..In my boyfriend's dream!!!
My boyfriend had a dream that I had sex with a guy friend of ours. He now is convinced that this has happened or will in the future. I have been friends with this guy for almost 5 years and it has never been more than that. Since I have been with my boyfriend (4 yrs) I barely even talk to the guy anymore, because my boyfriend gets so upset about it.
How do I get him to relax and understand I love him and just him?
2006-10-25 15:42:44 · 28 answers · asked by *Amanda* 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Maybe he's just jealous, or insecure. You don't have to do anything for him, it's his problem he feels like you want some other guy. Maybe you can talk it over with him and try to make him understand. You don't have to sacrifice your friendships for him. A person who insists so is just selfish.
2006-10-25 15:47:33 · answer #1 · answered by foxpassed 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well your boyfriend shouldn't keep you from talking to people, he doesn't control you.
a dream is a dream, some happen and some dont.
the fact that you dont talk to this friend anymore your boyfriend is being anal. plus, if he is the one freaking out, maybe he is cheating? i just dont understand how anyone in love can think a dream is true. he is just taking it way too seriously. maybe he has been thinking a lot about either, cheating himself or maybe something has happened lately that just has his mind going wild. but i say dont take it so seriously, if he doesnt drop the whole dream thing soon, your best bet if to take a break or break up, he isnt worth the engergy.
good luck
2006-10-25 15:48:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most men get insecure when they are lacking some where, but I don,t what the case is but I can say that your boyfriend should know that dream are dreams you only make them come true when you dwell on them. But my mom always told me when you dream of a girl you love in your dream it usually mean it's a dude that may be close to you, and when you dream of a guy that mean it a girl so watch out that may have meant that one of your home girls you close to probably came at your man. I am just saying don't be naieve pay close attention to the signs.
2006-10-25 15:52:52 · answer #3 · answered by biscuit181 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it seems like if he has no trust on you cause that's just a dream and any one can have diffrerent weired dreams so you better think what your are doing before marrying him.
did you knew this friend before meeting your boyfriend? If yes he needs to accept you as you are cause no one has the right to prohibited you from doing what you want everybody has the right of freedom, and if he's just your boyfriend right now imagine what will be your married life with him in the future!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
so just let him konw that the one you love is him and no one else. but make sure he understands that you cannot just abandon your friends just cause he wants. sometimes a good frienship is better than a love friendship.
tek care? God Bless you!
2006-10-27 06:56:16 · answer #4 · answered by BABY BOY 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. That's actually kind of funny. Your boyfriend is taking this WAY too seriously. If it happened in YOUR dream, I could understand his concern a little better. But if he's the one that dreamt it, I think that shows his paranoia and possesiveness. You need to have a serious talk with him, and let him know you love him, and if he doesn't trust you, then it's probably not a good relationship to be in.
2006-10-25 15:47:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good luck he seems to have green eyes over a friend and that happens all the time..
So you either get them to be friends or have a boyfriend who acts like a child over a dream
2006-10-25 15:46:48 · answer #6 · answered by aaricka 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your bf is obviously thinking "5 years is a long time to know a guy" and most guys aren't friends with a girl for that long unless they want to be with them. All you can do is reassure him that it'll never happen and it was just a dream. Maybe try to find your male friend a gf so your bf doesn't get so suspicious.
2006-10-25 15:46:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
guys are vey weird,(i know cuz i am one). He feels threatned by this other person, so his subconscious made up a dream for him. You can't just flip a switch and make him trust and believe i you. He has to realize what he has in you, and what you guys have together in yourelationship. Just be patient. Make sure you stick to your guns, though! He may try and flip his paranoya on you to make you be the bad guy...
2006-10-25 15:47:52 · answer #8 · answered by icu292876 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems that your BF has issues with insecurity, which will likely manifest into control issues. Over time, this condition will likely worsen and may manifest into forms of abuse. Since it has been 4 years and the condition has existed over the course of that time, I would recommend that you break up and find a guy who is secure with himself.
2006-10-28 05:02:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a simple solution honey,just tell your bf that your old friend has a huge appendage and he just doesn't shape up anymore.
Failing that I was also blessed with a large member so gimme a call or an e-mail lmfao.
2006-10-26 07:33:28 · answer #10 · answered by longestintheshowers 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋