of if you lost this person to breakup, illness, or death would you feel incomplete? Would you do things outside of your normal behavior to make this person happy? like sky driving when you are a little afraid of heights? Do you feel like you want to spend lots of time with this person? Do you feel protective of this person? Do want to know all about this person even the boring stuff? Do you like things like the smell of their hair or their shirt and find yourself smelling it when they are away?
These are some basic questions that most people describe how they love their girl/boy friend/spouse/lover. I know this isn't the most definitive answer but I hope it get you closer to what love isn't.
2006-10-25 18:10:28 · answer #3 · answered by avid_rafter765 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You raise a good point. Many people do use it too soon and too often. When it is used too much it becomes 'used'.
But it's never inaccurate to tell someone you love them, as long as there are feelings of caring and/or attraction. The important thing is to find a way to communicate what you mean by "I love you"
Love is like the pH scale.
We love family and friends on different levels.
We love romantic interests on different levels.
2006-10-25 17:59:06 · answer #4 · answered by Hondo for President 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well u shouldnt say it unless u really mean it but the way u feel it is every time u kiss or even c that person u get a weird feeling in ur stomach and u dont no what it is but its love thats how u no so dont say it unless u feel that way
2006-10-25 17:58:30 · answer #5 · answered by loveekla 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I knew when I was in love when I knew that I would risk my life and limb to protect and keep that love........when no one else in the world mattered and would give up every material thing to keep him. If I ever had to part with him part of my soul would go too---- I married that man 11 years ago.
---That's how you can tell if you are in love. It's great.
2006-10-25 17:59:26 · answer #6 · answered by sugarbud 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are in love you will feel it deep within yourself you will truly feel it. The words I love you should be treated just like the words I trust you. It's a feeling that you experience.
2006-10-25 17:55:24 · answer #7 · answered by NyteWing 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Easy answer for me. I know I mean it simply because every second I am away from her, I miss her, even just a little.
2006-10-25 18:14:14 · answer #8 · answered by randyken 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
u can be in love and yet break up the next day...it's totally up to you and your girlfriend...love is not the basis of permanence of a relationship..there are other factors that leads to the demise of a relationship
2006-10-25 17:56:59 · answer #9 · answered by ♦cat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being in love is much more than just words, love is a feeling....when you are really in love YOU KNOW IT....its about passion.
2006-10-25 17:57:13 · answer #10 · answered by catywhumpass 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋