My sister's husband tried to kiss me!!! Should I tell my sister?!?

Question

Everyone was meeting up for a family birthday party. And my mom and sister were making food. They forgot potatoes at the store and hurried to get some. so I was left alone with my sister's husband. I think he had been drinking because he was acting like a fool. And then he tried to kiss me!!! Should I tell my sister?

Answer 1

Yes you should. I would. . .I don't care if he was drunk!

Answer 2

Everyone seems all over the place on this... if you don't tell then it could backfire and him tell and blame you... OR don't tell unless it happens again, OR tell your folks. Wrong wrong wrong. You tell your sister what transpired. She can make up her own mind about whether his drunkenness is a legitimate excuse or not. Dragging other family into it just makes them a part of the mess. They don't need to know, but your sister does. If she forgives it, then you do too, but don't ever be alone with him again. If she blames you, then she is in denial and you should try to understand (it's not that she doesn't believe you, it's that she wants so badly to believe in him), b/c eventually he'll slip again and she'll find out and realize that you were trying to help her not hurt her. Just don't go to her with the "tattle tale tattle tale" attitude. Go to her with sadness and tell her that you don't know what to make of it... was he really that drunk? You aren't looking to cause problems, but it made you very uncomfortable and you thought she should know. They may be in counseling or something already that the rest of the family doesn't know about. Or maybe the wife has suspicions but nothing verifiable. You just never know. I'm guessing that this was not a blathering blind drunk incident, but an actual accosting; otherwise you wouldn't feel compelled to ask for help about how to handle it. And you know that you have to tell your sister, or you would have forgotten it already.

Answer 3

That is a tricky situation. However I am sure you value your relationship with your sister. You can tell her and risk her a few things - he could deny his bad behavior, blame it on you, or she could go nuts and blame you. Or you could keep your mouth shut about the situation. If he ever tries to do that again - I would knee the SOB in the balls and let him know he is totally out of line. Either way, I would never allow yourself to be alone in a room with him again - period. They probably already have some issues in their marriage, and I would hate for you to be the so-called cause or blame of their problems. It is up to you, but either way you let him know what he did was entirely inappropriate and it will NEVER happen again.

Answer 4

I think you should, its better to keep things straight and clean before he tries again. He may have been drunk, but he was aware of who he was trying to kiss. Remember you are on your sister's side not his, if he tried it with you he can try it with anyone else. Your sister has the right to know, besides, if the husband spills first, he might even say you came on to him, and your sister might believe him, ending up a in a painful dilemma. Be honest , you haven't done wrong, don't hide it. Your sister might feel betrayed. Put yourself in her shoes, would you like to know if your spouse did something like that?

Answer 5

have you ever observed that those nanny exhibits have older fat females? You by no potential carry a teenager au pair female homestead. You get a Mary Poppins type with a thicker waist line and older. teenager ladies have too lots raging hormones. while you're a unmarried mom, it is diverse. married couples which could have the money for a nanny want a grandma type or a great matron and your husband gets grossed out.

Answer 6

this is a tricky one. you should really talk to your sister. it may not be such a bad idea to talk to your mom about this first and ask her to be with you when you talk to you sister. you need to let her know that you love her and you dont want to hurt her. but you have to be prepared to accept that she may take his side.he may not have been trying to do anything wrong, however he may be hurting your sister by doing this to others. if your relationship with your brother in law is a good one, then try talking to him and ask him why he did what he did. tell him you want to try and help him not destroy his marriage. this is going to be a little hairy but just remind your sister that she is your family and you will always be there for her no matter what. good luck

Answer 7

No, because you will upset your sister and she may think you were partly to blame. Just tell your Mum and avoid being alone with him in the future.

Answer 8

Definitely!!! If he tried to kiss her own sister, just imagine who else he came on to. You should rather your sister to hurt now, than to drag on the relationship and hurt more later. If she decides to stay with the jerk, then that's on her... At least you tried. Your conscience should be clear at that point.

Answer 9

If you slapped the poo-poo out of him, she knows. If you didn't, yes you need to tell her in front of him, he may have tried it with others. He sounds like he disrespects the family.(drinking should never be the cause)Hey if she married a fool, she needs a good reason to become un-fooled........Seriously, she probably knows and needs you to confirm........

Answer 10

You should tell your sister, because I would reall ywant to know if my sisters husband tried to kiss me. If you really love your sister and you dont want her to be married to a sleezebag, no offense, than you should tell her.

Answer 11

Oh, he was drinking sweetie and just being friendly...as long as it is a friendly kiss i wouldn't worry about it. If he touches you somewhere inappropriate then don't tell your sister. Just tell your dad.