I began dating Jeff when I was 15 and I fell in love with him fairly quick. We began having sex when we were 16 and I had what I thought was a close relationship with his mother. She knew that we were having sex and often teased up about overhearing us do it. To make a long story short I got pregnant soon after my 17th birthday. I was devistated because I was a junior in high school ,but I knew I had to own up to my responsiblity and I wanted to keep the baby. I thought that I would have support from Mrs. Wilson but I was wrong. She was upset b/c Jeff is getting looked at from colleges for football scholarships and she began voicing that I WANTED to get pregnant as a ploy to keep him with me. She began calling me a 's**t' 'whore' 'b***h' you name it! The last straw was when she tried to pay for me to get an abortion! I cursed her out and we almost fought! I have recently had Brianna and Jeff has been a very good father to her, but his mother is still a b***h to me! what should I do?
2006-10-25 14:25:24 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Mrs Wilson also voiced many times that she doesnt think Brianna is Jeff's baby. I have only had sex with him and although I believe Jeffrey trusts me if we ever get into an argument her suspisions sometimes are expressed by him and I HATE that. She has not at all been in Brianna's life and is only focusing on what school Jeff is going to not even taking into account that he has a 9 month old daughter and I dont think I can get her to realize that. Im so heartbroken about this situation
2006-10-25 14:36:38 · update #1
I think you should take an opinion from someone whose grandmother hates her mother. although they were married when they had me, my dad's mother cant stand my mom. my mother is not crazy or a bad person but my grandma hates her. my mom got over it when she realized that there was nothing she could do about it. i dont really spend anytime with my grandma....my mom's love is enough for me and even though i love her im glad that im not around someone who doesnt respect someone i love so much. if you love your daughter it wont matter about your ''mom-in-law" just stay away as far as you can from her.....if your daughter is as great as you say she will want to get to know her better and maybe change the way she acts....but if not oh well she can kick rocks
2006-10-27 11:41:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The upmost thing you should is Jeff's support and respect on you. Since you can't change the thinking of Jeff's mother on you then you can also forget about her. Do not talk to her unless is neccessary. Try not to be with her with Jeff is not present. Both Jeff and you right now is to give all your love to your baby. On the sametime, get a good grade and find a good job. By that time, both of you should be old enough to move out and set a family by yourselves. Just remember Jeff and you will be together till your last breathe. Please do not stress and worry on how to change Jeff's mother thinking of you. As long as you are happy, Jeff and baby would be happy too. DUN WORRY BE HAPPY!!!
All the best to you.
2006-10-25 21:52:18 · answer #2 · answered by bee8250 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't matter what your bf's mom thinks of you. It doesn't matter!!!
You need to be worried about making a life for you and your baby. If the baby's daddy is part of that plan, then that is wonderful. A baby should have two parents around. If the baby doesn't have the love and support of her daddy, then that is fine too.
At the end of the day, it will be you and your baby. Your bf will probably go off to college (hopefully to make a better life for the three of you, maybe because he won't want to deal with the issue). If your bf's mother doesn't want to act civililized, then f*ck her. She doesn't need to see your baby.
It may sound cold, but that is a reality you are going to face. If you worry about getting your bf's mother to like you, it will wear you down and poison you until you are miserable and a wreck. It is a problem you can't control, so don't even try to control it.
Keep your head up and make smart choices with your families future in mind. You will land on your feet.
I wish you the best of luck. Enjoy your baby as it is really a blessing to have one. Don't worry about your bf's mother.
2006-10-25 21:39:58 · answer #3 · answered by Slider728 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie i'm sorry to tell you this but i dont think anything is going to change anytime soon. Just try to follow your dreams as much as possible. If he can go to school on a football scholarship then great that will give him a way to support his new family. Finish school please. You will never be happy with yourself if you dont. Just try to keep the peice. Maybe its that she finally realized that she was the "one" women in his life anymore and has been replaced by you. Your the one taking care of him now. I see that you still have respect for her (by refering to her as Mrs. wilson.) that will go a long way. Just dont let her get you down. I'm sure that your a good mom and girlfriend and hopefully one day she will see that you take care of her "little boy" just as well as she did . good luck.
2006-10-25 21:34:04 · answer #4 · answered by crystalyn129 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you need to figure out if Jeff's going to go to college or stay with you. Either way, he is financailly responsible, and if he leaves you need to get a child support order.
Forget about his mom. She's not going to stop trying to hurt you any time soon. You and he may need to go to counseling together if
to deal with how to be a family without her constant interference, but that is more so Jeff can learn how to balance his relationship with her with his relationship with you and your daughter.
Sorry you have to go through this.
2006-10-26 19:32:43 · answer #5 · answered by Emily O 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about his mother. even though its easier said than done or talk to Jeff about his mom. Ask him to talk to her and tell her not to disrespect you like that and just because you have a baby for him doesnt garenteed you are going to be together though it would be nice. but let her know that you can make with or without him and that your only concern is him being a good father to your daughter.
2006-10-25 21:31:45 · answer #6 · answered by LC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds to me like she's trying to hold on to her little boy. she does need to let go of him, but that's hard. just be the bigger person, be polite and respectful (that's hard too i know!), sow her that you are worthy of her son. good on you for taking responsibilty for your actions. she had no right to try and make you have an abortion. as long as the three of you (you, jeff and brianna) have a good relationship,and work at keeping it that way, then she won't be able to break it. good luck to you! : )
2006-10-25 21:40:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think his mother don't like u because u are sexing with so many people 1st u had a sex with ur cousin's wife then 2nd u got a pregnant u had a sex with Jeffrey.3rd then u had a relation with a guy justin. 4th the u had a been having sex with one of guy friends for the last 3 months
ohhhhhhhhh i can't belive that u had sex with so many people...
2006-10-26 19:12:50 · answer #8 · answered by BAZ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
his mom doesn't like you because she sees you as a reason why he isn't living the life she pictured for him. my husbands sister acted the same way, i was pregnant my senior year. when she finally figured out that i didn't get pregnant on purpose she eased up. but then it turned into another issue after another. she still doesnt like me. he needs to stand up for you. and you have to be as civil as possible and let her see that you are a good mom and that you only want the best for her son and will help to get that for him. you need to make sure that you aren't the reason for either of you not to live to your potential. hope it gets better
2006-10-25 21:36:15 · answer #9 · answered by leslielandes 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What should you do?
Deal with it. You should not have been behaving the way you were. Finish your education. Get a good job. Get married.
Do your best to be an adult in this situation. Your child's well being depends on it.
2006-10-25 21:31:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋