Ok, he drinks, smokes, does pot, cocaine, gets high all the time,is under house arrest, and other bad things, but he's a really nice guy. I am kind of uncomfortable about the fact that he does these kinds of things because I wouldn't do them now (he's only 14), but he is a great caring kind of guy.
2006-10-25 15:10:44 · 17 answers · asked by XOXOkrazykittyXOXO 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well this shouldnt be that tuff for you! you said that you were uncomfortable about the fact that he uses drugs,drinks etc.. i would say that you just are swoomed over the guy who is probly cute and what you say a great guy. he seems to be great at doing drugs and parting all the time, dont set yourself up for disappointment, he is only 14 if he is in this much trouble at that age just "THINK" how he is gonna be when he is older. dont set your self to be around people who are outside your comfort zone.it seems that he has many "issues", you have a long time to find a nice guy for yourself. dont saddle up and ride this one you will only end up hurt in the long run.
2006-10-25 15:24:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
a person can only truely care about one thing at a time. If he does pot, cocaine, ect., and is under house arrest, then he is probably addicted, whether he wants to admit it or not...he will always be looking out for his next fix, not for you...it is a bad idea.
Additionally, he is under house arrest, that means that, even at 14, he is a criminal. He is a 14 yr old criminal, NOT A GREAT CARING KIND OF GUY. If he was, he would not be considered a threat to some portion of society, as are all people put under house arrest. Essentially, he is only concerned with himself, not others.
Best of luck to you
2006-10-25 22:18:56 · answer #2 · answered by CJT 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
FORGET HIM!!! He might be nice now but as time goes on and his addiction becomes stronger you can kiss Mr. Nice Guy good bye. If he is into all of that at 14, by the time he`s 18 he will be probably behind bars. The fact you dont want to do these things will cause trouble in a relationship anyway. No doubt he will try to get you to try the drugs. He will say they wont hurt you, they will make you feel good what ever it takes to get you started. This boy needs real help and soon.Be a friend and get him some help.
2006-10-25 22:24:24 · answer #3 · answered by richard b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you really need help with this issue? Really nice guys do not drink, smoke pot, use cocaine, or are under house arrest. Getting the wrong guy can destroy your life. Think about what you are doing. You know what you should do.
2006-10-25 22:16:06 · answer #4 · answered by wixom62 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, first of all he does do drugs and drinks. He doesn't seem like the type of guy that would or could be a good boyfriend. You may enjoy his company, but you have to look at the big picture. Do you want a guy like that as a boyfriend. By what you are saying, you don't. I would say that you don't need to be his girlfriend, but would say that if you want to make an impact on him then I would say that maybe you want to befriend him and try to help him get on the right path. Try to get him to talk to a counselor or something like that. These are just some suggestions that I have.
2006-10-26 00:45:31 · answer #5 · answered by Cathy C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK, I loved this pothead/heroine addict when I was 17, and all I can say is NO. NO NO NO NO NO. Do not waste your time.
Drug addiction and petty crimes are not funny, and truly *nice guys* don't do that kind of stuff. So no, do not date him. Go out with the nice geek in your class; you will get way more respect in the long run and you won't be dragged down with him. Bad boys can ruin your life...even the nice ones :)
2006-10-25 22:17:01 · answer #6 · answered by ValentineP 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No its not okay. The reason why is he does these things and sees nothing wrong with continuing doing them. Yes he may be a caring kind of guy but that caring kind of guy may get you hooked on doing drugs too. (Do you really want to go down loser lane with him?)
The only time I say it would be okay to go out with him is AFTER NOT BEFORE he cleans up his act for years, not days, not weeks, and not months. (At least you know he is serious about being sober.)
2006-10-25 22:21:09 · answer #7 · answered by avid_rafter765 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is only 14? what do you think is so great and caring about this guy? You haven't described one thing to provide an example of his great caring attributes. You've provided a great picture of his negative attributes. Do you think he cares about himself as much as he cares for you? Do you think he cares enough about anyone else? What about his parents? Does he care about his parents? Is he a great caring kind of guy to his parents? Sounds like a potential wife beater to me, my experience tells me this guy cares for no body and hates himself so much it won't belong before he turns that hatred towards you or others. but, hey if that is your style go for it.. sometimes a good hard knock lesson is what it takes
2006-10-25 22:19:27 · answer #8 · answered by Teresa A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you on pot,coke,drunk right now?
First of all, hes 14!!!! With this back ground....bad news.
If you have to ask, he probably is the wrong guy.
2006-10-25 22:14:26 · answer #9 · answered by Cf Precious 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a love match to me,knock yourself out.
2006-10-25 23:02:02 · answer #10 · answered by master_der_man 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋