my life is tragic. my boy friend that i absalootly adorred dumped me and I still LOVE him. eventhough he doesnt like me and i have a boy friend. him and my bff might go out and then ill be really jellous. i really need help on either hoe to get him back or how to get over him. I REALLY LOVE HIM.
2006-10-25 16:34:30 · 10 answers · asked by HappieeFam[ILY] 1 in Health ➔ Other - Health
Hard to give you a serious answer when you don't even have the will power NOT to get hooked on phonics...
2006-10-25 16:42:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Seriously, are you 13?
1st-- YOU CAN NOT "GET" HIM BACK.
Love has to come to you.
You can not catch it or trick it, conjole, or buy it.
So stop freekin trying because you will annoy the piss out of him and there is NO WAY he will want you then.
The only thing that brings guys back is when a girl develops herself/ her interests, becomes a wonderful person, not the puppy dog they broke up with.
2nd-- There is not "how to get over him" that's not a thing people "do" or a formula, it just happens one day.
The only thing between you and that one day? Time.
And a healthy dose of respect for your self and your ex couldn't hurt.
The good breakups I've had it's because we both respected ourselves and each other which made it okay to part friend.
When you don't respect someone and their opinion/decisioans, that is when you try to change them.
When your respect came from someone else and not yourself, that is when you don't respect yourself once they are gone.
To say "him and my bff might go out and then ill be really jellous" -- You should talk with her and let her know how you feel. Just that it hurts you to see him with anyone else right now, but especially someone you know so well and trust [her]. Not saying they don't date, but hopefully they will wait a month or so when things are not so fresh. I honestly can not think of a good girl friend of mine that would do that if she knew it was hurting me.
At the same time-- It is not his [since he is not dating you] or your bff's responsability to make you "not jellous". That is something that will happen once you respect him and his decision and realise he chose not to date you and was respectful to you by breaking up with you.
Next. He's not perfect. He's not God. You just might not have known him long enough to know all his faults. If he wants to leave, you have to let him go. THink about how annoying it would be to you if you broke up with someone and they kept chasing you, wanting to "talk", and telling people how tragic their life was without you. Would YOU want to date that person? No. SO not only has he said he does not want to be with you but no amount of whatever you're doing now is going to "make him" want you-- he is just going to want you less.
Think about it: If he's not into you and wanted to date someone else, at least he DID Break up with you instead of cheating on you! So quit giving him a hard time, he did you a favor by being true to himself and his feelings-- if you love him, You have to respect that.
Eventhough you would argue to the death with me about this: TRUST ME<> You. Do. Not. "Love" him. if you wrote what you just wrote.
Not saying you're not hurting or hurt, but baby, this ain't love. You've got a lot to look foreward to including real love!!
Lastly-- WHo's your boyfriend Now?? Chopped Liver??
If you DO like him, I'm sure he's sick of hearing how great ex is.
and if you are really really not over ex. maybe put boyfriend now on a break/on hold because that is SO unfair to him.
So either get fair to him and yourself or take some time.
Either way, Let the Ex go-- It's not your choice honey, he's already gone.
He is not "trying to break up with you" "thinking about breaking up with you" -- HE already did. It's done.
Be sad, be mad, be confused-- But don't be a Puppy.
Neither your ex, current bf, or you will appreciate that.
The funny thing is, in 3 months, you will all be friends again.
In 2 years you will wonder what you ever saw in him
in 5 years you will laugh your *** off. Please come back and re-read your question in 5 years, you will enjoy it I promise. ;)
2006-10-25 17:30:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart, I know where your coming from. We have all been dumped and dumped someone ourselves. Try thinking of it this way, you have dumped a guy before, doesn't mean he won't find happiness with another. Same for you, okay you've been dumped, so have I. It hurts like hell, it feels like your heart is being ripped out, and you wonder how the hell the sun still comes up, your pain is so great and overwhelming. Listen up, little one, here's what my daddy told me. " The Good Lord give each of us our life's to live. Don't let this guy have two lives, his and yours." Pick yourself up, dust yourself off. GETTY UP AND GO, CHANCES ARE HE WILL WON'T YOU BACK, AND BELIEVE ME, BY THE TIME THAT DAY ROLLS AROUND, YOU WILL BE WONDERING WHAT IN THE HELL YOU SAW IN HIM IN THE FIRST PLACE. Thanks for the opportunity of answering such an age old question, between the sexes.
2006-10-25 16:44:17 · answer #3 · answered by Strawberry Pony 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a really tough question. Need more info. How old are you. How old is he. Do you Know why he left. Talking is always a good way to resolve any situation if we remember to listen with patients and respect their feelings. Consider his side of the situation try to put yourself in his shoes. Explain how you feel DON"T PLAY THE BLAME GAME. DON"T ACCUSE OR ATTACK. Be real with him . If he still chooses to go his separate way DON"T BE BITTER it only forms a festering boil of jealousy and hate that will kill all chances of any happiness in your life.
2006-10-25 16:50:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love can't be controlled, but, your emotions can be. you can keep an Eagle in a cage and he will stay close to you, and be sad and lonely. If you enjoy looking at the Eagle keep him in the cage, if you love the Eagle, set him free and you may never see him again, but you will feel better knowing you did the right thing. Don't try to hold to someone who is not happy with you. You will be lonely and he will be sad. Let him go, and you can still keep him in your heart.
2006-10-25 16:44:29 · answer #5 · answered by T C 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
one thing you can do is talk to him personally and hear what he says.... ? if anything can be justified then accept it ... if he is just giving some lame reasons... still accept it... coz you cannot change those harder guys... once you are sure about that he certainly wants to avoid you better get rid of all those who are known to him.(at least do not date with them just have a casual talk if in casee you cannot avoid them).. coz they might also dup you...
next thing is time time is the great healer....
2006-10-25 16:46:58 · answer #6 · answered by bobby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you want to remain "good friends" so that you can still see him. It's always harder when they dump you first. As long as you remains friends there will be a chance that he will change his mind and want you back.
2006-10-25 16:41:34 · answer #7 · answered by cookie-monster 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If that's all you've got your life is far from tragic.
Boyfriend problems are minor problems that you learn to deal with as you grow up.
2006-10-25 16:38:23 · answer #8 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well...what you would do is try to reason with him....ask him why he broke up with you and if its for a stupid reason forget him! thats my moms advice...hes not worth it!!! one of her daughters friends say...forget him! there are more fish in the sea!!!! and you have a boyfriend already. so concentrate on him!!!! if he likes u and if u like him back then...stay with him!!!!! thats her best advice!!!!!
2006-10-25 16:41:27 · answer #9 · answered by dotlds 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
JUST GIVE THIS A WEEK AND SEE HOW THINGS ARE THEN. TIME SEEMS TO HELP A PERSON TO HEAL.
2006-10-25 16:38:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋