I'm in college (undergrad) for veterinary medicine, and my mom constantly worries that I won't make enough money (b/c vets don't really make that much) when i get out of school. I've loved animals all of my life and honestly couldn't see myself doing anything else. It hurts me that she would even suggest me going into human medicine or something different. Basically my mom's worried b/c she went into music education and now can't find a job (she quit her job to have kids). How do I nicely convince her that being happy is more important than how much money you make? Honestly, if I couldn't find a job that I loved doing, I would rather die.
And also, she tells me all the time that I need to get out with friends, but I've come to find that I'm much more content just watching movies or doing something by myself or just with my sister. She nags about this too and I wish she'd stop!
How do I tell her these things nicely?
2006-10-25 14:35:15 · 18 answers · asked by mighty_power7 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It does not matter what kind of a job you have or going to have when you finish your schooling what is important is that you are happy in the profession you elected to study for. You sound like a sensible and stable good daughter that any mother including me would wish to have. Go for your goals and do not let anyone tell you other wise, including your mother. I have a lot of daughters six, to be exact and one of them stand out from all the rest she finished high school ,got into college, finish with two associate degrees and a masters and entered the university again to change her major, to become a school teacher because her daughters were already enrolled in school and she wanted to be near them, I have always let my kids make their own decisions when it's concerning their future.
2006-10-25 14:48:10 · answer #1 · answered by a.vasquez7413@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your mother that you love her dearly but you need to live the life that you want to live because even if things don't turn out perfectly, it is still your life and not hers. Let her know that you're sorry she's had so much disappointment in her life but as long as she is alive there is always the possibility to change her own personal circumstances. It's never too late for anyone to go back to school, get a better education and meet new friends. Remind her that you are no longer a little child and that it is time for her to find happiness for herself, but please understand her motives are pure because every normal mother wants only the very best for her child. Speak with her openly, honestly, gently and respectfully because even if you disagree with her ideas she is motivated by the deepest love there is - a mother's love.
2006-10-25 15:05:37 · answer #2 · answered by Bethany 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You answered your own question, tell her openly, honestly, and compassionatley. Your mother is exactly that, your mother, and a mother never stops worring about her childrens futures. Try approaching her on a "let's talk like adults, which by the way we are, I love you, I value your opinion greatly, but I also have an opinion of my own. i am happy with what I've chosen for my lifes work and I understand that you love me and worry about me, but at some point I have to live my life according to what I feel will make me happy. Be sure to reassure your mother that you do understand her feelings about you and you do value her opinion and you will take what she says at value, but you are old enough to make up your own decsions now.
2006-10-25 14:54:47 · answer #3 · answered by becky w 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
show her that you are grown up. and just maybe she will see that you can do the right thing not the wrong one. if she stills worrys it's because a mothers worrys are part of the way we let you know we care. I'm a mother and I'll always worry about my boys.be proud she care and loves you that much to worry.
2006-10-25 14:43:36 · answer #4 · answered by linda b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I would find a vet who is making it and ask him/her to speak or write a letter to your mom about his/her first years in the field. Also you may want to draw up an outline of your plans, costs, and goals. In the end, she will need to just accept your choice. You are making your life not hers.
2006-10-25 14:40:24 · answer #5 · answered by Ami Lynn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you find out that answer let me know i am 27 and marride with 3 children and my mom still worring about me i think it just comes with the terotory of being a mother i got a felling i will be that way twards my children as well but good luck
2006-10-25 14:38:33 · answer #6 · answered by alyshiapeanut 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
money don't make people Happy. Will u work ware u want to work and u can save up the money u get from the job to help your mam. i what to stay in school i do what to pass and get the job
2006-10-25 14:43:08 · answer #7 · answered by chulito718 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's a little hint, your Mom will never stop worrying about your future. After you have your own children, you'll understand.
2006-10-25 14:37:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
O.k. so why?do you not go with your MOM -SO SHE can learn how your personality is! and the vet,thing try letting her she one of your classes at school,to find out if the med.is respective anoff.
2006-10-25 14:41:00 · answer #9 · answered by lucinda h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u dont its our job to worry but she can worry but she cant choose ya future.
tell her this its a good one :
Mom, I love u, and U raised me right, now I know u dont think i listen to u but I do..dont u think u was a good mother? dont u think u taught me right? well then u should stop worrying so much..u did a great job now its my turn to make u proud.....
now when she crys or hugs u ..just know.."damn i got to thank that chic on the internet" ..lloll
2006-10-25 14:39:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋