I have gone on a few dates with a guy. The dates went well but the only thing that is bothering me is that he only text messages and never talks to me on the phone. Is there a reason why? I really dont like text messages but i only do it for him. Please help!
2006-10-25 13:15:14 · 8 answers · asked by Makemeahappygirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Men use the phone as a means to communicate information: They are not so good at using it in the emotional way women use it. He may not realise that you prefer verbal reassurance/arrangements.
( Or as the other guy said, he may be a player)
Which do you think is most likely?
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2006-10-25 13:21:35 · answer #1 · answered by mesmerized 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well generally guys are not good at expressing themselves (especially their feelings and emotions) in person and verbally. It is a lot easier to communicate via text messaging or instant messaging, there is a level of separation that often is a level of security for guys. A guy is better able to compose his thoughts and formulate what he is going to say in writing than orally. It takes some time to get a guy to verbalize sometimes.
Why not tell the guy that you like to SPEAK to him between dates! Make him feel more relaxed and he may open up more. Try to spur conversation while on a date, just make sure the subject is not too serious (relationships, future, etc.) to start.
2006-10-25 13:22:37 · answer #2 · answered by LewAR26502 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is not talking to you on the phone, it means he is in a situation where he cannot talk or he cannot be heard to talk. Most likely, he is seeing someone. You are an interest to him at this point but there is somebody else right now. Proceed with caution on this one. Someone you had just started seeing should be excited to hear your voice & carry on long conversations with you. What is preventing him from doing that? That's because HE IS NOT ALONE.
2006-10-25 13:20:41 · answer #3 · answered by Wondering myself 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Pat..and if this guy cannot even TALK to you about this, then it shows just how low of a person he really is..he is being unfair to you, and I can relate to the pain you must be feeling by it. You need to take an honest hard look at your relationship and ask yourself what its built of. You love him..but is he worthy of your love? Don't you deserve someone who will treat you right, who will love only you and who would want to spend their life making you happy? Is he the one? Or is he being selfish and ignorant of the hurt he is putting you through. You NEED to make a decision..and only YOU know trully what is right to do. Just remember to follow your heart and your gut instincts. Good luck xx
2016-05-22 14:07:14 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you let them. You respond to them. You let him give you the crumb of a text message instead of answering back with "I don't respond to text messages. Call me if you have anything to say." The reason is that it takes minimal effort, he has zero interaction with you, and you accept it.
2006-10-25 13:19:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you think of a good way to reject a guy using text message?
2006-10-25 13:17:39 · answer #6 · answered by TearBug 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not trying to be mean, but maybe you talk allot and your bf gets nervous cause he doesn't know what to say sometimes.
2006-10-25 13:21:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is seeing other people LOL
2006-10-25 13:17:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋