This guy is in his mid 40's. He lives out of State. Sometimes we travel for the same work conference but we are always with coworkers. His coworkers are very attentive to me.
After talking on the phone for 3 hrs, he said I was very, very pretty, very accomplished, had a nice family, kept myself in shape and could have any guy I wanted. I told him I just got out of a relationship and needed sometime to myself... I told him I was attracted to him but left it at that.
Two months later, I ask him if he is seeing someone special and he said no. I tell him I'd like to call once in a while. He says ok. I ask him to a work conference and tell him I like him and would like to see him. When we get together he says he wants FWB and after considering I say okay. I'm very physically attracted to him, I don't want an exclusive relationship but I also like spending time with him. I don't honestly think knowing he is going out with others will bother me but I've never done this before
2006-10-25 14:16:01 · 17 answers · asked by shar 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have done the friends with benefits before. It wasn't a pleasant experience for me, because I ended up having feelings for him, and he only wanted sex. I couldn't just be his friend because I liked him for more than the benefits. Took me a whole year to realize that I was too emotionally attached while he was only interested in me as a f*uk buddy. I also realized I'm not the type ot have such a "casual" relationship, because to me, sex is something that should be shared with two people who are committed to each other. But I also know that everybody is different. If you feel you can handle sleeping with this guy with no strings attached, without the worry of a relationship, and most importantly, you are sure you can keep your emotions out of it, then by all means have fun and be safe. But please make sure you are ready and prepared to have a friend with benefits. Good Luck!
2006-10-25 14:28:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I would have to say that having a F***Buddy (FB) that you work with or even see ever so often at confernce's are a NO NO. If you want FB then maybe you should look outside of the work area. You just never know how the FB thing will work out.
One thing with doing this is you have to make sure that you don't allow your feelings to go any futher than what it really is. As I'm sure you know, most people that do this, one falls for the other in the process and that's why they normally end because it's not mutual.
Just becareful. I have had a FB before and it was fun at first, but then it got old because I wanted more. Not with that person but I know inside I wanted more than just sex with someone. But who knows, you just got out of a serious relatinship and maybe this could just work for you. So best of luck in your choice. Just becareful and think of everything, the good and the bad.
2006-10-25 14:26:14 · answer #2 · answered by browneyegirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess she's not ready for a relationship yet. I think that, she want's you to be her boyfriend but not so soon. Because she didn't break up with you. I think that both of you and her take it slowly, make her feel comfortable with you and show her that you can be the best boyfriend ever. Talk to her and know more things about her. Hope this helps :]
2016-05-22 14:17:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can keep the mentality that it's only that, so he or you could suddenly end it to have a steady relationship with someone else then I don't see a problem with it.
I've had some FWB in the past, 99% of them worked out fine but occasionally one partner or the other starts to want more.
2006-10-25 14:22:53 · answer #4 · answered by gypse76 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you're at the point in your life where u dont need a full on relationship, so if you want to be fwb then why not? as long as both of u know whats going on, then no one is getting let down or expecting more, and no one is getting hurt. Its just fun and good times!
2006-10-25 14:21:18 · answer #5 · answered by zimba 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can deal with only being FWB, then do it,, but once your feelings go further for him,, Which happens quite often,, But in a FWB relationship you are already giving an intimate part of yourself. Why do the rest of the relationship that leads to that part or a real relationship when your giving it up without investment in you?
2006-10-25 14:21:18 · answer #6 · answered by kitkatish1962 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friends with benefits can work well if you know that if either start falling in love, one of you need to put on the brakes. Why doesn't he want a relationship, you don't because you just got out. What is his reason? Be clear on this so you know exactly where he is at. It can change moment to moment, be aware of that. If you can deal with all this you will be ok.
2006-10-25 14:20:39 · answer #7 · answered by wondering 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are right when a relationship ends one needs time to heal .
What happens when people don't give themselves this time it ends
being another disaster.
There are men and women who give genuine compliments but there are those who tickle the ears for ulterior motives.
As women are responders one can easily be taken in .
It takes many years to love someone you cannot until you know them and their integrity of character .
The reason so many relationships fail they get the cart before the horse.
Take care!
2006-10-25 14:33:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friends with benefits benefit both people . Men want sex firstly and you are not ready to committ so it seems like the logical choice.
2006-10-25 14:20:06 · answer #9 · answered by malcom1000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
friends with benefits is a good thing I think. because I i'm with this guy and we are okay with it too! but just don't let your heart open when it's that way or you will get hurt. so please keep your gard up at all times.
2006-10-25 14:24:08 · answer #10 · answered by linda b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋