Before I tell you what my problem is, I should first say that this question is not really about religion, but it has some significance.
For the past months I have been tormented by this dillema. In my school, these bunch of guys (7 to be exact) all want to go out with me! They follow me around like dogs,and asked me out like a hundred time! I don't like anyone of them (not them as individuals but to take them as boyfriends.) It's wrong to date in my religion until your 20 and I'm only 17 and half. Those guys are crazy and they just won't leave me alone! They're driving me insane with constant compliments and callings..... ugh! I had enough of them! I don't know what to do? I don't want to hurt their feelings either, because GOD doesn't like that! What should I Do??
2006-10-25 16:40:01 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
You are being sexually harrassed. Talk to an adult at your school. they are supposed to make sure that does not happen.
Sexual harrassment is serious. Don't worry about hurting them, they are obviously making you uncomfortable, and that is something you need to do something about.
2006-10-25 16:45:00 · answer #1 · answered by the guru 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
While I'm unaware of any religion that dictates you wait until you are 20 to date, if you aren't ready, for any reason including religious motivations, to date yet just tell them 'no'. If you want tell them "sorry, but my religion says I can't date yet and while you all are very sweet I'm not going to date before I'm twenty, why don't you look me up in a few years if you are still interested in me?" Hurting someone's feeling is bad if you are purposely being cruel, telling someone the truth when they ask you a question is not cruel, its honest. If you don't want to date them tell them 'no'. It is far worse to string them along and not give them an answer than it is to just let them go bother someone else. Given the ages its likely that they are just bugging you because they know if makes you uncomfortable. If you just are self assured and stand by your guns then they will probably go away.
2006-10-25 23:47:53 · answer #2 · answered by Jez 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe just tell them u only want friendship and that ur not interesting to date and can't coz of ur religion and that if they really like u they should respect ur answer, ur religion and stop asking u. Just tell them that u only want to be friends. If they carry on harassing u tell ur parents and teacher.
2006-10-25 23:47:42 · answer #3 · answered by xoɟ ʍous 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Pray and ask God to guide you in the right direction. Come up with some possible solutions and then take them up with him.
2006-10-25 23:52:26 · answer #4 · answered by Sigmar 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell tham exactly what you told us..in your religion your not supposed to date until your 20 years old. Tell them it's not them..it's just you are not ready yet for a relationship...its not that hard honey...just be real. Good luck
2006-10-25 23:44:12 · answer #5 · answered by kristina43 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
as one answered, tell them that you're not supposed to date because of your age. Just be real and tell them the truth, if they're good people, they'll understand and stop bothering you..
great commitment...good luck:)
2006-10-25 23:50:33 · answer #6 · answered by Kathya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The important thing is that you are not interested in any of them. Ask them to stop harassing you. If they don't, report them.
2006-10-26 21:06:46 · answer #7 · answered by Mr Ed 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find some guy friends that are strong and know how to fight to back u up and then the guys will leave u alone.
2006-10-25 23:46:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
make up a boyfriend who lives far away--tell them you're really serious about this guy, say you met him on the internet, etc.
2006-10-25 23:43:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What religion are you? Not that it matters in this question,because they shouldn't be harassing you anyway.
2006-10-25 23:45:23 · answer #10 · answered by Serena 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋