When I learnt that my husband's daughter from a previous marriage had started birth control pills at the age of 14, I got visibly shocked. Anyway, I politely kept my opinion for myself and told him the kids education was a matter for both him and his ex-wife.
Anyway, the other day he said he ressented me for having 'freaking out' and for thinking his kids was a *****.
I told him I have done enough for keeping myself at my place but that he has no right of trying to forcefully extract an 'approval' from me. I told him my approval is neither important nor necessary, so he should not even matter about it. Anyway it seems he wanted me to say "it is ok, I think it is the most wonderful thing" but it is not going to happen. How to prevent it from hurting us? We are at a delicate phasis after being separated for a while and working into a possible re-start. I am afraid of saying the wrong thing but I dont feel like saying lies either.
2006-10-25 14:38:47 · 12 answers · asked by Graça 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he can get mad n glad n get over it.. let him sulk
2006-10-25 14:41:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you think the daughter is wonderful, not a *****, but that you just don't think it's appropriate for her do be taking part in those kinds of activites. Let them know that you will help them get through the situation and offer support when needed.
He has the right to be mad (not that he should), but he cannot make you have a different opinion than you belive.
My parens had a fallout earlier, so I hope things go well for you. Those situations are not fun at all.
Best wishes!
2006-10-25 14:45:22 · answer #2 · answered by teh_popezorz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a husband, I'd be disappointed if my wife agreed with me on everything. We each have, and do express our own, and sometimes quite different opinions, in matters. Usually we will discuss, where each of us is coming from, and sometimes come to a third conclusion, which merges both opinions into one. Remeber that you are your own person, and that lying does not solve this situation, if you feel strongly about it. Good luck, in your reconciliation.
2006-10-25 14:51:10 · answer #3 · answered by Beau R 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry while i respect your right to have a contrary opinion i do agree with giving the daughter birth control pills for so many reasons
there may be hormonal problems --- my ex wife was the same
it is a sensible precaution in case of an accident
i would NEVER think any child of 14 was a ****** because they are on the pill
i suggest you reevaluate your decision because you care for this man and his children --- you know the child and can form an opinion of their character --- do you have so little respect for your partners judgement and so little trust in the child???
2006-10-25 14:47:52 · answer #4 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you were right to tell him that was between him and his child's mother, but was he upset when he found out about it? was he asking for some type of help in helping him digest it? maybe the argument was better safe than sorry on the mother's part. and he told you to see a reaction. you did and he didn't like it. but if you can't express an opinion, how was your marriage before.you will have to speak up eventually. good luck.
2006-10-25 14:53:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have the right to ur opinion and should not get get mad at u for that. He obviously wanted to know what you thoght, right?
Does he not realize that you two are not always going to agree on everything? He should value ur opinion. You should stand ur ground. He has to realize that to work through things, u have to agree to disagree. Good luck!
Just FYI: I don't know why she was put on birth control but I was put on it at the age of 14 because my periods were irregular and i had awful cramps.
2006-10-25 14:48:14 · answer #6 · answered by phucked_up 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should really think hard about a re-start. You should be able to express your opinion without being afraid of saying the wrong thing. After all it seems he is pressuring you into saying what you think, so he should be able to accept it.
2006-10-25 14:50:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all the guy can be upset but he shouldnt be. He should respect your feelings regardless what they are.The last thing a 14 year old should be worring about is sex. That should come later in life.
2006-10-25 14:56:21 · answer #8 · answered by mike 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have the right to your own opinion..why did he ask you in the first place ...he should have known...he has no reason to get angry...you were right in what you said...hope evrything works out for you
2006-10-25 15:45:11 · answer #9 · answered by long_hard_thick9 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stick to your guns, honey. Don't change your tune just because your husband disagrees. Otherwise, you're just giving him control.
2006-10-25 15:40:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋