I left my girlfriend of 3 years over a month ago, and sometimes, I suddenly feel stricken with overwhelming amounts of sadness. Looking back, I’m almost certain that I made the right decision by ending things. We fought very often, there didn’t seem to be much physical attraction anymore, the relationship became long distance, she wanted things to move faster than I was ready for, I didn’t really get along with her parents, etc. etc. – but there are fleeting moments when I remember how nice some of the good moments were and I find myself questioning my decision. She could be so sweet and so cute without even knowing it. She did some of the nicest things for me while we were dating. I felt like I was the center of her universe sometimes. These memories are nice, but at the same time, they haunt me! I’m guessing that feeling this way might be normal…but it certainly isn’t fun. If anyone has been there before…I’d appreciate any thoughts you might have on holding it together.
2006-10-25 16:12:21 · 15 answers · asked by The Rainmaker 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
it sounds like you know you made the right decision for you, your just missing the good stuff that you had. And that is totally normal. The best advise I can give you is to stay busy. Get more involved in your career, volunteer at your local boy's club, volunteer at your church or community center, go out with your friends, spend some time with your family...work hard, play hard and things will get better for you. You were with the girl a long time, give yourself some time to start a new chapter in your life. Best wishes....
2006-10-25 16:20:33 · answer #1 · answered by Barbiq 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just cool it maam hes not the guy for you and life is not only love its about many many things if you'v moved out yu will not regret it five years later its good tha you have self respect and when he cheated you, you thought he was wrong and left him... i respect such woman ... let me tell yu this will give you a lot of confidence in the long run as for now just concentrate on the things you like the most and let me tellyou though it is difficult it is not impossible to forget him very very soon you will see he will be with another girl and this also will cause a lot of pain and even this you will come over TIME IS THE BEST HEALER untill then just do the things that keep you engaged and friends are the best stress busters
2016-03-28 07:50:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a reason you broke up and forgive yourself for ending the 3 year relationship. Remember the good times, after reading your post I believe you put alot of thought into whether or not you wanted to end the relationship. I know its hard to break out and be on your own but remember that you and your ex deserve to be happy even if that means being apart.
2006-10-25 16:20:34 · answer #3 · answered by avid_rafter765 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There's going to be something that you will always like or love, or admire about her... just realize that even though the relationship is over, there are still emotional attachments that linger for awhile.
It takes time to get thru the tangled mess of those emotional attachments... it took me 2 years to get thru it, after a 21 year relationship.
Those good qualities you still see in her obviously weren't the glue that helped keep you 2 together... otherwise, you wouldn't have ended the relationship.
2006-10-25 16:23:36 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, it is certainly nice that you broke without it getting nasty and that you have fond memories of parts of it. However, you must move on.
Take a short amount of time to "grieve" the relationship and find someone that you do get along with and soon your thoughts of her will go away. They will be replaced by your new love interest.
Pizza, Beer, and Good Friends sometimes help.... You can substitute cola if you wish...
2006-10-25 16:16:36 · answer #5 · answered by James B 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I was once in a similar relationship. It was sad and hard for me when we broke up. I vividly remember the good moments. But I remember the bad also, and think I was smart getting out. Time seems to make you realize life goes on and that you can move on.
2006-10-25 16:26:25 · answer #6 · answered by jaded2809 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You became accustomed to having someone in your life and you're feeling the lack of it, that's all. There are people who let bad relationships drag on for years and years simply because they cannot tolerate being 'alone' even though, in a relationship that isn't fulfilling they are, still, alone in many ways anyway.
Give it some more time.
2006-10-25 16:16:04 · answer #7 · answered by dingobluefoot 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Remember the good times with fondness but remember why you broke up. Trust in the decision that you made, I'm sure you put a lot of thought in it before you actually did it.
2006-10-25 16:14:47 · answer #8 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it needed to be ended, then you know it was the right thing to do. Time passing by will help your feelings of loss to subside, and you will have space in your life for someone who is better for you and herself.
The fact that you're having those feelings means that you are someone who invest himself in his relationships, so it's normal to have to process any loss, regardless of the cause.
2006-10-25 16:26:03 · answer #9 · answered by KIT J 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You cant overcome them, but you can learn to live with them
but of course this a 14 year old who has never been in a relationship so i'm just taking a guess!
good luck anyway!!!
2006-10-25 16:15:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋