once someone break your heart so hard that it felt like it shattered in to millions of tiny shards of glass and it makes you feel like you are living in hell......ok my quesiton is would you choose death to end this pain quicky or would you live with it and hope that it heals? please state age please and don't simply answer the question comment on it please .........thx
2006-10-25 16:51:43 · 23 answers · asked by confused 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
My age: 27
I have been there time and time again and one thing I know best, time heals all wounds. It may not seem like it now, it may seem impossible, like the worst pain you have ever felt but I PROMISE you, it does get better and just becomes a learning experience. It makes you stronger and makes you get to know yourself better. If you need someone to talk to, i believe my email is included when you look into my profile. Please trust me. I have been there time and time again and I do advise my friends when they go thru this too. No person who can break your heart is worth the time you spend obsessing over them.
2006-10-25 16:56:20 · answer #1 · answered by angelalf1979 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would choose life and hope it gets better. I am a 19 year old female, and recently went through a heartbreak. When I see him (I have to see him quite often because I work with him) it hurts a great deal, I guess it always will a little bit, but the throb of pain does get a little bit duller. I'm guessing that you recently had your heart shattered and felt like suicide or death would be a better alternative than to living with a broken heart. I know it hurts very deeply to have someone you love break your heart, but God has a plan for you. The Bible states that "mourning may last through the night, Joy will come in the morning." Don't be weary, I know it's hard, but things WILL get better, and that's a promise. Try to get out and meet new people, accept and acknowledge that you are heartbroken, but your heart will slowly mend and you will love again. Believe in yourself and have hope for a better day. God bless you!!! :)
2006-10-26 00:00:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age- 54. and you loss sounds like your first love, and I know this because the way you describe your loss is exactly how your first
lost love feels. Honestly- you survive this- been there quite a few times unfortunately, but the good thing is it's like when you ever got a huge cut that was deep and painful- you got a scar on it and even though it might have broke open again and bled, it didn't hurt nearly one bit as much as the initial cut----same with heartbreak- you now have a scar that needs to heal with time--and a new love-- and believe me, you will never feel that earth shattering loss again because your body wont let it happen. Your heart wont let it happen. You will find someone who you KNOW loves you more than you love them and why? Because you will hold back part of your heart (god, I know that sounds corny but its the only way I can put it in words to explain the feeling) Death? now that is painful and final, and dont you want to feel love again, especially with someone who will love you MORE than you love them? Every day will get better- try to not run into her, it's easier and maybe the next time you do run into her you will have a new love with you--- karma----it's a great thing.
2006-10-26 00:05:39 · answer #3 · answered by mac 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh dear.. You need to choose to Live. Remember this :All good things come to those who wait! :) " Ending it is not the answer. My heart has been broken, as like many others out there. There is much more beyond that. Keep in mind that even though your heart may be broken, as time passes the pain gets less & less each day. Keep yourself busy, try some different things. Go be with friends & do what YOU want to do.. Maybe a Movie, Just hang with friends, go to dinner.. Plan a night out on the town. Keep your head up, I promise you it will get better! :)
2006-10-25 23:57:40 · answer #4 · answered by Kammaka2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been there too. I am 51 and it was many years ago. He was an alcoholic and I was getting over a divorce. He was a mean man. Not beating me but inconsiderate and at times hateful. I thought that I loved him. He would **** me off and I would tell him to fu.ck off and walk away. Then a week or so later, I was back in his bed. There was powerful sexual attraction between us and we could not stay away from each other. It was destructive lust and not love. I was finally able to let go for good but I hurt for over a year afterwords. After I finally let myself heal, guess what, another man entered my life and while we never loved each other, we did respect each other and the sex was good. Not as HOT as with the jerk but still very good.
You will heal. It will take time but you will heal. There is someone out there for you. It will happen when you are ready. Spend time with friends. Listen to music read good books.
Death is permanent. A broken heart is temporary, it really is.
2006-10-26 00:06:11 · answer #5 · answered by Gorgeoustxwoman2013 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh...honey i have been there. sobbing and crying and threshing. i know where you are coming from. the pain is so great that you're willing to lose you life for. i feel for you... i do. and you know what, the last time i had that feeling was about a month ago. an d i'm 69. i'm living, i'm
talking to you. i think i'm o.k. yes, i still feel the pain, but not like yesterday. and it get's better day after day. i still might have a tear or five. but i am getting through it. and you are just as smart as me, and you will too. if i can do it at 69 ,you can too. show me. time , time everyday is time .. i promise you good luck j.j.
2006-10-26 00:04:22 · answer #6 · answered by zenasrager 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
33 y/o
I know it hurts now. It sucks worse than anything on the planet, and it will for what seems like a long time to come.
But look at it this way; as bad as you feel now, you did feel equally as good. You will find someone else, and you will feel as good if not better.
Don't give the ***** the satisfaction, move on and learn that you can't have the lows without the highs.
2006-10-25 23:58:58 · answer #7 · answered by JaMoke 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 36 years old and I can tell you I have felt this type of pain before. I know it seems that it will never go away but it will. That saying "time heals all wounds" sounds so cliche but its true. Let yourself grieve but try and do things to lift your spirits. Your friends and family will help you through this. One day you will look back and think of this without pain.
2006-10-25 23:58:57 · answer #8 · answered by MissPriss89 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i will choose the 2nd one.. i continue to live and hope (no..not hope..is I KNOW) that time will heal my pain... eventually i will be ok.. it just a matter of time..
the scar will remain as a painful memory and a lesson learned.
i am going through the same **** like this rite now....it had been 6months rite now.. i think of dying b4.. but i know it is not worth it for a piece of rubbish...
i am 22yrs old.. and i never loved someone so deep n much b4..
2006-10-26 00:04:00 · answer #9 · answered by bLuR.? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"As long as there is hope there is life." That phrase I learned from the character John Carter, created by Edgar Rice Burroughs. I think it's impossible to kill yourself if there is even the slightest glimmer of hope somewhere where only on might see it. It may seem unattainable but why give up?
Life is life. What is Death?
2006-10-25 23:59:29 · answer #10 · answered by eauneua 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋