I didnt want to be confirmed mainly because I felt like my relationship with God and the issues I was dealing with my faith in general was just horrible, worse than ever. My parents didnt like the idea of me not getting confirmed like all the little "angels" in my church and school. The nice thing was, my parents did the right thing...they left ME the choice of getting confirmed. I was made to attend the classes and all, and from what I had gathered, going through confirmation was all about your decision to be confirmed into the catholic community...correct me if I am wrong. And my friends who were MADE to go through confir. didnt want to either. So how was this their ultimate choice? If I were to go through con. then nothing would have changed because this was practically forced..a simple oil wont do anything for you. So to get down to the main question, as parents or anyone..is confirmation really a "choice" when you MAKE you kid do it?
2006-10-25 12:46:17 · 8 answers · asked by timcurrysfan 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
i give you credit for seeming to know your own mind and wanting to explore more. kudo'salso to your parents for not forcing the decision upon you! while i am a practicing catholic myself - when i was your age - i did it becasue it was what i was supposed to do! thankfully, for me, i've decided now that it was the right thing for me.
no matter what your choices in the denomination you use to help you along your path -- just remember to keep Christ along side!
God Bless you now & always!!
2006-10-25 13:03:28 · answer #1 · answered by Marysia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's just about the same as any other choice your parents make for you, out of love and concern for your welfare.
You're just going through a rebellious stage at the moment, and having trouble figuring out who you really are.
That's why confirmation is done around your age.
The oil is just the outward sign of the sacrament.
It's the grace that really matters.
Nobody can ever get enough grace, and grace is really what builds a relationship with God, and informs the intellect.
If I were you, I would do it anyway.
Not being confirmed might hold up your marriage arrangements someday.
It will be a lot of extra trouble to get confirmed later, once you actually understand the need and the reason for it.
It costs nothing. It won't hurt. And it might keep your tender backside out of hell.
All good reasons to rethink your decision.
2006-10-25 13:06:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG, this happened in my parish too! I quit confirmation class, and redid it later, because the stuff we were being given was total infantile bulldoings, and only one guy out of 12 confirmands still goes to church because bothered to check out his faith on his own. Isn't that like one of the worst things you can do? I mean, to force someone through confirmation and then, after they have been forced to make a solemn oath of devotion to God, to let them quite rightly reject the stupidity and non-examination and so be technically rejecting those vows... It doesn't mean anything to you if you are simply regurgitating words. So, no, it's not a choice of a life involving religion: it's being pressganged.
2006-10-25 12:57:35 · answer #3 · answered by Reinvention 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it's not. And in fact, it can be grounds for considering the sacrament invalid. Confirmation is just that. If it doesn't actually confirm anything, then the seal is void. It's going through the sacrament under false pretenses.
2006-10-25 12:49:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If they were forced to then the confirmation is invalid.
You are only confirmed in Christ through your own free will.
Their parents messed up.
2006-10-25 12:52:03 · answer #5 · answered by Max Marie, OFS 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The term "Roman" is a pejorative, in basic terms like "papist" or "Popish." It replaced into an insult devised with the help of Protestants and isn't any longer used with the help of people who understand its unfavorable context Jesus Himself based the Catholic Church while He gave all religious authority to St. Peter. The term "catholic" potential regularly occurring, and till the 1500's, all Christians have been contributors of the Catholic faith. It replaced into in basic terms after Luther's chop up with the Church that Christianity replaced into divided into 2 communities: Catholicism and Protestantism. it is likewise while the "Nanny nanny boo boo, we are the actual Christians and you papist Roman Catholics are not" malarky began. .
2016-10-02 23:11:32 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No...obviously. If a parent MAKES their child do it, then it isn't their choice now is it?
2006-10-25 12:53:20 · answer #7 · answered by mesquitemachine 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That would NOT be a choice...
2006-10-25 12:48:58 · answer #8 · answered by Tim 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋