Okay, I've never had sex, had a boyfriend or been kissed. Most of my friends have only ever dated casually, so I didnt think it was that abnormal. I do have fantasies of hooking up with guys a lot, but seriously.. to actually be in the position, I would be scared! What is wrong with me. I also can't seem to relate to guys/keep them interested long enough to stick around. I know I'm not a lesbian. I seriously need to develeop some experience, since I'm sick of lying when people ask how many boyfriends I've had.
2006-10-25 16:16:03 · 16 answers · asked by kellz8706 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
There is absolutely nothing wrong with you. You don't need to have sex just to have experience. When the time is right and it's the right person, you'll be ready. You'll still be scared, but that's to be expected. Most everyone is their first time. The opposite sex can be very confusing. And people who make fun of you because of how many boyfriends you haven't had are immature or secretly jealous. Men (not boys) admire a woman who doesn't "hook up," no matter what they say. I felt the same way before I had sex and later wished I hadn't rushed into it. Once you have sex you can never have your "first time" again. Make sure it's when you are comfortable, ready, prepared (safe sex always!), and with someone you respect and who respects you. Being a virgin isn't a bad thing, it's admirable. You don't just make decisions with your hormones and that's smart. Good luck, stay safe, and you'll be fine.
2006-10-25 16:23:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
There's NOTHING wrong with you... Your parents should be proud.
I know there is a lot of pressure today for guys and girls to have sex even as young as 18. However, you have gotten to the point where you have reached adulthood and still a virgin. Great job!!!
So you haven't had dates, boyfriends, or sex. You haven't missed a lot except tons of emotional baggage. Be thankful.
Next thing is look around and find a guy that you are interested in. When you do, find out what he likes. Sports? Reading? Chess? whatever... Then show support/interest in that activity and pretty soon you have something that you can talk to him about and keep his interest as you have a shared interest.
2006-10-25 16:21:28 · answer #2 · answered by James B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't lie, it is refreshing to hear there are still girls like you who are still virgins I mean and there is nothing wrong with you at all.
You have simply not met the one for you yet, isn't that amazing, in some way you are fortunate because you don't realize that you know exactly the kind of man that you want. And they aren't the ones around you right now.
Your time will come as it does for all of us, you will have confusing thoughts about this person when it occurs but you will feel the gravitational pull and so will he, if it is meant to be it will happen, just relax and enjoy the company of these young men around you, and don't lie, you may discourage your one and only by doing so for maybe he is keeping himself for someone special like you also. It has happened and no doubt will happen again. Good luck.
2006-10-25 16:22:34 · answer #3 · answered by Neptune2bsure 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey...u sound alot like most people on the part where u lied on the number of bf u had before. U lied because u feel embarrased and u do not want to tarnished ur image. So make it happen. Dun be afraid wif a guy unless he is a monster. A guy can give u love, warmth and companion. Do things together to build up the relationship. Do a worthwhile activities dat will be of a memories to u and him. When u do this, you wont get sick of the guy because u will understand him. YES...UNDERSTAND UR BF. Hun...dont fantasies...make it happen. Good luck
2006-10-25 16:22:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think there is a difference between holding out and being scared of the postion of sex.
If it were you holding out until the right guy came along that would be one thing .
The scary thing about being scared means your in inner turmoil and conflict .This inner conflict could be anything from something relatively benighn to something extremely serous . You need to get psychological help .
Sex with the right person is awesome .In many ways the woman is very much in control and any self respecting man will make it his mission in life to please you if he gets to sleeps with you.
I know you feel powerless but remember this as long as you do not abuse it you being female grants you tremendous power and influence in untold ways that you cannot think of .
Get help but do not feel ashamed .Your waters run deep.
Best wishes,
sincerly Bolounit
2006-10-25 16:39:14 · answer #5 · answered by bolounit1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All I can tell you is be yourself the next time you come up on a guy you like and just start talking to him. I know I am probably making it sound much more simpler than it really is but just give it a try and have fun with it! Just remember, try to find what he's interested in and go with it. If you don't know much about, ask!
2006-10-25 16:22:40 · answer #6 · answered by bubbajoe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with you. Every one is scared the first time. I would not worry so much about what others thought of you. Just be your self. Sex will come to you when you are ready.
2006-10-25 16:27:56 · answer #7 · answered by mike 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be yourself, no one really cares how many boyfriends you've had. There's plenty of time for a husband, when you're living in a van down by the river. I have no idea what that means.
2006-10-25 16:19:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You haven't found the right guy. Dont stress. Have sex when YOU ARE ready. Dont feel as though you have to keep up with your peers
2006-10-25 16:25:24 · answer #9 · answered by Rooster 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that you need to stress about this. When you are ready to have boyfriends, you will. It seems that you just have more important things going on in your life right now.
2006-10-25 16:19:36 · answer #10 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋