i am almost 18 and my bf is 20
i really like him and i want him and he wants me
i live by my own cuz my parents r in france but yet he never went up to my apartment or even asked me to but b4 2 weeks he asked me to move out to his place and that he loves me and cares about me and doesnt wanna leave me any more cuz it is dangerouse in my age to live alone but the problem is we never had sex and now we r goin to sleep in the same bed i wanna move with him but the idea of having sex scares me he said that our first night will be spicial and he is preparing a surprise for me and that i should not be nervous
(we have been together since a year and almose a half
2006-10-25 16:59:29 · 12 answers · asked by aha i wanna know 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if you're not ready to have sex, don't do it. sleeping in the same bed doesn't have to lead to sex. hopefully the surprise is a good one that both of you can enjoy together.
2006-10-25 17:02:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i think moving together is a serious thing to do even more than having sex. Having sex is a normal thing that should not scare you, but do not let anyone to rush you, Do it when you feel ready and do not forget to protect yourself when you do it. Condoms and Pills are a must. I think your relationship is moving too fast, i do agree that living alone may be a bit dangerous but you just have to be careful. I have lived alone for many years since i was 20 and i love being independent. I know that right know you are in love and think that your relationship will last forever, but unfortunately nothing in life is sure. You should give it time and you should finish college first. You should worry about studying and having fun in life, life is too short and you should enjoy it to the fullest. I have known a lot of my friends that have moved together with their boyfriends and things change and they end up breaking up bad and trying to find a a new place to live. Also if you end up breaking up and when guys know you used to lived with a boyfriend they do not seem to take you that serious, Unfortunately that is how society still thinks. Just think about it and hope you make the right choice. Whatever choice you make hope everything goes well.
Good Luck
2006-10-26 00:16:16 · answer #2 · answered by Sandra M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its all about how you feel at the time, if he says he loves you then he will respect what you have to say and be willing to wait until you are ready, You don't need to have sex to sleep in his bed, it can be just as intimate without the physical side but only you can gauge when you are ready. You may find that you are ready and you want to do it, then by all means go for it but don't be afraid of sex, it can be a beautiful thing shared between two people when it is done right. The best advise i can give you is go in there with your eyes open.
2006-10-26 00:08:07 · answer #3 · answered by Jennifer W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most guys only have sex on their mind. You have to consider if you really want to have premarrital sex and if you want to have it with that guy. More importantly, however, what you will be doing is considered "cohabitation." Research has shown that cohabitation is bad for future relationships. It usually leads to divorce and an unhappy relationship. I surmise it's because you're getting to know the guy too fast, but there's probably other reasons. Plus, if it doesn't go right, you might regret it. You need to weigh your own sense of security in living by yourself/with him versus your love life. For your own good, I suggest to live by yourself. Neither of you seem old enough to take care of each other.
2006-10-26 00:04:13 · answer #4 · answered by Jeffrey W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you wanna be together forever why put out? If he wants you forever why couldn't he show his love with an honest commitment. Unless marriage means nothing to y'all, then i guess it only matters to One.
2006-10-26 00:05:53 · answer #5 · answered by eauneua 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
theres some GREAT advice i will give you and u should already know it.. If u and the one you "Love" have sex...use Protection or else you could get pregnant and it could change your life.
2006-10-26 00:05:52 · answer #6 · answered by Jordy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that u should move with in with him but only when u think that u r ready for having sex
2006-10-26 00:02:31 · answer #7 · answered by *Unknown* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont have sex until you are ready no matter how much you love him and how much he wants it...do what you feel is right...
2006-10-26 00:02:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
a year without sex? holyshitt dump him. keep ur apartment, u dont appreciate having ur own pad until its gone
2006-10-26 00:03:17 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be prepared for losing your virginity
2006-10-26 00:10:12 · answer #10 · answered by Seagull 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋