my son is 3. he will not go the bathroom by himself. If i put him on the potty he will pee but has never pooed. But if i dont put him on the potty he will go in his pull up. whats going on...
when will he go on his own
2006-10-25 12:59:54 · 11 answers · asked by Linds 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
i found that with my 3 boys that i put them in reg. underwear with batman Thomas etc.. on backwards and sat them on the potty backwards so they can hold the tank and then they didn't want to get batman dirty or wet so they went potty and felt safe good luck
2006-10-25 14:30:54 · answer #1 · answered by mar 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only he can control when he goes potty and that is a heavy dose of control for a 3 yr old. Have you tried giving him a 'treat" every time he goes potty ? (A sticker chart works great for this)
You can only encourage, if he feels you are making this a battle of the wills he will win. (since there is no way you can MAKE him go potty) Always reward, never pressure and I'm sure you will be watching him go potty from the other room soon.
3 is pretty young to be going potty by theirself anyway. Although it's an appropriate age range for going potty after telling you of the need or you putting him on the potty.
Good luck with potty training.
2006-10-25 20:05:41 · answer #2 · answered by Ticia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is important for you to remember that all children develop at their own rate. It is normal for a number of 3 year olds to be uncomfortable, still, with using the potty, and peeing almost always comes sooner than pooping! Most children, through peer pressure (as bad as that sounds, this is GOOD peer pressure!!) at daycare or preschool, positive reinforcement, and just growing up, have themselves completely potty trained during the DAY by age 5. It is completely normal, as well, for night time training to take as long as until age 7 or 8!!
Some ideas to help you, though, are as follows....
1-Since he's a boy, try having a man show him how to pee standing up. This may seem "cooler" and encourage him to do so on his own. Then give him cheerios, in a small bowl, beside the toilet, always there so he can do it himself, and let him aim at them. This makes peeing fun!
2-Remember that pull-ups are made much like diapers, and are not really the best way to go for proper potty training. The disposable training pants soak up urine, making less of a mess for you to clean up, but also making it more comfortable than regular underwear if your son has an accident. For some children, just having the experience of actually feeling wet a few times is enough to foster a desire to go pee by themselves.
3-Remember that your son is NOT doing anything wrong! It just takes time, and some children need longer than others. The first step is to get him peeing by himself, and then try to get the pooping in there.
4-Pay attention to your son's bowel movements! Does he go at the same time everyday? If so, a few minutes before the regular drop off point, go to the potty and wait there for a while. If the bowel movements aren't regular, try watching for signs that he is about to go, such as hiding, squatting, etc...and then take him potty.
Most importantly, just keep trying. I promise that there has never been an otherwise completely normal 20 year old who still wears diapers!
2006-10-25 20:10:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't pressure or get angry with him. Cheerios also work for them to aim at. I also use underwear while at home. My son doesn't really like the wet feeling in underwear. Also, don't let people tell you that just b/c he is 3, he should be potty trained all ready. Every child is different from another. Also, be persistent in asking him if he has to go & also consistent. Don't have him where underwear one day & then diapers/pull-ups only the next day.
2006-10-26 01:38:28 · answer #4 · answered by 7kb13 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every kid is different. He will "get it" when he is ready.
We used rewards with the 2 I have potty trained (my youngest is only 15 months). My daughter got M&M's everytime she went, and then only when she pooped and then not at all once she really got the hang of it. My son used a sticker chart. He liked to see his progress.
Good luck.
2006-10-25 20:09:42 · answer #5 · answered by tessasmomy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My sons doctor told me that boys go when they want to. My oldest son didn't start going on the potty till 4 months before he turned 4. I know it's aggrivating, but boys are stubborn, and lazy. lol, just like men!
2006-10-25 22:52:45 · answer #6 · answered by Amie P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He should be going already. My daughter went at 13 months and my son at about 17 months. You just have to be patient and sit with them. Give them a time schedule. Usually after they eat, or get done playing. I used a raised stepping stool for my son to reach the toilet. That might help.
2006-10-25 20:11:58 · answer #7 · answered by sandra g 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe he needs a father influence. We as mothers can only do so much to show our kids how to do those things. Maybe be a little graphic and show him poo. He will eventually catch on so don't worry so much.
2006-10-25 20:11:05 · answer #8 · answered by Maggie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like a power struggle. the more you put pressure on him, the longer he will poop in his pull ups. the good news, this won't last forever. so just stop putting pressure on him and try to give out prizes and praises. keep on asking every other hr if he needs to go poopy. good luck!
2006-10-25 20:37:43 · answer #9 · answered by Miki 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea eventually he will is just ht ups and downs of potty training
2006-10-26 21:02:24 · answer #10 · answered by chuy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋