me in this guy was in a relationship i was told by everyone from the start not to mess with him cuz he cant commit to one person ne way he ended up cheating on me but i left town to b with my ex he called me all the time when i was there ne way i ended up coming back to town and i wanted to b with him so i said well lets just b friends with benefits so ne way mabey like 3 days a week i go stay with him he constantly wants me there and tells me i love and i know i love hiim but i cant commit to him because im afraid that if i say u cant b with noone but me and he does cheat on me ill be devastated but if i say and act like it dont bother me if he is with someone else then it wont hurt as bad cuz where not commited when actually even the thought of him with anyone else kills me but im also afraid if i tell its gotta b me or i wont see u no more he might not choice me and want him no matter what what should i do
2006-10-25 16:58:41 · 4 answers · asked by mystical 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I had and still have the same problem as you and like you i do love the guy and am moving back home tobe with him but i have learn how to play his game, they think that they have you wrapped but play the hard **** for a while and even give him a bit of his one medicine, i'm not saying cheaton him but show him what he would be missing and that he is not the only guy around aand you will see, his attitude will change...
Don't give him an ultimatum just yet, play his game and wait a bit - men always seem to want what they can't have - good luck
2006-10-25 17:18:15 · answer #1 · answered by Jennifer W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are caught in a spiders web right now. He is weaving you back into the same life you had. He is enticing you with the I Love You words. Get out of it. Once a man cheats on you, who says he won't do it again when you are not around? Why settle for this person? Are you so appalling that you would let a man treat you this way? You are a valuable person, let someone else love and respect you. A good man. Even if he made you some what happy, your friends were right to warn you. He is a player, please don't be played anymore. It may hurt you to see him with another girl, but the pain will subside in time. Let go and move on to better things, to a better man.
2006-10-26 00:12:27 · answer #2 · answered by woman of steel 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are in love and he may be too, wait and see what happens but just give it a few months.
2006-10-26 00:02:12 · answer #3 · answered by kitty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
BOTH OF YOU NEED TO REALLY SIT DOWN AND TALK
ABOUT WHAT YOU REALLY WANT IN THIS REALTIONSHIP
IF ANYTHING THIS GET TOGETHER WITH BENEFITS
THEN DONT TALK TO ANY ONE ELSE BUT ME. IS NOT GOOD
IF YOU WANT THIS TO MEAN SOMETHING THEN IT SHOULD
BE PERFECTLY CLEAR WHAT YOU BOTH WANT.
2006-10-26 00:15:52 · answer #4 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋