My friend is Baptist, and she believes that if you don't think the way she does, then you are wrong. She is constantly telling me that I need to be closer to God, and that I should go to church. I feel close to God already. I don't feel that I need to go to church to feel any closer. She is constantly judging me, and it hurts.
She believes that if you are not a Baptist then you are wrong. I respect her beliefs. I would like her to respect mine.
2006-10-25 13:55:36 · 12 answers · asked by pickynikki4life 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
it is wrong to judge another human because you never know what people can offer to you. Everyone is special.
2006-10-25 13:58:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Juding a person is wrong, judge the actions is something we are called to do but only with great love and care. I am Baptist also but don't think we've got it all figured out though. A relationship with God can be just like a relationship with a human i that it has to be excersied. By this I mean it is an active not passive proccess. I need to seek God to be closer to Him just like I need to participate in my relationship with my fiancee. Either way if any of this is not done in and out of love it is wrong, period. If she is just telling a truth you don't want to hear that not neccesarily her fault, on the other hand if she's stubbornly bulldozing over you with her opinion that's not right.
2006-10-25 21:05:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't mean to sound harsh, but if a friend believes that you should go by her rules and keep you under her control, then she really isn't that good of a friend. Judging on the other hand is something that every human-being is wired to do. You, I, and everyone else do it on a daily basis. Although, if she doesn't respect you for your beliefs, you need to talk to her about them so that way she can understand. Though many people may not accept your ways, it is your chose, and who is one to judge your own choice that you've made? Don't worry about the judgment. If it becomes a bigger problem, sit down and talk to your friend. That is my advice.
2006-10-25 21:02:36 · answer #3 · answered by matrixfreak100 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is not judging you, that is her opinion and she has a right to it but for her to try to force it on you is wrong. Next time tell her that you do not want to discuss it any more and if she does not respect that then she is not really your friend.
2006-10-25 21:08:21 · answer #4 · answered by jim h 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sure is wrong, but she hasn't figured that out yet. Maybe you could subtly work it into a conversation... perhaps start by talking about Judgement Day, and then work in:
Luke 6:36-37
36 Be ye therefore merciful, as your Father also is merciful.
37 Judge not, and ye shall not be judged: condemn not, and ye shall not be condemned: forgive, and ye shall be forgiven:
John 8:12-16
12Then spake Jesus again unto them, saying, I am the light of the world: he that followeth me shall not walk in darkness, but shall have the light of life.
13 The Pharisees therefore said unto him, Thou bearest record of thyself; thy record is not true.
14 Jesus answered and said unto them, Though I bear record of myself, yet my record is true: for I know whence I came, and whither I go; but ye cannot tell whence I come, and whither I go.
15 Ye judge after the flesh; I judge no man.
16 And yet if I judge, my judgment is true: for I am not alone, but I and the Father that sent me.
John 12:46-48
46 I am come a light into the world, that whosoever believeth on me should not abide in darkness.
47 And if any man hear my words, and believe not, I judge him not: for I came not to judge the world, but to save the world.
48 He that rejecteth me, and receiveth not my words, hath one that judgeth him: the word that I have spoken, the same shall judge him in the last day.
Romans 14:12-14
12 So then every one of us shall give account of himself to God.
13 Let us not therefore judge one another any more: but judge this rather, that no man put a stumblingblock or an occasion to fall in his brother's way.
14 I know, and am persuaded by the Lord Jesus, that there is nothing unclean of itself: but to him that esteemeth any thing to be unclean, to him it is unclean.
2006-10-25 21:03:10 · answer #5 · answered by Iamnotarobot (former believer) 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
one of the points being close to God is thru fellowship... and you could only do that by going to church... not necessarily Baptist church, you could attend other churches, as long as you feel comfortable and happy, learning/growing more from the church...
2006-10-25 21:01:35 · answer #6 · answered by danieldenzel2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
pretty much anyone who has a strong opinion about anything will be guilty of some form of judgement. however, it's what they do about it. she should respect your beliefs, agree to disagree, and leave you alone. i don't believe you have to go to church to worship either.
2006-10-25 20:59:37 · answer #7 · answered by advicemom 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you told her that ? Yes the bible teaches us not to judge, I
don't think she means to judge or hurt you.Straight up .I love you your my friend but you are hurting me.
2006-10-25 21:07:04 · answer #8 · answered by gwhiz1052 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Matthew 7:1 Judge not, that ye be not judged.
7:2 For with what judgment ye judge, ye shall be judged: and with what measure ye mete, it shall be measured to you again.
7:3 And why beholdest thou the mote that is in thy brother's eye, but considerest not the beam that is in thine own eye?
7:4 Or how wilt thou say to thy brother, Let me pull out the mote out of thine eye; and, behold, a beam [is] in thine own eye?
7:5 Thou hypocrite, first cast out the beam out of thine own eye; and then shalt thou see clearly to cast out the mote out of thy brother's eye.
2006-10-25 21:00:35 · answer #9 · answered by Selena Jade's Mommy 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes it is wrong but sadly most people do it..just like committing adultery they know not to but do it anyway...
2006-10-25 21:05:24 · answer #10 · answered by I give you the Glory Father ! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋