my mom is really pissing me off...?

Question

my mom came in my room like 15 min ago and was like if u keep not going ur chores im gonna spank u so i was like ok go away. well im a 13 yr old girl and my mom has never done anything to discipline me like my whole and she thinks that she can just start disciplining now like how is that gonna work. and when u hit a teenager they kinda get more pissed off at u so there would be really no point. i think the reason she is just starting to discipline now is b/c she got a new boyfriend who is really strict and stuff. so ya im getting really pissed off at my mom right now she is really bugging me. like wat can i do to get away from all her nagging and stuff. and is it just me that thinks 13 is a little 2 old to be spanked?

Answer 1

If I acted like that to my mom at 13, she wouldn't of thought twice about baring my butt and spanking the daylights out of me. I did get spanked at that age and they still worked. So you're not too old to be spanked at all. If you would have gotten your butt beat more often growing up, you wouldn't be like this now. So like my parents would say, "quit acting like a child and you'll stop getting treated like one!". Give your mom a break and do what she asks or face the music.

Answer 2

If your mom had disciplined you while you were growing up, you would have learned some respect for her now. I think what's happening is that her new boyfriend sees how spoiled you are and she now realizes she should have been more strict. If she's always been a single mom, they seem to more lenient with their children because it's tough, but in the long run, it backfires on them. It's probably too late to give you a good spanking like you should have, apparently, a long time ago. Do as the others say. Your mom has it rough. Help her instead of giving her so much grief. She has enough on her mind just keeping a roof over your spoiled little head and cloths on your back.

Answer 3

I went through the same thing when I was a teenager. The only time I ever got grounded was because of my mom's boyfriend. I feel bad for you, I wish I had some good advice. I would say to try and talk with her, but sometimes (allot) people can be very blind to the motives behind their actions and get defensive if you try and point it out.

You might try printing what you just wrote and leaving it out so she can read it. Not where she knows you did it on purpose. If she thinks she is on to something it might make her think.

Also, try and go with the flow, I know it sucks, but the more you fight it the more it will just make you miserable. Believe it or not discipline is a good thing, and even though your mom sounds pretty clueless, life is tough and even tougher when you are not disciplined. My mom did not give me good discipline and I have really struggled with it. Doing chores and stuff will help you when you are older and on your own.

I have been where you are and I know it sucks, but it sounds like you are really gonna have to make choices that will work out best for yourself, of course a job your mom should be doing.

You may also consider talking to a counselor at school, even if just to get your resentment off your chest.

Good luck to you kid.


Wow, I just read some of the answers and it sounds like most people are missing the point. Your mom is just doing this for her boyfriend, I can understand why you feel resentment. If she never disciplined you before why start now. Sorry so many have no clue. You are just a kid, your mom should grow up.

One more thing, I am a single mom and I will never put the resposability for helping me get by on my daughter. Kids are kids and it's my job to take care of her, not her job to take care of me!

Answer 4

You could do your chore and then try to go the extra mile and do some extra stuff. She would get off your case. It is hard for a single mom but remember that she is your best friend for life also. he just does not have the know how to deal with a teen. Yes spanking a teen is too much, taking your privaledges work better. Do what you need to do and stay out of her hair and all will be just fine

Answer 5

Cool your jets and listen to what she is trying to tell you. The biggest problem with young people today is that they are not responsible and have little respect. Your mom is trying to pass on to you what it is to be responsible by giving you chores to do. What do you think its like holding a job??

Do you think things just do themselves??? When I was a teenager, I thought I knew everything and my parents were dumb as a bucket of dead worms. Then I went out in the world and had to work for a living and found out, they were pretty damn smart after all.

Sit down and talk with your mom, keep and open mind and listen and learn some of the most important things you will need in life.

Answer 6

The roof over your head is put there by your Mom. Don't disrespect her by telling her to get out; 13 is not old but even Moms can say things that they shouldn't. Cut down on the tension by helping her out by doing the things that you should; Don't say things that you can't take back; for a while you may be at odds with your Mom but she is your Mom. Be patient - It is tough when someone is brought in , be patient. Show how mature you can be by not over-reacting. If you want to be treated as older then do the things that you are suppose to without having to be asked or yelled at to do it. That is the sign of maturity.

Answer 7

first you need to grow up and respect your mother.
do your chores and you wouldnt have that problem
secondly my mum was also like that when she had a new boyfriend and i was upset and pissed off but if you just do as she says and be nice and polite even if your fighting then she looks like a mean person and you have done nothing wrong.
thirdly and lastly you are never to old to be spanked. though i dont agree with spanking at all it is wrong.
she should punish you with more chores.

Answer 8

Seems to me that your mom don't like spanking, since you have never had one before... I suggest since she pays all your bills, you should just do your chores. After you do your chores, then you have time to play on the Internet. She won't nag you anymore if you just do your chores and appreciate the home and family that you have.

Answer 9

Well as a mother of three, you should really do what mom says instead of having this power struggle with her. She IS the parent and deserves to be respected by her child. My son is 13 and I would not hesitate to put him over my knee if he was not listening to my rules. I too never really stuck to my guns as my children were growing up and now that I am it's a whole new ballgame for all of us. You all learn to adapt to the change.
Give mom the respect she deserves and you'll be fine!

Answer 10

Hi i am 14. My dad is the same way....Hes like well ur 14 now and not to old 4 spankings.my mom and him go into a fight about it.Anyway's I cant tell u what to do but i just ignore it and if it continues, figure out a solution.