ok i need help pretty bad. This is because me and my group of friends are very tight, and i want it to stay like that. But around september I started to date one of the girls and we had great times. But recently i simply cannot stand her, this is because she has become somewhat obnoxious. How do I dump her and keep everything cool so we can all still hang out? No stupid answers, seriously.
2006-10-25 14:00:01 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you should just be honest with her, tell her why you don't want to date her anymore, ending a relationship is hard, it can hurt, just let the time do the healing. then when she's ready she'll be friends with you again.
2006-10-25 14:02:59 · answer #1 · answered by superboredom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok one hand you want to keep the friendship going and for everything to be cool... and on the other hand you want to terminate the relationship...truth is buddy ...feelings are gonna hurt anyways either way you choose ...when you decide that you want to date a friend..you already invested in your feelings thats a given... you would be honest and dump this person gently like you would any relationship... when you date a friend at first and then you become romantically involve then you take that risk of it not working for you ...thats the awkward part...theres no way of breaking up without it being awkward for awhile but at least later on you two can realize it was for the better...she got obnoxious you mean she changed ?...hmmn thats interesting...i stay the same whether im single or married ...lol... so honey baby sweetie do what you got to do ...and if shes all mad then hey you were being honest and she cant really blame you for that can she ? (True friends want you to be brutally honest and still love you anyway.)
2006-10-25 21:11:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depending on the nature of your relationship - it might not be a possibility for you to "keep everything cool." Breaking up is HARD - and if she is REALLY into you, there's a chance that she won't take it well, no matter how you break the news. The BEST thing for you though, if you want it to work out after, would be to end it with her IN PERSON and IN PRIVATE. Also...BE NICE. Explain to her the things that you like about her and that you want to have a friendship, and that if things are meant to be - you two will end up together eventually. Depending on her personality - that might be all you need. If she's really into you and ultra sensitive - expect a ton of balling and a lot of questions as to why you're ending the relationship. Good luck!
2006-10-25 21:05:17 · answer #3 · answered by The Rainmaker 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, seriously is she just obnoxious or did you not enjoy her in bed? Well that is if you were intimate of course. But with that said if you simply sit down and have a heart to heart and let her know your true feelings and that you would prefer that you guys could just be friends; That would be better for you. Must of the time it is difficult to maintain a friendship once you have stopped dating. That is why I asked my first question. But communicating is the key to keep the friendship strong/especially with the group of friends that both of you belong to. Also do not make each other choose or have your friends choose who they want to hang out with; you want to be fair across the board.
2006-10-25 21:09:44 · answer #4 · answered by Brownsuga 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to let her know first of all that she means something to you, that you value her as a friend and you don't want her to get mad and leave all of you guys behind. But, it's still her decision, she will probably be hurt and might stay away for a while but if you get the others to make special efforts to ask her to hang out it just might work. But, you have to be honest with her and then let her do what she feels she has to do. She may feel like she was used or made to look like a fool so be careful about what you say. If she yells at you and tells you off let her and don't say something you might regret. Good luck.
2006-10-25 21:08:03 · answer #5 · answered by MISS-MARY 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a tough one. It's going to be awkward no matter what. If she started to act obnoxious, maybe she wasn't feeling you either. If that's the case, this break-up might be alot easier. Try to be as kind as possible when dumping her if that's possible. Tell her you know you guys share the same group of friends and you want to keep it that way! Good luck.
2006-10-25 21:04:51 · answer #6 · answered by SHELTIELUVER 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well just tell her how u feel! Just tell her I think that we need to see other people u have been a great friend and girlfriendbut I just think we need to be friends for a while and step away from a serious relationship right now. I still want to be your frind if that is okay with u now if u say what i just typed she should say yes but if not if she says no then tell her okay that is fine I will except your decision and I still like u as a friend regaurdless!
2006-10-25 21:04:32 · answer #7 · answered by brownsugacookie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that everything is getting too complicated, that you think that it's time to get out of the relationship ut make sure to let her know that you still like her as a friend and still want to stay good friends. That you don't want anything to ruin a friendship, just the relationship was not exactly what you were looking for. Good luck!!!
2006-10-25 21:03:15 · answer #8 · answered by save trestles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are sleeping with her stop. No "friends with benefits" here. Unless you are willing to let all that dirty talk cycle through your friends group. When/if you draw the line and break up with her, you'd better be ready to stand firm and then do some major damage control with her friends. In the immediate future you can't date them either. You've got to firmly and gently break up with her, give her a plausible reason and then be supernice and friendly, but not so friendly she thinks she can come on over for a long night of drinks. And don't be bringing around new prospects too soon, either. That's destined for backlash. Basically, if you want to salvage all these relationships you'd better be ready to do some major sucking up and sucking it in. It's tough, but you can do it.
2006-10-25 21:06:08 · answer #9 · answered by JeanGrey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well...its hard. that happened to one of my friends who was dating this girl and brought her into the group and then once they broke up, she just sort of left the group. i think that you should be honest with her and tell her you do not wish to date any more but would like to have her as a friend. of course, she wont like this answer BUT over time, if she really wanted to be your friend, she will...eventually. give her time. you two may start to act weird towards one another but thats to be expected...she'll probably back off for a few days or weeks but eventually, she will come around. good luck.
2006-10-25 21:04:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm very sorry, but it's going to be very hard to keep a friendship after you split at first. She will probably will be upset at first, but overtime you two will gain your friendship back. Whatever you do, don't say that she was being obnoxious! Just tell her that you enjoyed being only friends with her and would like to go back to just being friends.
I wish you good luck!
2006-10-25 21:04:01 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋