To single moms who have gone back to school.?

Question

I'm a single mom of two small children. A 5 year old and a baby. How difficult did you find it to go to school full time? What were your biggest challenges and how did you overcome them? Please tell me about your experiences. Thanks

Answer 1

Nice guy here, who's helped mommies go back to school --

The toughest, hardest-working people I've ever met are single moms trying to claw their way to the surface. I have respect for them.

If you're busting your butt, and not a total jerk, then the world is full of people who want to help you. You just have to find them. That's my first piece of advice, to believe that the world is full of people who have respect for anyone who is trying to get out of poverty through hard work, and to find them.

The biggest challenges are always time, money and energy (what else is new?). If you had more time and money, you could get better grades, right? Or of you had more energy, you could live on 4 hours of sleep, right? This is a balancing act, and you're gonna make sacrifices all over the place. If this was easy then everyone would've done it, and it wouldn't be worth going for.

The good news is that once you're at the next level, no one cares about this level. For instance, if you're finishing high school, no one cares about your HS grades or classes once you're in college or trade school. Once you're in your first job after college, the only people who will ever ask about your grades or classes will be graduate schools (you gonna go to grad school?). Soooo... the best piece of advice is to remember that you do the best you can, but the goal is simply to get to the finish line and to the next level. If you don't get a great grade it a class then don't let it bother you unless it stops you from going to that next level. Get thru it -- no one asks about your grades at your graduation party!!!

Answer 2

I went back to school when my oldest son was 3 and my youngest was 14 days old!
It was hard, but so worth it. The hardest part was having to rely on someone to babysit. I chose to go to college where I went 2 nights a week and I only had to go for 2 years when I went back. It was hard for me to put all of my concentration on my class load because during my second year my husband and I got divorced. Luckily I stayed in school even though it was hard.

Make sure you find someone (a parent or really good friend) who is willing to babysit when you have class or when you just need quiet time to study. I chose to go to Chapman University because it is a college geared for people who work and therefore the classes meet once a week and you take a new class every 9 weeks. The accelerated pace and the schedule worked well for me. Also there were a lot of other single moms that went there and I liked that.

Just remember you are trying to better your life for yourself and your children....let them be your motivation.

GOOD LUCK!

Answer 3

Hi Sweety, It can be hard with 2 children so young. At first you will feel like your out of place returning to school,after your there for about 2 weeks you will have meant some new friend and you will start feeling like you fit in.The biggest challenge was to find a babysetter than would be on time, so i would be late for school.after searching i finally found a grandmom who was great with my children and was always early. your trying to better yourself and beable to get things for your children and do all around better. i think it's great that you are going back to school. just keep the good work up. A Friend.

Clowmy

Answer 4

my friend is going thru that right now. she has a 5 year old and a 2.5 year old and her husband left her in february. she is fortunate to live with her mom right now so she has extra help, but i know its hard for her to have to do school every day and then come home and look after kids all alone. also the thought of working full time when she's done is very scary.
keep your head up, you're a great mom for getting an education

Answer 5

I have a 6 1/2 year old 4 year old and 11 month. I attended school full time at the college here and that became a hassle with childcare and stuff. Now I go full time online and it is just as accredited as any other school. Good luck hun, it takes patients and late nights doing homework.

Answer 6

I went back to school as a single mother of a 5 year. Other than having to rearrange my schedule and be more organised it really didn't impact has much as I thought it would, I had to rely on babysitters and family for a while which at times was difficult to organise. But it put me in step for a much better job. The financial and personal gain far out weighed the extra time I had to put in.
Go for it

Answer 7

With PRAYER!