Never really been in a serious relationship before, and I don't think that I will ever. I don't think I'm good enough...
2006-10-25 13:26:07 · 15 answers · asked by crysilentxtears 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
That's..... let's see.... what's the phrase i'm looking for....
Oh yeah....bull!
You ARE good enough. Look darlin' you don't go looking for love it can find you on it's own and usually when you're not looking for it and believe me i know i once found a girlfriend that lasted more than two years when i was trying to find a girl for someone else, i met a girl i was with for 5 years looking for a cd at a music store.
Just because you don't have someone to snuggle next to at night doesn't mean it will always be that way.
I know a girl who has been sleeping with guy after guy since she was 15. She is now 30 and it took her that long to figure out that she was trying to force a relationship into her life via sex. When all she had to do was take things slow and let someone love her for who she was inside the mind not how she was inside the bedroom.
My wife had dated guys who were basically total losers by her own admission and not worth marrying until she met me and she was in her 30's when we met.
Love will come to you on it's own accord just accept it for what it is when it does and never...NEVER think of yourself as undeserving i even often in my better moments of grace looking at the night sky pray that even the ones who cheated on me or hurt me finally found the special someone to set them on the right path.
Someday sweetness you will too and i'll be very happy for you.
2006-10-25 13:41:36 · answer #1 · answered by sprydle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, that is not true. You are good and worthy enough, any guy would be lucky to have you as a girlfriend. Maybe you should use this downtime time to concentrate on yourself, career, family and friends. Try to do some activities and hobbies to ease the lonely feeling. After, a while guys will be flocking towards you because you have a life, independent, confident and strong. Hang in there, remember nobody really lonely put yourself out there more. There is still hope for a serious relationship you crave.
2006-10-25 13:43:51 · answer #2 · answered by ♥♥Bree♥♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm, not sure if there's really a way to overcome it other than to just not really think about it too much, but I'll just say that you'll probably end up in a serious relationship when you least expect it.
For me, I never had anything serious up until I was 18 and was to the point of giving up looking for a while (especially after a bad experience with a guy), but then a couple months later I started talking to another guy and wasn't even expecting it to end up being a relationship, and now I'm engaged to the guy.
So yeah, just don't give up hope on a serious relationship. I'm sure it'll happen at some point.
2006-10-25 13:34:03 · answer #3 · answered by dc87 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
via fact which you're shy, i might propose commencing out small. once you do universal errands [visit the shop, mass transit in case you dont have a motor vehicle, and so on.], in basic terms say hi to human beings, ask how are they feeling and tell them to have a solid day...bu construction the braveness to chat to universal human beings, you are able to flow on the bigger social circumstances. connect golf equipment or businesses on your city....you need to fulfill human beings there. you additionally can attempt activities bars...adult males do fairly some bonding there and you would be able to fulfill some acquaintances. truthfully, no person won't have a verbal substitute with you...you in basic terms could desire to look friendly and approachable. do no longer communicate too lots approximately your self and be a solid listener. You sound like an exceptional guy, so which you won't have a topic with using human beings away via conceitedness. solid luck. =]
2016-10-02 23:15:28 · answer #4 · answered by lininger 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? 18? 16? 23?
Don't worry. You aren't going to just bypass love.
My husband didn't get into a serious relationship until he was 27 (with me!)
My sister-in-law didn't get into a serious relationship until she was 31 (and that's a push--she's just desperate).
Learn to love yourself, and learn to be independent. You don't need a guy to be happy.
Once you stop being desperate and just enjoying life, guys are going to find you more attractive.
2006-10-25 13:29:26 · answer #5 · answered by FaZizzle 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to think like this. Although my self esteem wasnt as bad as yours is.
Then I met a wonderful man and adopted an beautiful baby. I now have a family, something I never thought I would have.
Life takes us on strange journeys, its just for us to be open to ALL THE POSSIBLITIES.
Keep an open mind. Even if it doesnt happen for you, be happy with YOURSELF.
All the best.
2006-10-25 13:36:24 · answer #6 · answered by roast_breadfruit 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should find things that make you happy. While your out doing these wonderful things you might meet others who enjoy the same things as you. Then you won't be lonely. You could also help others who maybe lonely too.
2006-10-25 13:35:53 · answer #7 · answered by Isabella 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't need another person to complete you. I've been single since 1996 and love every minute of my life without the hassle of tiptoeing around another person. Why are you so afraid of being yourself? Why would anyone want to be with someone as insecure and negative as you? I'm not writing this to be mean, you need to learn to love yourself first. If you don't love yourself, how and why should anyone else? Think about that for awhile.
2006-10-25 13:31:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
There's someone for everyone. Act confident. Keep busy. When you are not looking that is when it happens. Join or do something you genuinely enjoy. Someone who enjoys the same thing would see the sincerity of your interest in the activity and would see the beauty in you.
2006-10-25 13:31:55 · answer #9 · answered by Wondering myself 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yeahh. i`ve never been in a serious relationship too. but don`t worry, it`ll come one day. good luck ! =]
2006-10-25 13:29:27 · answer #10 · answered by ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋