i have to buy a lot of stuff for my classes such as sewing and cooking but havent been able to afford it. my boyfriend said he wanted to help me out and wanted to pay for stuff i needed. i kept telling him no because i dont want to feel like a mooch but he keeps insisting. it wouldnt be that big of a deal, but our relationship is an online relationship. we've been together for 6 months. would it be wrong to let him do this for me? he's the sweetest guy in the world and i know that id do the same for him.
2006-10-25 13:40:40 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
obviously i havent been stupid about this because i havent accepted the money yet. you cant just assume hes a "bad" guy because you havent met him either. not all guys online are bad people.
2006-10-25 14:03:47 · update #1
i do love him and id never take his money for granted. he just doesnt like it when im upset, our relationship is just like everyone elses except we cant be near each other yet.
2006-10-25 14:08:31 · update #2
Sure, but if it makes you feel better you could offer to pay him back. There is nothing wrong with helping each other out.
2006-10-25 13:43:24 · answer #1 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you have an online relationship for 6 months and haven't met him...don't accept money from him because that means you're gonna have to give him information about yourself that you're not supposed to. You want to stay as safe as possible. You don't know him to well to trust him. I've been with my boyfriend for 7years and ended up living with him because now we have a daughter together. He's been giving me money since I was pregnant with his child.
It's hard to trust anyone now-a-days. But if you've met him "in person", not just online, and you feel you can trust him...then accept his gift of giving. He's offering his help to you and that's sooo sweet of him. You may accept his money by telling upfront how you feel about it first. Also, let him know that he shouldn't use it against you. What if one day you both have an argument and he brings up all the money he has given you and makes you feel guilty about it. He might pressure you to return his money. But if you see that he's a kind hearted person, I don't think he'll ever use it against you. Then go ahead and accept his help. I wish you well.
2006-10-25 13:55:23 · answer #2 · answered by Lisa2006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only take it if you are sincere in this relationship. If you truly love him, then go ahead and accept his gift, but don't take advantage, or it will surely come back to you (have you ever heard of Karma?). Do you really love this guy that you only know on line? Have you ever seen a picture of him. Better yet I think you should try to meet in person & then decide if you want to accept his money gift or not. Things can change drasticly once you meet the real "him".
2006-10-25 14:00:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask your parents to help you, or get a part-time job. Don't accept money from strangers over the internet. You feel like a mooch because that's what you'd be doing.
I also think you need a real boyfriend, not some itnernet thing with a guy you've never met.
2006-10-25 13:43:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You may not get something for nothing. He may want you to pay him back, but it won't be greenbacks. You should think about it, because although it starts off very nice, it could get tricky. All guys are nice at some point, but never under estimate a male. Their testosterone levels will kick in. If he keeps on insisting try every other time. Hey if hes really willing and you really need it why not.
2006-10-25 13:46:45 · answer #5 · answered by Keymay 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i would say no , if it is an online relationship only.
You can not honestly say you know this guy if you have not met him, and someone could use this money situation against you at a later date.
You are the only one that knows the answer to this and know what you will really feel comfortable with. First instincts are often the best.
2006-10-25 13:46:23 · answer #6 · answered by sandiemay01 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No dont lend money out! the guideline which you ought to save on with is "do no longer lend out what you could't locate the money for to lose". meaning be arranged that the BF ought to not at all pay you back. are you able to handle dropping six hundred money? in case you cant then dont loan it out. loan out as much as you could fairly locate the money for to lose, like 50 money. If he doesnt savor you dont lend him money! in case you dont believe him then dont lend him money! he's probable employing you and could sell off you whilst he's financially shelter. pay attention!
2016-11-25 20:50:37 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's okay if you only take what you need and have the intention of paying it back. Just be careful things like that can get out of hand!
2006-10-25 13:52:55 · answer #8 · answered by Fireman T 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm going to say no just for the fact that you will be giving him your address.. and if you don't know him, theres a good chance he is not who he says he is and that is a dangerous situation. And if he is going to put it into your bank account then HE** NO! Don't give out any bank info to ANYONE (even a "boyfriend") unless you want to be completely wiped out of all your money.
2006-10-25 13:49:48 · answer #9 · answered by Ashley P 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well as long as your positive of who this guy is, then sure. Lots of men pay for stuff that their girlfriends want.
2006-10-25 13:42:54 · answer #10 · answered by iceclimbers1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋