My son is 5 years old his dad is in and out of relishionships.And my son dont even live with his dad he lives with his grandma and grandpa.They have him so babyed that he is 5 years old and still takes the binkey at night,if feed him every bite he will not eat,and wheen he does eat all he will eat is mac&cheese.And I think I shoud take full cousty of him but I also want to know what you all think I should do. And before any asks I have been married for 3 years and me and my husband now has a 2 year lod dauther.So what do u all think I should do?
2006-10-25 17:11:25 · 17 answers · asked by momma04 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
I know it can be frustrating to see a five year old being babied. But, unfortunately, these grandparents are his responsibility and they make the decisions for him. As far as the Mac & Cheese goes, it is pretty typical for a five year old to be a picky eater or get on a kick where they only want to eat one type of food.
I would sit down with the grandparents (without the 5 year old in ear shot) and I would express my concerns with the binky. You may want to print out some facts from the internet on why it is not good for a five year old to still use a binky. It is awful for their teeth and gums by the way.
Also, I would discuss with them your other concerns in a non threatening way.
Finally, if you are at a place in your life now to have your son back in your home, then these grandparents should be willing to allow you the opportunity. If you are reasonable with your request, but they are unwilling to accomodate you then you have no other choice but to take them to court or if there is no legal reason he has to stay with them, then you need to simply tell them it is time he comes to live with you now.
2006-10-25 17:31:56 · answer #1 · answered by Mommy 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I see several posts making assumptions / judgments when they should be asking questions. For all we know, your ex could've snatched your son & run off with him when he was little and you could've just recently found them. For the most part, I believe a child should be with his/her mother - but that depends on each individual situation. Your spelling abilities have NOTHING to do with your abilities as a mother. My recommendation is to get a lawyer if you are truly that concerned. There is definitely a problem with a 5 year old taking a binky or not feeding himself! These are emotional insecurity issues. Who actually has custody? The dad or the grandparents? The grandparents you are hindering your son's emotional development and that is a SERIOUS issue, regardless of whether or not he is in a loving environment. You don't mention details as to why your son isn't living with you or why you don't have custody, but if you are married and able to provide a stable, secure, and loving home environment for him, then by all means, go for custody. Be ready to explain your case, including where you've been & what you've been doing for the past 5 years; but even if your son was taken from you, you are entitled to the opportunity to prove you deserve a second chance.
2006-10-26 03:07:35 · answer #2 · answered by Romans 8:28 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well that depends really on how he is doing with the grandparents and how long he has been there .Can you give him attention and enough love and support to get him through the change if you did get custody?
Lots of kids go through picky eating and favorite food phases,But parents should encourage them to eat healthier.I suggest that you take him to a doctor if possible and discuss this because for most kids it is only a phase but i had a newpew who got very sick because of his eating habits so better safe than sorry.
As for the BINKY at age 5 , I think that is gross and very wrong,They should know better than that! It is so bad for his teeth and mouth and probably not psycologically healthy either.Get involved and make things better for him even if you decide against custody!!
2006-10-25 17:23:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I also think you should go for full custody. My question is, how often do you see him now and how long are the visits? He is spoiled and at your house he will be sharing with a little sister, have to relate to a whole new set of "parents" full time, and be away from grandparents that he loves. I hope if you do it, you do it gradually and don't cut the GP out of his life even though you don't approve of how they are raising him. Think of his welfare above all else! Good luck!
2006-10-26 01:37:21 · answer #4 · answered by AKA FrogButt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all, why don't you have custody now. is there any legal document saying who actually has custody. sounds to me like he is just being passed around to whoever will take care of him. if i were you i would file a petition for custody, and make sure you have a dam good lawyer because i can gaurantee you the judge is gonna want to know why he is living with his grandparents in the first place. and he will want to know why you are just now showing any legal concern of your childs welfare. you should have filed for full custody along time ago. in the judges eyes the fact that you are now married and have another child does not make you a better parent, but it sounds like he needs some serious stability in his life. if the father has custody right now, it might be easier beings that his father does not sound capable of providing a stable home for him, and he is in fact living with the grandparents. good luck in whatever route you decide to take.
2006-10-25 19:23:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You said that you already have a husband and a 2 year old daughter, that would be a great new environment for your 5 year old son I think. So why don't you talk to your husband about getting full custody of your son? Convince your husband to it and explain why your son should be under your care. He might help you with that, and your son too. So you could fully take care of your kids and raise them properly. Remember that your son is only 5 years old and that he really needs to be with his mom during his nurturing years. I hope you win your son back... stay cool... c",)
2006-10-25 18:26:21 · answer #6 · answered by kernel 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
that is continually more effective perfect even as the youngster has a brother or sisters.yet because you don't want...enable him meet with different toddlers.purchase him a dogs and play more effective with him.He would have heard contained in the kindergarten someone saying that he/she has a bro or sis and that it really is the suitable!if so,tell your son that if he has a brother or sister,you does not have the money for to purchase him a lot toys and garments and go on holidays...yet it really is a negative excuse for everyone if he/she want brother or sister.Having abro and sis is this kind of blessing and toddlers quite want it...it is your decision.
2016-12-05 05:58:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the child is in a safe well protected and loved environment then let him be. He knows no better now. Just give them some books about good nutrition though . And visit him regularly.
2006-10-25 17:20:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Learn correct grammer and spelling so you can help him in school first. If you are that concerned about him, where have you been the past 5 years while his grandparents were raising him? Even if they have custody, you could be involved in his life to help raise him. It sounds like you're rather ungrateful and can only criticize the people who took him in as their own when his parents couldn't or wouldn't.
2006-10-25 17:16:12 · answer #9 · answered by schoolot 5 · 5⤊ 1⤋
yes it is true that u should have full custody of your son but u have to understand grandparent are always going to spoil their grandchildren. He five now, give him about two more years he going to tell them, I fell that I'm to old to do certain stuff like that. Its always good to have your grandchildren around you, they make you more active as a grandparent. Make them feel young again. You get what I'm saying
2006-10-25 17:25:57 · answer #10 · answered by Danille 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋