I have a huge crush on this amazing girl, I've known her for about a year and a half and steadily we have become friends, she now confides in me, aks me for advice, and we always have fun together. I have never brought up my feelings for her, but she knows I like her, because she mentioned to a friend of hers that i'm in love with her. She is introverted but forces herself to be quite sociable, so things of a personal nature may be hard for her to bring up, so i would never expect her to bring up the idea of a romantic relationship. If I do decide to try to make this more I'm scared I'll lose the friendship I have with her and betray her trust. Should I say anything? And if I do what should I say?
2006-10-25 17:52:04 · 9 answers · asked by strokesfanatic 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don' t allow your fears to cost you the chance to be with someone who is apparently interested in being close to you.
Ask yourself what you are really afraid of?? I can imagine you being more afraid of a rejection. Perhaps you feel some embarrassment. But I think you have more to gain by being honest from the start. So I think you know what you need to do. Be honest and straightforward. I don' t think a good friendship can be lost in a second just by saying ' I love you'....
2006-10-25 18:01:13 · answer #1 · answered by Wild_Angel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are two schools of thought on this one.
A.) Slowly add more and more flirting into things (look her in the eye and smile, little bit of physical contact when you talk, etc etc.) and see how she reacts and how you feel aout it
or
B.) At the end of a night together, tell her you had a great time, hug her, but don't let go right away. When she looks you in the eye, you'll know if you should kiss her or not. If you see the twinkle, don't hesitate.
Remember, regardless, two things here. First, if you think she might be thinking the same way you are, chances are good there's a reason for that. And second, assuming the first is true, she is at least as nervous about it as you so don't be too shy.
All great relationships must have great friendships at their core.
2006-10-25 18:03:48 · answer #2 · answered by randyken 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she already knows that you like her and she is still coming to you as a friend than dont worry you wont lose her as one. Just get her when she is alone and tell her that you treasure this friendship that yous have, and that lately you have been leading towards more deeper feelings than just friends. before she says anything say to her that if she doesnt feel the same way than its fine and you will just try to shut those feelings off because you want this friendship to last and that yous are great friends and you dont want to lose her as one over this, but just tell her that you just had to take the chance and see if she happends to feel the same and could possibly make a relationship out of this...but again if not than its fine and lets pretend this conversation never happend.
2006-10-25 17:56:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only make a move if you are or recently have been seeing someone else. If she beleives that you have been pining over her the whole time, then she probably feels like you have been creeping in on her instead of being a man and making a move much much sooner.
'Attraction' and 'like' are not the same thing for women
If you start adding new 'flirt' behaviour after already having a friendship in which she knows you love her YOU WILL CREEP THE S&*T OUT OF HER.
It's time to man up. Date other people, so that you are on the market. She will be impresses and maybe even a bit jealous.
2006-10-25 18:34:56 · answer #4 · answered by Hondo for President 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Logically, you shouldn't lose her friendship, regardless. But if you do lose it, it'll just show that she's selfish. But face it, it's inevitable that either you'll betray her, with out intending to. Or she'll betray you, intentionally. Bring it up. But inconsidering how she is, she might not be the right girl, anyway, nor the right gf. If she has to force herself to be sociable, then it's hard for her to be sociable. In translation, she's not worth your time. If you love her, you have to bring it up. If she loves you, she has commit.
2006-10-25 18:05:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you describe is exactly what happened with my current husband and myself. We were best friends for almost two years and then I got up the nerve to tell him what I was feeling. Turns out that he felt the same way. Long story short...we've been together for 17 years, have two great kids and we're STILL the best of friends. I say go for it, tell her exactly how you feel! If you're that close, it's because you think alike and minds that think alike often have similar feelings. I wish you both the best!!!
2006-10-25 17:58:14 · answer #6 · answered by morticiasl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
since she has already noticed that u're in love with her, then u should go for her......if she's brave enough to tell her friends about your feelings, that means she's feeling the same way....if not, who would want to bother to tell a friend if she's not interested at all???? when u ask her about a romantic relationship, be casual.....adk her if she wanna try things out...just don't be too serious when u start........also, ask her to remain friends if she doesn';t agree.....do not be too aggressive.....
2006-10-25 17:59:10 · answer #7 · answered by Marijuana 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was in your situation once....turned out he liked me and we told each other we'd be friends no matter what happened....5 years later...we're still together....and still have that friendship...
2006-10-25 17:57:32 · answer #8 · answered by asiantomato84 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just talk it out with her
2006-10-25 17:57:32 · answer #9 · answered by pinkcandiez871 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋