why is it every time my bf starts a conversation about sex i get nervous and scared,even when he tries to kiss me or come too much nearly
he said that we have to talk about it and that there r many facts about sex that i dunna and he wants ti discuss it and thats it is ok for me to talk about it and ask questions about sex to him cuz he is my bf and he is older than me
b4 a week he tried to hold me and start making out but i refused
he said thats it is ok and he respects me and he will never do something am not cool with but that doesnt mean that i should leave u like that
he said that he needs to help me break the ice btw us and the frightened in my heart
he said that i should give my slef a break and try to do it and that he will be so careful and gentle to me and he will do it slowly and he wants me to go to his place and try it
am 17 and he is 20
am sure that he loves me as much as i love him but am not sure what should i do
i wanna do it but am scared
2006-10-25 17:18:00 · 9 answers · asked by aha i wanna know 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
YOU SHOULD JUST TELL HIM HOW YOU REALLY FEEL ABOUT WHAT GOING ON. IF HE REALLY LOVE THEN HE]
WILL WAIT UNTIL YOU ARE READY, BUT IF PRESSURE
YOU DO SOMETHING THAT YOU ARE NOT READY FOR
THEN MAY HE NOT THE ONE FOR YOU. YOU WILL KNOW
WHEN YOU READY NOT UNTIL THEN.
2006-10-25 17:22:23 · answer #1 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi hun I saw your message and felt the need to read yours out of every one else’s. Fist of all I understand were you are coming from I have been in a similar situation. The only difference was I was a bit younger then you. Now that I am older and have been in a number of different relationships I understand men a little bit more. Fist of all let me talk to you about men and women. Women mature allot faster then men. Think about it this way A 17 year old guy has the maturity of about a 13 year old girl. (Well most of the time) If you truly believe that this man loves you he will not try to manipulate you in any way. Tell him that you are not ready he should respect that. Be careful an older man may feel that he has more control of you and attempt to play with your min. I would say try to get to know each other more and don’t feel pressed into doing something you are not ready to do. I know that you love him and remember love can be blind. You will probably have many other loves and opportunities to make that big step. Make sure you are ready to make this decision. If you feel you are ready make sure that both of you are well protected. I wish you the best in making your decision and hope that I have been able to help you
2006-10-25 17:44:21 · answer #2 · answered by catlover 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't ever let a guy pressure you. Obviously you're not as ready as he is. You say you want to but you're scared; listen to this! Somewhere in your mind it's telling you that you're not ready. You cant want to try it, but still not be ready to actually do it. Take some time to think this one over. Talk to your boyfriend. If he really loves you he'll understand your wanting to wait. If one of you has to be "convinced" then it's not right. The right time will come. Just wait for it.
Good Luck!
2006-10-25 17:24:48 · answer #3 · answered by angels_sign_ily 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is just trying to get some; don't give in. Tell him you are not comfortable and that you are going to wait til marriage. Watch him run, stick to your guns and i promise two weeks and he will move on. At the same time tell him that if he loves you he will honor your wish and you expect him to wait til your married. He is only playing a game with you. Next thing he will try is asking you to move in with him - that would last about two weeks and than you would be going home to Mon and dad with a I TOLD YOU SO! is that what you want? don't do it, forget him..
2006-10-25 17:32:00 · answer #4 · answered by denfasr 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are not ready your this kind of relationship and if he is always trying to convince you otherwise then something isn't right with this picture you really should do some soul searching because the real answer is within you if you really stop and think about you and him and how things make you feel you will be able to answer this question alone do not rush into anything it isn't worth it once you give it up you can never get it back its a one time shot.
2006-10-25 17:31:57 · answer #5 · answered by Calvin V 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what was so urgent about that? u are just too young to have sex? if u do not believe me ask ur daddy if u should,he knows u better so maybe his response will be different and u will trust his insight....right?hhhahahahhhahahaha
2006-10-25 17:41:02 · answer #6 · answered by PJ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're scared, he understands and he'll wait until you're ready if he truly loves you and if he doesnt then he isnt worth it
2006-10-25 17:22:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he cannot wait than he is not worth it. Just ask him for a little more time.
2006-10-25 17:20:47 · answer #8 · answered by betty_htch 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay..copy and paste every thing on this question and send it to him, saying you and him might have a problem. talk about it allot don't leave questions unsaid or you will regret it.
2006-10-25 17:22:44 · answer #9 · answered by Mandy H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋