help please i like this man but hes taken?but hes unhappy? long story?

Question

okay this is long be honest please...

known him about 3 years, hes my landlord, he has no kids, hes been with this girl 6 years she has an 8 y/o son and has shared custody with her sons father...

well he always flirts with me and i flirt back he is very cute and i have a 17 month old son. anyways...

he told me they have seperate bedrooms, she doesnt go anywhere with him, he bought a harley 3 years ago and she wont ride with him and never has. they rarely talk, i said ARE YOU HAPPY? he said no, I SAID DO YOU LOVE HER? he said "well ill always love her"

im confused here he acts like he wants to connect with me but i dont know? what should I do ? he is a wonderful guy and very attractive and he said his g/f is unhappy to and they both have good jobs and so do I..

what do i do? how do i find out if he actually likes me?

Answer 1

Listen don't mess around w/ a married man no matter what! He can tell you anything but he's married, married, married!
When she finds out, she will f**k you up.

Answer 2

Wow. When are you going to learn about men and relationships. You never, never, never even think of having a relationship with a man who is living with another woman. How could you not know this?

don't you want to have a man who has no other obligations or unfinished relationships ? don't you want your own man? He's told you that he loves this woman. WHAT MORE DOES HE HAVE TO SAY TO MAKE IT CLEAR THAT HE WANTS TO STAY WITH THIS WOMAN?

You should be spending all of your extra energy and time on taking care of your child. Any man who becomes part of your life should be COMPLETELY DEVOTED to you AND your child.

Of course he likes you. Why do you have any doubt? But liking you is not the issue. Liking you is only an issue when you're involved in puppy love, high school, swooning, and all that. You've moved way beyond that stage of life.

I think he is being a complete jerk in flirting with you when he's already in a relationship. If he's so miserable and unfulfilled, why doesn't he be a real man and move out from this woman? I'm guessing he doesn't have enough ego strength to live on his own. Is this the kind of man you need in your life? Don't you see that if he hooked up with you that he will continue flirting and pursuing convenient relationships with other women?

You are not a silly teenager anymore. You need to think like the grown woman you are, and find a grown man to have a relationship with.

Drop this guy and focus in on your child, and on decent men who have NO romantic attachments. Your child deserves no less.

Answer 3

They always seem like " wonderful guys" when they're with someone else. He may truly be one and be telling the truth. But it sounds suspicious that he tells you they're sleeping in separate rooms. Many men say things like that when they want a GF on the side, but the wives/GF think everything is OK at home.

Wait until he's totally free, not "attached but unhappy." That puts you AND YOUR KID in a bad and potentially dangerous position. What if he's lying?

Plus, being your landlord, he can make life MISERABLE for you if things turn out badly. Be careful.

Answer 4

Look, you're not going to like my response, okay? But you need to forget him. He is LIVING WITH another woman and her child. So they're not happy... well neither of them seems very motivated to change anything. Sounds to me like he is looking for some on the side. And if that is NOT all it is, then why does he "flirt" with you and claim he is so unhappy but then doesn't do anything to remedy that? You can reconsider beginning some kind of relationship with him, right after she moves out. Until then, look elsewhere. You are asking for trouble by messing around with your landlord anyway...

Answer 5

Oh honey, he wants to connect with you alright. He wants to connect with you all night. May even give you a discount on the rent if the connection is just right.

If he is so unhappy, and they don't have kids, not married, then why doesn't he just leave? Why should he leave when he can keep his g/f and have you on the side?

Do NOT sleep with him. Stay friends, see what happens, but keep you options open. Remember, the g/f could be psycho so watch yo' back!!!!!

Answer 6

my advice is to leave it alone. He tells u he's unhappy, but he's obviously not unhappy enough to leave her, or he would do it. Sounds to me like he just wants to fool around. If he is talking with you and giving you mixed signals, trying to make you think he wants a relationship with you while he is already in a relationship then he is a liar and a cheat, and if you got involved with him how could you ever trust him? Relationships based on lies almost never work. I would just keep it a landlord tennant relationship until he becomes single, and even then I dont think I could trust him to take it any further, if he'll cheat on her, he'll cheat on you cuz cheaters never change

Answer 7

I take it you are both adutls ??? sit the man down and tell him your feelings... YOU need to take responibility for your own actions and get it straight with him... if he is committed to his relationship then he needs to be told to back off and leave you alone, unless you like being used ??? if not, then you need to fill him in on a few realities of life... a man can not have his cake and eat it too, which means, he can not have a woman at home and one on the side, which from what I am reading is what this man wants.... God bless

Answer 8

He might like you--but as an easy way to forget his sh*tty life for awhile. You wouldn't be anything to this guy but a booty call. If that is okay with you then go for it. But if you respect yourself you will want better. So what if he flirts.....don't flirt back and start looking for someone worth your time and attention

Answer 9

he's in all risk a sociopath, attempting to apply you and your youngness. they're large before everything, yet as time progresses, their real colorings prepare, and you comprehend that there is greater to this way of individual than "helping each little thing you do" and all that flowery stuff; it is however the hook, he's lining you in and you're in all risk to make a large mistake which you isn't waiting to take returned. you're in all risk afraid to tell your mom this given which you comprehend that she's worried for you, yet her situation might disrupt the mindless romantic emotions of your courting, those which you comprehend will die with time and attempt. If he's 40 3 and would not have a woman his age, which could enable you comprehend some thing. I assure you, yet you will no longer have self belief me; you will supply maximum suitable answer to somebody who makes you sense sturdy approximately this thought and each physique else would be a bunch of stupid buttholes. anyhow to purpose answering your question, ethics and psychology aside, I as quickly as study a Zen proverb. a guy became deeply infatuated with a woman. each time he might see her, his heart might race and he might get so flustered that he could no longer summon the nerve to declare something to her, yet instead, he might flow abode and write down what he felt. He consistently revised his recommendations and thoughts right down to what he seen suitable. Then, as quickly as he felt each little thing became so as, he approached the female and informed her that he had taken a great deal of time to summon the braveness and the appropriate thank you to particular himself. yet formerly he could desire to study what he had written down, she regarded at him, smiled and pronounced, "you have positioned lots artwork into attending to this 2d, and now you're right here. loosen up, and embody it because it is." attempt to make an answer or plan of attack to tell your mom and it will finally fail. it quite is inevitable. in simple terms flow, tell her, and enable each little thing unfold because it is.

Answer 10

Tell him to grow some hairy ones and get out of the unhappy relationship or is he telling you these stories so he could get your sympathy and you can give him some lay time?

Answer 11

it doesn't matter, he's taken, why would you want someone like that anyway? what makes you think he wouldn't do that to you? what makes you think that a relationship with him would be any different from the one he has now? he's still with her obviously he's still attached to her. i think you should stop flirting with him, move on and find a guy for yourself. don't forget about your morals because of this guy. if they ever breakup let it be because it was what they both wanted, don't let it be because of you...