Y is it that many people consider spanking their children abuse?

Question

Now a days if you are seen spanking your child ( i mean spanking, not beating ) it is considered abuse. I totally disagree with that. for example... I have a friend that is really against spanking. She never spanks her kid because she does not want to go to jail. This little boy smack his mom so hard across the face to the extent that it makes her contact lense pop out of her eye. This happens constantly, and he does not get spanked. I completely agree with spanking and children sometimes need it.. What do you think?

For the few that disagree....spanking and physical violence is completely diffrent. I think that all those abusive parents are the one that made society how it is now. Not the parents that are trying to bring up their kids to be respectful. A spank in the rear can't. be compared to a punch in the face or a slap or a beating.. and yeah There is other forms of correcting a situation, time outs, counting to 3, and what not, but a child needs to know they need to respect you as a parent... counting to three is only going to get you so far untill they forget and do it again. I'm not saying it doesn't work, it does but a spanking is good ONLY and ONLY when it is absolutely needed. For example if my kid is smacking me punching me, beating on other 3 mo. old babies like in the mothers case that I mentioned up top. Do you think that deserves a " Honey you are going to have to go to time out because you smacked me and hit your 3 mo old cuz on the head " I think that would def. deserve a spank.

By the way this kid is 3 yrs. old.

Answer 1

Spanking is what made me what I was. Though i didn't always approve of it, I knew I needed it sometimes. Also, now that i'm 14 and more independent and responsible, my mom doesn't do it anymore. So I thank my mom for doing that. Great question. I agree.

P.S. However it is partly due to the levels of spanking that can occur. My mom used a plastic spatella and spanked my hands or bottom. But there are those who use belts on their barenaked child. So that's where the controversy is.

Answer 2

I agree with you that spanking should not be against the law, those children not spanked when doing such a thing like smacking his mother hard enough for her contact lens to pop out does need a spank and if not spanked will most likely be one of those kids that grow up and end up in jail for really bad crimes such as robbery or even murder. Our children should not rule us, Us as parents need to put are foot down or there will be nothing but murders and major crimes all around us. An example is that in alberta two men went to there old teachers home and beat the **** out of her and left her for dead not these were a couple of boys were the parents just gave them a tap on the hand for doing wrong. But it just is not the parents that are at fault it is also are laws rather it be any where in the world, everything has to change. do not agree?

Answer 3

I was a very rebellious/belligerent child. Everyone spanked me... my grandfather said that he spanked me more than all his children and grandchildren put together. I believe if they had not spanked me, I would have ended up in prison or worse. As it is, I have had zero infractions of the law in my life (not even a speeding ticket). But, they also gave me lots and lots of positive reinforcement (that is just as important). I love them with all my heart and I'm so glad they wailed on my bottom... I really needed it.
Those people who give those rubbishy arguments against spanking don't have a clue. I have a super high self-esteem and spanking didn't teach me to hit... I got spanked for hitting people. Look at how the children are ending up these days. Just how many school shootings, violence, rebellion, etc. have we had from children who were not spanked? As people quit spanking more and more, these things will continually go up more and more. Just look at the statistics from back in the days when people spanked. Spare the rod...

Answer 4

I really think that small little spanks on the childs butt is nothing to consider abuse. Childen need limits. They need to be corrected and know what is right and wrong. I don't agree with slapping across the face, hitting the child with bare bottoms, hitting with any types of belts. I was hit with mens belts and conveory belt and know the pain this leaves on a child. There is a fine line between correcting a child and abusing a innocent child.

Answer 5

Many many people are abusive spankers. They spank too hard and too often. so they give everyone who occasionally gives their kiddo a little pop on the behind a bad reputation.

I think spanking should be used only when a child is putting himself or other people in real danger. Like running out in traffic, or messing with the stove, or lighting matches, or something. That way you and the child and everyone else knows that your are doing it only when it is truly necessary -- not when mom or dad are just tired, annoyed, or on a power trip. A child who is hitting his or her mom should be put in solitary confinement and deprived of his mother's company. that is the natural consequence of hitting people -- they don't want to be around you anymore. I'm not saying a pop on the behind will do lasting damage, but I think the separation from mom is actually more effective in stopping this kind of behavior. I think that if you're spanking more than one or two times a week, your spanking is not being effective.

Answer 6

I think spanking should be used as a last resort. If time-outs or taking toys away don't work then I will spank. If my kids try running into the street then I will spank. I have seen women in stores screaming and swearing at their kids and dragging them by their hair. I think these are the people abusing their kids, not the spanking parents.

FYI- I was spanked as a child but I was spanked for everything! I would get spanked for disagreeing with my father. I feared him more than I loved him. I was really against spanking until I had my own kids and knew there was a time and place for it.

Answer 7

There is a huge difference between spanking and beating. Each parent should have the right to disapline their children to a safe extent. I personally spank my boys when necessary. I also use other methods such as removal of favorite items, toys, televisions, play station, etc. Also, I put my son in time out more often then spanking.
I know, I myself was spanked as a child. I deserved it most of the time due to my misbehavior, but I didn't consider it a beating then and I don't now.
The reason people consider it abuse is because there are one too many crazies out there who do abuse their children and give us good parents a horrible name.

Answer 8

I agree. The Bible teaches it too. I spank my children. It works. The problems some when parents strike out in anger. You have to discipline in love and be in control of what you are doing. Some firm swats on the padded fanny works! Don't let your kids act like brats until you are fed up. That's were child abuse starts. We talk with our children before and after a spanking. Sometimes we even pray with them. It can be a sweet time.
I have seen some pretty ugly sights. Some people are idiots and don't need children!!!

Answer 9

Great Question

I think it is the anti spanker's goal to make people think spanking is abuse and illegal, which it is NOT.

I don't mean people who chose not to spank as there approach, but don't criticize people who do. I mean people like dr. spock, or the people who have these anti spanking web pages. I think these people had the ever living $h!t kicked out of them as a child and think that's what we mean by spanking.

A funny note which relates to story about your friend - Anti spanker's say children who get spanked are more aggressive and will learn to hit. Here is a child who doesn't get spanked yet knocks the contact out of his mom's eye when he hits her. Ya if you slap you kid across the face everyday they will think hitting is OK, but an occasional spanking, not a chance.

Answer 10

I disagree. Violence breeds violence.

I don't see how it is ok for a parent to physical cause pain to their child but their child is not allowed to do the same "punnishment" to the parent when the parent does the same thing.

Conflicting and hyporcritical.

I grew up just fine with out being spanked.

Sometimes children need it. Ok, I agree.

Sometimes parents need it too! as they are lacking the parenting department thinking spanking is number 1 way of correcting behavior.