My son won"t stop crying when he goes to bed....HELP ME!!!?

Question

NEED SOMEONES HELP...I HAVE A 23 MONTH OLD BOY. WHEN I PUT HIM IN HIS CRIB AT NIGHT TO GO TO SLEEP, HE FREAKS OUT. DOESN'T STOP CRYING. HE WANTS ME TO TAKE HIM OUT OF BED. THEN AFTER HE FINALLY FALLS TO SLEEP, HE WAKES UP A COUPLE OF HOURS LATER AND DOES THE SAME THING. THEN I HAVE TO TAKE HIM OUT OF HIS CRIB BECAUSE HE WAKES MY TWO SCHOOL AGED CHILDREN UP. PLEASE HELP ME. I AM GOING CRAZY...THANKS

Answer 1

ok....during the day NEVER LET HIM FALL ASLEEP...even if he/she wants to.... when night comes....he/she will sleep like a baby...well he is a baby..lol.......but try it and let me know about it...

Answer 2

Oh, this is rough. Most important thing is that you stay calm, not freaked out yourself, and very matter of fact. Not angry either. Do you have a good bedtime routine that you always do the same way? Then 1-2 stories. Then a going to bed transitional song that you made up together. Then maybe a song that you sing while you rub his back and smile (for 3 minutes max). Then leave the room smiling, confident and happy. He'll cry at first, but when you check on him, make it longer and longer intervals, and always look empathic but confident that you love him and he's okay, and he'll get to sleep eventually. It may take some weeks, but probably less.

Believe it or not, the critical factor is being relaxed and matter-of-fact yourself. Also, make sure all adults agree to handle it the same way or together. If someone is disapproving or stressed, it's a weak link and he could pick up on it.

All else fails, ask the pediatrician! And oh yes, definitely get the ears checked before you do anything else. Untreated ear infections are painful and can cause permanent damage.

Answer 3

My 19 month old son does this too, and even though it's hard, we don't go to him when he's in there throwing a tantrum. It has to be the hardest thing I've ever done, but I know that I have to resist the temptation. Once I go in there, I'll end up bringing him back to my bed with me, and then none of us will get any sleep! Make sure that he's not taking too many long naps during the day, so that he's extra tired when it's bedtime. Also, make sure that you're not putting him to bed too early. If you have to, put him to bed a little later than usual, and see if this works. As hard as it is, try not to rush in there and rescue him from his crib when he cries. I know it's hard, especially since you have two school aged children as well, but if he knows that when he cries, you come, it'll just get worse! My son is slowing growing out of this now, but it does take some time. Good luck to you!

Answer 4

What time are you putting him to bed? Does he have a long nap everyday? A late nap? Something may have frightened him in his room once.....We have no way of knowing what little ones see in their rooms at night when they are alone and they can't tell us...........How long has he been doing this? It's hard to help without knowing other answers.......
I would just suggest at this point that don't just put him in his room and leave...I mean you may not, but I don't know...Make bed-time almost fun.....Read him a story or two b/4 you put him down........My daughter did this at 3 1/2...After a story or two then I would kiss her good night, she would roll over and I would rub her back until she fell asleep....But I told her that I would get ready for bed when she fell asleep (shower) that way she knew why she didn't see me if she woke up....It usually worked unless she was sick.......Hope I helped (good luck) Maybe rock him sometime.......Plus don't forget the age, hence terrible twos!!
I think most kids go through this...One of mine did, the other didn't.......go figure

Answer 5

Human infants are primates. We evolved, like chimps, orang utans, and gorillas, to be held by our mothers most of our early childhood. Not being with mommy is incredibliy stressful - literally, we know the brain of a baby/toddler away from mommy is flooding with stress hormones that impair learning and raise the risk your child will have anxiety or mood disorders.

Nature provides a very simple way for you all to get a good night sleep. Let him sleep with you. Get a king sized bed for all or a twin to set up next to yours. Any other method is fighting nature. Let him sleep with you and you will all be happier and well rested.

Go to a zoo and check out new gorilla and orang moms - they never put their babies down - for years! This is how we evolved, this is what our babies need and want. It's more than okay to give it to them.

Answer 6

Try soothing music.Every now and then my son wakes up in the middle of the night and "click" if cries for more than 5 minutes(and he's not sick) i press play and he's back out again.You should try the music with putting him asleep too he might cry but it won't last too long.Put the volume up to about 3 or so that he can't drown it out with his crieing but not too loud where you can't hear him or to where the music will wake him once drifts off! GOOD LUCK!

Answer 7

I just want to say that my son has always been the same way. I hope the advice giving here helps you cuz none of it worked for us. (no napping during the day actually makes my son sleep worse at nite). My husband ends up sleeping with my son so we can all get some sleep. Good luck to you!

Answer 8

Infant colic (also known as baby colic and three month colic) is a condition in which an otherwise healthy baby cries or screams frequently and for extended periods, without any discernible reason.

The condition typically appears within the first few months of life and almost invariably disappears, often very suddenly, before the baby is eight months old. It is more common in bottle-fed babies, but also occurs in breast-fed infants. The crying frequently occurs during a specific period of the day, often in the early evening.

Answer 9

Ear infection.

It happened to my girl, and I was actually becoming angry with her at night, thinking she was just freaking for no reason. Turns out, she had an ear infection.

I felt like a heel for about a week lol.

He's not freaking out because it's his crib, he's in pain because when they lay down, their ears hurt.

Answer 10

There's a wonderful book you should read. I, and all my friends swear by it's advice. I read it in like two days. It's called "Healthy Sleep Habits, Healthy Child", by Marc Weissbluth. He's brilliant. If you follow his advice, you'll have a little angel in no time.

Answer 11

Definitely get his ears checked. However, if his ears are clear and this has been going on for while you're just going to have to get over it. Put him in and let him scream. He needs to learn that you're in charge not him. You can't give into his every whim. Do it the first night on a Friday just so you have two days to get him accustomed to it.