baby throw tantrum middle of night wants to sleep with us?

Question

baby wakes up at 2:00am crying wants to sleep with parents

Answer 1

not sure what the question is...

Answer 2

You should mention how old your child is.

Since you have it in the "Toddler & Preschooler", he or she is almost DEFINATELY old enough to sleep alone.

Do you let the toddler make all the family decisions?

I don't ask that to be rude or offend you. I just want to help bring it into perspective.

There's no reason a "baby" should get his way when he "insists" on sleeping with parents.

It sucks, but the best thing to do is to make sure first that he doesn't have a particular reason to need you, other than just "wanting" you.

Get up, get him back in his bed, give him a kiss, sing him a song, turn the light off, go back to your room. Do that every time. The first several nights will not be fun, and you will most likely not sleep if he freaks out. But if you stick to it, he'll eventually get the point that Mommy and Daddy love him, but he still has to sleep in his own bed.

He'll get it. :-)

I'm assuming the baby is 18 months old or more, based on the catagory the question is in. If you're talking about a much younger baby, or if there is actually a physical reason he needs to get up, look into some other suggestions.

Answer 3

first of all that is the worst thing that you can start with baby, letting him/her sleep in the bed with you. I know they are so cute and you can't help it but now you are in trouble. The only thing that I can think to do is put baby in the crib and let him/her cry and do not pick baby up. Just check on baby every 15 minutes to make sure him/her is okay,it will take quite a few times for baby to get the idea, but will, just don't give in and make sure baby is put to bed every night at the same time, this way by that time him/her will be sleepy. You can also turn on some easy music or play the TV low if that is what you did when baby slept with you, sometimes they just want to hear noise too.

Answer 4

What harm is there in letting your child sleep with you? You will have a happier, more secure child because of it. Type in co-sleeping or attachment parenting on a search engine and you'll find lots of info on it. Your baby is only a baby for a short time. Enjoy it and get all the night time snuggles you can.

Answer 5

If you know your baby is ok, you have to let him/her cry. I paid good money for the following advice....Walk into the room, leave lights off/low. DON'T talk or play. Lay him/her down and pat them for just a moment, cover with blanket, etc, and leave the room promptly.
Increase the amt. of time between your visits to the room each time. The baby will learn you're not going to pick her up and its time for sleep...eventually. It's enough to break your heart. It will probably take a few nights or more. Its hard to do. It's tempting to let the baby sleep with you. I caved in a few times because I was so exhausted. You have to do what works for your family. I ended up sleeping on the couch holding my daughter in my lap for many, many nights just because I was desperate to sleep. I would have slept standing on my head alot of nights just to be able to sleep at all! Do what works for you.

Answer 6

I cannot stress how important it is not to get into the habbit of letting your child sleep with you...your bed is your bed and thats it...you need your space and your "time" with your partner and letting the child sleep with you will just lead to long nights wishing that you and your partner could have some time together alone...
Try comfort crying...or control crying...(same thing) it basically retrains them into a good sleeping pattern...there are alot of web sites that are for and against the method...but I think its personal choice...the way I see it...a couple of nights working on controlled crying sure beats bed sharing nights for months or maybe years on end...
Make babys bedroom a special place too...add special touches to it...a new quilt or a new bed time teddy...if your childs old enough to understand then maybe that will work too...

Answer 7

This is one of the hardest parts of parenting. It is called consistancy. You have to be consistant in not letting your little one get in bed with you. This may mean many nights of interrupted sleep, but it will be worth it in the long run. Just keep tucking in your baby and don't let the baby in your bed, unless you are ready to have new sleep partner. Good luck!

Answer 8

Put baby back in it's own bed pat on the back, walk out of the bedroom, if baby cries let baby cry. The reason baby make tantrum is because baby is in control of the situation and knows that if baby make tantrum baby will get baby's way.

Answer 9

Ignore the crying, crying is good for the lungs it makes them stronger. Let the child sleep in his/her own bed because the older the child gets the worst the situation gets.

Answer 10

it can be hard to do in the beginning, but you'll have to be firm and very strong, otherwise as they grow up, it will be much harder for you to get rid of "bad habits". took us 3 long nights before our 2 yr-old baby stopped crying and agreed to sleep in her bed. just letting her cry for hours was not easy though, not at all. hope this helps.

Answer 11

My son does the same thing to me. It is such a bad habit to break, I worked late most if his early childhood so I would be so tired I thought it was easier to just put him in my bed so I wouldn't have to stay up all night and suffer.
I think it is wrong, and you should have more strength then I did and make sure you fight to put him back in his bed or it will cause more trouble in the end.