When I see an attractive woman I immediately know whether I'd sleep with her or not. It's possible that she could be such an idiot or have such a horrible personality that I would change my mind, but not likely. How does this compare to the way women approach the issue? Do women know immediately and then hope nothing happens to ruin it, like I do? Or do women really need to take their time and get to know a guy first. I know, of course, that different women will be all over the place on this issue, but what's typical?
2006-10-25 13:47:03 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Dr. Who, you are way off. I have enormous respect for women. Much more than I have for your ignorant ramblings.
2006-10-25 14:01:48 · update #1
Honey, women are just like men, we just have a different package!
2006-10-25 13:51:18 · answer #1 · answered by krazydavina 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Obviously, not everyone will agree, but I think it's safe to say that there is NO set amount of time. It depends on what kind of time you spend with the person. (In a bar, how many drinks you've had and whether or not you actually talk, dance, or whatever.) I don't know very many women who will answer definitively "yes" just by looking at any man. Far more goes into it than that. But I know most every woman can tell you definitely NOT almost right away. Most women approach a new man as a potential new relationship.. and depending on how quickly they get to know certain things about the man can determine how quickly they can move from a "maybe I would" to a "definitely I would" or "would not".. It's much less cut and dried for women. A GREAT Looking guy could quite easily be a total turnoff b/c he's stuck on himself or b/c he's rude and has tasteless humor. A so-so looking guy could (after a bit of chatting and seeing him interact w/other people) be a gem: charming, witty, polite, etc... and evoke quite a reaction. He could (colored by emotion on the woman's part) become a "hottie". Chemistry has TONS to do with women.. looks have less to do with it. So it takes a while, (sometimes hours, sometimes less) to know if you have any... which has a lot to do with whether or not you are in the "maybe" category or the "definite" category. But she'll know within minutes if you are definitely NOT. Women (in general) are much more aroused by emotion than physical appearance, and emotion is based on things said and behaviors done.. not just looking at the appearance of someone. If you actually are in conversation with each other, or a group of 4 or 5 where you can hear each other, she can know within 15-20 minutes if you are in the "quite possibly" category. Is this the kind of answer you meant?
2006-10-25 21:07:24 · answer #2 · answered by victronia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Generally most know it when they meet you, but they have trouble admitting it even to themselves, maybe because of the stigma society has placed on promiscuous women.
I believe some women think too much instead of going with their instincts. For instance, a guy does not appeal on a gut level, but he is attractive or kind or well employed so they spend time trying to convince themselves that they do want him.
Also, although a woman may know right away that she would sleep with a guy, it may still take a little time to get comfortable enough with him to let it happen.
2006-10-25 20:52:41 · answer #3 · answered by coppersmith 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're right, it's different for everyone, for women and men alike.
With that said, you never know until you ask, either that or get to know the girl. Those who are usually ready to jump somebodys bones in less than two seconds are probably just looking for a good time...
When they see you, depending on what they find attractive in a guy, probably *like* to think that they would sleep with you without hesitation. That's usually somewhat like a fantasy.
Would most women like to sleep with the attractive stranger sitting next to them at the bar? Yes.
If given the chance to turn this into a reality, would most?
Probably not.
Take whatever girl you're interested in out for a drink...you'll find out.
2006-10-25 20:58:07 · answer #4 · answered by Brittno 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can tell after looking at a guy whether or not he is someone I'd consider having sex with. The deciding factor for me would be what comes out of his mouth. How he speaks to me makes the world of difference. And I won't sleep with him the same night I meet him.
2006-10-25 20:50:00 · answer #5 · answered by Meesh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like all you care about is getting it and no respect for women,you will never get anywhere in life with a real women thinking like that.
2006-10-25 20:51:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Women are like men when it comes to wanting you, but they can control themselves better than men can. So while your d!ck is about to explode in ecstasy, she's still sizing you up if she wants you to even touch her.
They are the ones who are having to give it up, not the other way around. Stay aloof, keep calm, keep cool, zen brother, zen.
2006-10-25 20:53:35 · answer #7 · answered by MisterO 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
most women wait a while before they go jump in bed with someone but on rare occasion you can find a women who will jump in the bed with you the moment you all meet which most people would call them sluts or more.
2006-10-25 20:50:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
We all want that "eye candy" for sex, but realistically we want to see some sort of a good personality before we do!
2006-10-25 20:50:12 · answer #9 · answered by mustanglady 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she will look and see if you are cute or hot but typically will not think about sex with the guy till she knows him well. sometimes it will take a year or more. so there is the truth happy????????
2006-10-25 20:53:38 · answer #10 · answered by Me, Myself and I 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋