And im talking about a long standing relationship. One with trust and comfort. But she just doesn't like sex? And I know im not doing anything wrong, because communication is there. Someone who has a low sex drive and i have a much bigger one?
2006-10-25 14:49:27 · 15 answers · asked by Tropicalboy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I wouldn't dump someone for that. Sex isn't everything. But I would be concerned that she wasn't worried about not having a sex drive. A low sex life not only hurts your partner, it can be a sign that something is wrong with you. Has she seen a doctor about it?
2006-10-25 14:53:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are in a long standing relationship with someone, and your sexual needs aren't being met, the first question you have to ask is: do you love this person? If you do, you need to find other ways of pleasing yourself. If you don't, maybe you need to look into another relationship.
If you love our girlfriend, talk to her. Ask her about why she doesn't like sex. Does it hurt? Is she just not interested? Is there something you could do to make her more comfortable, to feel more pleasure? Find out what is at the root of this, and then you can move forward. Plus, girls love it when guys are attentive to their needs, so it will be a sure bonus if you are ready and willing to please her.
If she just has a low sex drive, you need to find out why. Many people just get tired of sex after a while, or some people might just not be very interested. If she's just tired of it, try something new - role play, toys, handcuffs, videos, sex toy excapades, new positions, erotic books, having sex in new places, lighting candles & being romantic. If she just has a low sex drive, suggest going to the doctor and finding out if there is a way to make her sex drive higher.
All in all, if none of this works and she still doesn't want to do it, then you have to decide if you love her enough to back off and leave her alone. There are always things you can do by yourself - maybe masturabte more and get some porn.
I hope you and your girlfriend have a good talk & everything works out for the best:)
2006-10-25 22:04:02 · answer #2 · answered by lavender 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would honestly suggest several things. You say that communication is there, does that mean you talk about sex, and things she might like to experiment with? If you don't, then maybe you should suggest a few things, see what she likes or doesn't like. The second thing I'll suggest, is maybe she needs to get her hormones checked. My husband found out he had low testosterone levels, and so his sex drive was very low, no matter what we tried. Sometimes you can get into a rut, and something different needs to be tried. I wouldn't give up a long standing relationship over a possibly fixable problem. Try some different solutions, then see where they get you, if nothing changes, maybe you need to sit down and be up front with her about it.
2006-10-25 22:03:07 · answer #3 · answered by mercymarie3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mate, if u do her properly there is ABSOLUTELY NO WAY she is not going to like sex. u say "I know I'm not doing anything wrong, because communication is there" but u prob are, its not about communication its about using ur little instrument the right way. Try this, put her in bed tell her she doesn't have to do anything just close her eyes and relax, then cover her with chocolate or honey or whatever u like, then lick it off her, on her nipples and down there as well, then finger her and lick her clit at the same time, make sure she has at least one orgasm before u stick ur stick on her stick receiver, do it nicely and she will be begging u for a next time. PS: don't dump her until u actually do sum proper work on her.
2006-10-25 22:01:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been married 28 years. The last seven years or so have been without sex. My wife is my best friend, partner in life and I still find her to be endlessly charming. Nothing is perfect. I love her deeply, passionately and abidingly, and she loves me more than I probably deserve. If I were to leave her over that one issue I'd probably get what I deserve - nobody else would measure up in any of the ways that are reallly important.
2006-10-25 21:55:04 · answer #5 · answered by johnmadsen53 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmm That's a hard one...
Sex is usually pretty important in a relationship, one way or the other. And if you're already unhappy with it (doesn't sound like you're married) trust me, it will become a problem.
Try talking to her see if she'll open up to it a little more, tell her how you feel...
If she won't or can't and it doesn't change, I know you don't want to hurt her but maybe you should look for someone who likes it as much as you do!!!
2006-10-25 21:55:06 · answer #6 · answered by Auddi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm in the same boat. It's now maybe once a year. My solution, don't want to divorce so I found a lady friend with the same problem. Both of us are extremely discrete. Sad to say?? I don't feel guilty. I think the opposite of this is: does she feel guilty for not fulfilling her part of the marriage.
2006-10-25 21:53:25 · answer #7 · answered by WILLIAM W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been married for about ten years.....my husbands and my sex drive are often not been on the same page. I suggest, before you form any life long committment, that you find someone who matches you in the 'drive' department. It just makes life moe interesting.
2006-10-26 00:27:24 · answer #8 · answered by KaLee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes I am a woman and I would dump a man if he could not fufill my sexual need. Even if you have deep feelings for that person eventually you are going to have the tendency to try to find someone who can satisfy that void that person is not fulfilling.
2006-10-25 22:01:52 · answer #9 · answered by Still_21_nheart 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know you can be granted a divorce over it, but if i wasnt married then if it was for a long time then ohhhhhhhhhhhhh yeah id dump her and find someone else
2006-10-25 21:51:58 · answer #10 · answered by someone_you_wish_you_knew 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋