he refuses to obey the teacher, he refuses to make his work on school, he doesent care and spend all day doing nothing. Last week he has a substitute teacher and he was very cooperative but this week the teacher returned and he returned to the same behavior. I would like some advise or some reference book in which point this kind of behavior.
2006-10-25 14:49:16 · 18 answers · asked by lindaleyva 1 in Education & Reference ➔ Preschool
It sounds like his behavior is interfering with learning at school. The good news is that there is time to work on this because he's young and there are resources for you as a parent!
Please ask the school to have a trained counselor or education
specialist observe him in the classroom setting on a normal day while the class is engaged in a variety of activities (large group, small group, social/play, listening, working at desks).
A one on one educational evaluation by the school psychologist can help identify differences in learning behavior outside the normal classroom and identify any special needs. Don't be discouraged about this, if special needs are discovered early, your son will have more time to develop learning skills and can avoid developing frustration with attending school. Many special needs, if addressed this early, can be overcome, allowing your son to achieve well in school!
You will need to talk with the experts at school about his learning behavior at home. The following are important questions to answer about how he acts at home:
What does he enjoy talking about?
What motivates him?
What physical activity?
Does he read? Does the family read together?
Can he do simple chores? Obey? Follow rules or directions?
There are plenty of books about helping children with their behavior at home & at school. Since he is in school and can be observed there, I would see if the counselors & teachers can point you in the right direction so you are not overwhealmed with all the (sometimes conflicting) information out there.
Although the diagnosis might not fit him and you should seek out professional help in figuring out what's going on, you may be helped by reading a little about oppositional behavior or oppositional /defiant disorder. Although this description may not fit, some of the techniques or ideas might also help your son. I found a book which really helped me and edit this to include the title if I can find it later.
May God bless you with all the patience and wisdom you need to hang in there and get your son off to a good start in learning!
2006-10-25 22:58:25 · answer #1 · answered by JA 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Since he was cooperative w/ the sub. teacher I would say that there is some problem your son is having w/ teacher. Have you talked to him about why this is happening? Possibly his teacher has done something to make him dislike her/him b/c he didn't have issues w/ the sub. teacher. If talking it out doesn't work I would talk to school about changing classes, although in my experience schools aren't really good about getting classes changed b/c it causes waves, etc.
2006-10-25 15:05:07 · answer #2 · answered by txgal 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It looks like to me it's the teacher. For him to behave good with the subsitute teacher. and then with the return from the teacher all of the sudden his behavior change, something is going on. Talk to your child and ask him if there is anything that the teacher has done to him, or anything at all.
2006-10-25 15:04:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Can you put a cassette recorder in your son's bookbag, that he can't find. It may give you an indication of what's going on.
Maybe there is something the teacher is doing to him that he won't tell you about. Try to schedule a meeting with the school principal, as well as, your son's teacher.
Also, ask the principal, if you can sit in, on the class your son is in.
2006-10-25 14:56:05 · answer #4 · answered by newyorkgal71 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know u must have tried lots of ways.... but all i can say is what i do with my 4 yr old is bribe him with things he would like most ... i would tell him he would not be allowed comp or i would not play with him if he continues doing the things which i dont want.... it does work but not all the time.... routine putting such conditions makes no effect so sometimes i would tell him he would go to play school n will have to wear diappers if he still dont want to behave like grown up....also tell him if he want to be like his father he has to growup n things he is doing.... u can try this 1 for sure tell him if he does good in school he can go in next class soon.... ALL THE BEST
2006-10-26 03:13:12 · answer #5 · answered by AM 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Encouragement is the key. Show your excitement when he learns something good and praise him when he does well. Try to make homework fun. I found that was the key for my son. When we practice his letters for example, we play tic tac toe. We will use all the different letters instead of just x and o. Try to make it as fun and encouraging as you can. Hope this helps.
2006-10-25 17:09:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 15teen even though this bad for me to say because I'm getting older but when i don't like a teacher i really don't behave to him and most of the time i don't do his work its only because i don't like him even though its my problem if i don't do the work and its hurting me not him but anyways try to switch teachers and if that doesn't work then sit him down and say if u don't change ur attitude this and this will be taken away I'm not sure what to really tell you does he behave for you????
2006-10-25 15:02:35 · answer #7 · answered by amelia s 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ask him if something wrong with his teacher. It is very important that you always talk to your kid, ask him how is his day, listen what he says, explain him what is wrong and what is right, and always answer his questions. I guess your kid hate his teacher, that's why he doesn't listen to his teacher. A change might be needed for your kid.
2006-10-25 15:02:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to discuss with your son why he is acting out. that is your responsibility to get to the bottom of it. if he refuses to answer try another teacher and see the result. if he still has discipline problems you may need to have him evaulated for possible mental problems( don't overreact) just an evaul to be safe
2006-10-25 14:55:55 · answer #9 · answered by jimbeach37 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think he shouldnt go to first grade at that moment..... give him a break, and take him to kindercare, and maybe few weeks later assign him to a different class... it might be the teacher....the teacher might have said something to him which is why hes like that
2006-10-25 14:52:35 · answer #10 · answered by melissa 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋